Not getting along with your in-laws??

Well inlaws come as bonus with ur spouse. Many times it is difficult to adjust with them. First thing you have to realize how important they are to ur spouse. If he/she loves them a lot, u cannot avoid them. You hav to be good with them. Or ur life will be screwed up. You also need to find out what makes you dislike them. You can speak with ur spouse if something is making you uncomfortable. Small compromises are always required in a relationship. If you love ur spouse, u should be ready for that.

My story is kind of peculiar, in that, before my husband and I were engaged, his mother and I were SUPER close. She always told me she loved me, hugged me constantly, considered me her other daughter, sent gifts, cards, letters, emails, and phone calls all the time. I'd spend weeks at a time at her house. And then after we got engaged, it all pretty much stopped. I still don't know why, other than "I stole her first born away from her," which is what everyone pretty much decided was the case. But it's frustrating! My suggestion is to keep on trying, not give up, and if they get on your case, ignore them. I always talked to my husband about it, and his comment was usually "it doesn't matter. don't let them bug you. my opinion is the only one that matters and I love you most of all." Hope that helps!

I found I didn't get along with my husbands sisters for a long while, but I think now that they're finally starting to accept me. Or, at least, they're keeping their opinions quiet.

This may not work for everyone, I screen my calls with caller ID. I don't answer if they call and I make him tell them I am working when he talks to them. His family is extremely rude and they are plain white trash. I avoid his family functions. We send holiday cards and birthday cards and always include a gift card. Best of luck

try to be as good as possible. watever they say just keep quite. respect them. help them if u get a chance to. slowly they'll change. but it would take some time. and have patience. time would definitely solve the problem.

I have this difficulty - my husband's family doesn't care for me. I have issues you see I'm bipolar and its been a long haul 0ver the years for my husband who loves me dearly and its seems his family doesn't care that I come first to my husband. I try always to be kind, friendly and not engage in any discussions that are "sensitive" to his family members, but I am truthful. With holidays and such, I take my own vehicle to the "get together" stay an appropriate amount of time for me and then leave, my husband will usually stay a few hours longer. We (my husband and I) have just learned accept the fact that they don't care for me and I don't want to be around them - we don't make an issue of it we just move on.