NO! I won't be your friend!!!

When I get friend requests in, I look at their friends list and make sure there are no known spammers on their list. If there is a known one, I deny the request. I'm noticing that spammer discussions are being cleaned up as I'm losing points. I usually only accept friend requests from specific countries,ages and discussion topics in their profiles, as well as their interests.

I never used to be particular about who I accepted on my friend list. I just accepted everyone. But this past weekend I went through my friend list and deleted those that didn't have topics that interested me any or I never had heard anything from since they joined my friend list. So from now on I plan on being a bit more picky on who I add and don't add to my list. I learned my lesson.

In the beginning, I didn't know much about myLot, so I accepted people that requested. But since learning that some people make this into a popularity contest, I scrutinize more. I also look at the person's profile to see if they have responded to any of my discussions. And 9 times out os 10, they have not. So, I will deny the person. Because to me, it is just someone that saw my post that popped up and requested in hopes that I will respond to their discussions. But why should I be a friend to someone that is not interested in friendship? Now, my friend list is a bit lager than I thought it would be. And the great thing about it, I can say that I have seen these people respond to me and I have them all on notify so that I may respond to them. Also, when I make a new friend, I commonly go through all their discussions so the person knows I am interested in being what a friend should be here at myLot. Great discussion!!! :)

I get the same kind of friend requests. I always look and see the profile of whoever wants to be my friend. I had one person send me a friend request and they were a gay-bashing conservative fundie. I'm a liberal lesbian. Why would I want to be their friend? Why would they want to be my friend? People just don't think or pay attention. I'll friend people who I've spoken to in discussions and who post topics that interest me.

These are my feelings too.

Yea I can be picky.. I usually go for the people whom I respond too the most in their discussions.. For me, I like to have some kind of connection..lol *sounds Gruesome dont it* I like my friends in my list cos they actually TALK to me.. and send me messages.. Im not just another face on mylot..

also dont lik approve many of such requests.

I'm still new with mylot & still not comfortable in asking others to be my friend. I have had a few people invite me, I first check their friend list to see if there are anyone I know from my friend list or my exsisting friends list. I have denied people that have nothing at all in common with me. But most times I will give people a week or so to see what there posts are like, if Not my style will delete them.

I am a bit particular in who I accept as a myLot friend, and who I attempt to become friends with. I like to surround myself with similar minds, not necessarily opinions, but more of a type of ethic--if you know what I mean. So when I get one of these friend invites, I will generally go to their profile and navigate some of their discussions to see if they are here for the right reasons (not a cheater or scammer). I will also navigate some of the discussions they have been to and I will see how thoughtful they are on average with respect to the responses given. I want substance in my friends lol. I don't have to agree with their opinions but I want them to be able to have them and express them in a way that reflects quality. I think I've responded to several of your discussions. I'm not going to respond to them all, because maybe I don't know enough about the subject to give my full attention to it, and I don't like responding for the sake of doing so. It's like in real life, do you surround yourself with friends that have no substance to offer to the friendship? Hopefully not lol.

Well Okay then . . . You don't want to be My friend. Did you imagine you were someone extra special . . . I don't think you are. We live and learn . . . With friends like you who would need any enemies . . .

When I log on to myLot, I firstly respond to almost everyone who has responded to my discussions. I think that if they have made the effort to respond, they deserve a comment. Secondly, I check "discussions my friends have started" and try to respond to at least some some of each friend's discussions. Now, if I have accepted too many friends, or friends who post empty discussions or friends who never respond to my discussions, I have to wade through pages of discussions to find ones I really want to respond to. Because of this, I check out the profiles of ones who have requested to be a friend before accepting or denying, and I delete ones who don't meet the criteria. I do not only accept friends who think they same way I do. They are good friends, but I also accept good debaters even if I don't agree with them. I am a passionate Christian who naturally enthuses about the life I have in Christ, but I have some very good myLot friends who say they are atheists. We are able to respect each other's opinions and have a lot of fun in debating. In fact, I would even say that the so-called atheists are the first ones I respond to because they are known for their intelligent discussions and responses. I also support your advice to use the response buttons on every posting. I give a "-" to all one word answers and report those whose answers have no relation to the topic or who I've found to copy and paste responses from others. I give a "+" to every response which sets forth a logical reply, whether or not I agree with the contents. Anyone who has bothered to reply with a little thought should receive a "+". Thanks for a good topic, which should help all new users and clarify things for more seasoned users if they read through all the responses.

I am quite choosy in who I accept as a friend at myLot, but I can sometimes be lenient. I indeed check the profile and the topics started by those who request to be my friend. If there's nothing offensive or just plainly stupid, I usually accept this virtual friendship and give everyone a chance. However, if I realise that most of the topics started by the new 'friend' are just inane blabber to generate many silly answers and make money, I simply delete the person from my list. Likewise, I only request friendship from people whom I've seen debate intelligently in various discussions, regardless of whether they share my opinions and views or not. After all, discussing if what we're here for, and there's no really good discussion without varying opinions.

What is a friend to you? I am quite new here at mylot, if i came accross one topic i have responded to, like you, I sometimes go to your profile check you out and post invitation, that was how i gained friends, how about you. Have you tried inviting friends and they did not accept you? How did you feel

As I am new here at Mylot, this being only my third day, I am not being very particular about friends and am adding anyone who asks, because I only have about three or four friends on here so far. However, if I should start to accrue too large of a list, I will start to weed out those 'friends' who don't post interesting topics or that I haven't come to know better in that space of time. There are a few people on here who's discussions I really like and should ask to add me as a friend, but I would like to repsond to more of their discussions first so that they might remember me and understand _why_ I want to be their friend. So I am not really approaching a lot of people out of the blue on here, myself. I don't see the point in it. But I will accept anyone for now, if they ask! ^_^

I have several people on my friends list. I only have the notify on the ones who answer my post or who post interesting topics. There are only 3 or 4 of them that I've ever sent a message to or received a message from. when i get a friends request I go through & check there post to see if I've answered one of there qustions or to see if they answered one of mine. I'd like to know why they requested me as a friend. It would be good if mylot made a change. Were when you request someone as a friend you have to add a messasge in your request to tell them why you want to be add. For example, someone may say that they want you as a friend because they found your post on being a race fan interesting or that you share alot of hobbies such as fishing & hunting. You get the idea. What do you think? Should mylot add this feature? Maybe if several people write to them & suggest it they would add it....

i have same fellings like you...well i generally find the friends which belongs to my region..well i don't give much importance regarding the accumulation of friends..i have jined mylot to improve my english; to get useful information from members like you;and to earn money.. for the friends particularly i will go for community like orkut,hi5 etc.. nice topic....i expecting '+' from you for my post

I get so many friend requests. I wonder how they find out about me. I know I probably shouldn't , but I approve pretty much everyone. I guess I should be more selective.

Im not particular but i should be , i have all these friends and maybe 2 of them actually reply to my discussions. Infact sunshine im gonna go through my discussions and see how many of my friends have replied..then im gonna go do some cleaning up..thank you for bringing this topic to my attention.

Hi, I agree with you. I post responses to certain subjects and expect that if someone requests to be my friend that they have similar interests. I think that some people just ask to be your friend so that you will respond to their discussions and make them more money. I enjoy reading and responding to mylot discussions because they are interesting, not because I think I'm going to get rich. Mylot is not going to get anyone rich quick.

u r absolutely rite...no need to add all those guys who wants to add u as their friend ,so that they can increase the number of friends..now that i've erplied to ur discussion,would u mind adding me as a friend??