sister's wedding
By pbrown042
@pbrown042 (50)
United States
September 29, 2006 9:31am CST
I have a question. My sister and her fiance have decided to get married overseas and want their guests to fund their own trip down there. Should we be irritated that they didn't think about asking everyone if they had that kind of money or should I just let them do what they want since it's their wedding. I only ask cause I am the maid of honor and I definitely can't afford to go. What should I tell her? It's getting closer and closer to the big day, but I just had a baby and I have other priorities right now. What to do?
2 responses
@Jshean20 (14348)
• Canada
10 Oct 06
They both must understand that people can't just up and go to a wedding overseas, especially if they weren't given a lot of notice. I can understand that it would be a bummer not to make it to your sisters wedding, but it's her day and if she's chosen to have it somewhere far away, hopefully she can understand why you cannot attend.Also, maybe they didn't think to ask people if they had that kind of money, because they made the decision that they were getting married there regardless of whether or not people could come. That was the situation when my sister got married, you were invivted but not expected to be there if it wasn't possible.
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
1 Oct 06
It is a rule of thumb that people would pay their own way to get to the wedding. However, she should have asked you if you could afford it before requesting you as the maid of hoonor. Usually people get married other places to keep the wedding party small. Since you can't afford it, call her and explain your situation. She can't be mad at you because she probably knew when she planned the wedding that you wouldn't be able to afford to go.
