My step child is driving me crazy!!

Thank you for understanding me, brendalee. Hugs to you. My husband is the same. He realizes there is a problem since the boy won't go to school, work, or try to move out. He just keeps eating and asking for money which we give him only on a very very tight approval... Anyway, if I do bring up the subject, my husband says, well if your boys lived here you wouldn't want them to move out. My boys have been working for their own money and buying their own junk food and clothing since they were 11 and 12. They are now almost 15 and 16. They don't live with me and when they are with me they help with a few dollars for food and gas for the car as they like to go to the mall etc. Hubby's son gets rides all over town every day and hubby pays for all the gas. I never PUSHED my kids, they just have enough self respect to do these things to advance themselves in life. My stepson is supposed to be in his last term of high school and he already stayed behind one year a while back. He won't be able to stay in the school after this year. He will need to pay for adult ed...and I can just imagine if he wants to do this, Dad's retirement pension that is 300 a month short NOW is going to have to stretch even further!! I am at the end of my rope...

He has no intentions of moving out. He has made it quite clear he intends to keep living here as long as we are paying his grocery bill. He never wants to go out and look for a job, go to school or even help around the house. I literally have to dust and vacuum around him. His dad and I have talked till we are blue in the face. Since moving in he's gained well over 100 lbs, no wonder the way he eats. We have spoken with doctors, teachers and guidance counselors. Want him?