Avoiding them...or the Drama???

Well I think you should talk with your friends from high school, only because they were once your friends and they would be confused as to why you don't anymore. Have you made new friends at college and just don't have the things in common anymore with your old friends? I guess I am speaking of my own scenario-I moved away from my home state right after high school and cannot run into anyone randomly in public anymore. I miss my friends dearly-it has been nearly 9 years now. I would love the opportunity to hang out with my friends like I used to , but now I only have the e-mail and messenger option as a way of communication.

I don't find it weird..... Sometimes we just reach a point in our lives where we make a decision to go one way or another. As long as you are happy within yourself and do have some sort of social network what is the issue? I do not have any friends whatsoever from my school days that I keep in contact with. If I do see one in the street or at a function or whatever I am always friendly and chat about "old times" etc we always say that we should keep in touch etc but we never do! Life has many unexpected twists and turns and you never know where it will take you. As long as you are not rude or arrogant.....

no that is not wierd at all in fact I am the same as you in fact most people are like this. I only talk to one of my friends from high school. I think we lose touch with others because we move on we act like adults and not kids that goof of like we all did in the day. I to thnk about these things but I feel as if I will just keep the one friend we have never faught and I am the only one she still talks to. So you are normal but if you want you could contact them.

No it is not weird, I am the same way and the older I get the less and less I feel that I would like to talk or contact anyone from my High School time. I went to my 5yr class reunion, just to go I guess. I saw ppl I had not spoken to in 5 yrs and had a good time. Did I keep in contact with any of them? Nope, I didn't even give out my contact info. I didn't go to my 10yr this yr, I had no want nor care what those ppl are doing. I think that is a life that I am done with. I am a completly different person now. I have seen friends reconnect with their old high school friends and they change alot, like they were back in High school or something. They act like they did, talk like they did etc. I am not trapped in the past, and do not want to be. I think alot of ppl out there probably think the same way. Friendships are great, I value them alot, just am not interested in those times.

Well, I talk to most of the people that I knew in high school, and I have to tell you it's good to stay in touch. It's good to know how everyone's lives turned out, and how everyone's lives are going. It's also good to remember the old times with those friends, and if you stay in touch with them, you wont feel apprehensive when you meet them for the reunion. I think you should get in contact with those people, because you never know when you're going to talk to them or see them again. Better now, then never.

You don't have to keep in touch with people from high school just because you were friends then. People change. It's better to avoid people you don't want to associate with. You may not even go to your high school reunion, and if you do and you are shocked thats normal. Because by then everyone will look different and have different lives. I know I won't be going to my high school reunion.

I have always cherished my friends, even the ones I had back in high school. I tried to keep in touch with my close friends but only one of them have always been around. Ive ran into old friends in a store and have had them act stuck up and like they are too good to talk to me now and it can be hurtful. I think its interesting to find out where all of your old friends are now. Im 29 now by the way...

For that reason, maybe you should keep intouch with them. Even it's just once every few months you call them to say hi and ask if they wanna go to lunch or the mall or ya know something like that. At your reunion you don't want them to be like, she's the one that avoided us and you be left standing by yourself at your reunion.

I have noticed the same thing recently. Friends that I have had for years I ahve kind of seperated from since I moved to finish school. I think its just the older you get your priorities change and friends are'nt so important anymore.

it is natural, i think to grow over ur friends. as time goes on we move into different directions. u are not doing anything. even if u cannot be friends again, why shy away from saying hello occassionally? keep in touch.

I don't think that it is in any way strange that there are people from your school days that you no longer feel the pull to associate with. We all grow and change as people, and there are friends that will stick with us forever and other people that are meant to come into our lives for a time and then we will probably never see them again. I get your point about seeing said people again at school reunions, but I cannot imagine that it will be that big of a shock to see someone again at such a function just because you haven't spoken in awhile. After all, that is kind of what the reunions are for, aren't they? To catch up with people that you haven't seen in a long time! *laugh* I think that it would be more fun, really, not to see said people for awhile and then to meet up with them again after so long and see how much they have changed. ^_^ The internet has certainly given us the means and the ways to keep in touch with pretty much everyone from all over the globe. Who knows if this is good or bad, in an overall sense. Sometimes there are people who we would never want to lose touch with who move halfway across the world. Other times there are people who live next door who we wish we never had to see again *laugh* But in any case, just because you have the means to contact or talk to someone doesn't mean that you should feel pressured to! If you want to talk to someone, great. If you don't, don't. That's about as simple as it gets! *laugh*

ya in my school days i also used to avoid people whom i do not like to talk to simply because i did not want to quarrel or misbehave as i did not like to talk to them and if i talked i was bound to have a quarrel with them.

I'm still wondering when my school reunion will be. It will be nice to see how everyone is doing. My high school reunion will probably be in the middle east, so I would have to travel there, and that will be fun too. I think you should stay in touch with all your friends, because those are the people you knew before you really began your life.

I can't stand drama magnets. It's like they're bored with life in general. I barely have time to do much of anything with 3 jobs and single parenting an awsome 11 year old boy that I homeschool! I wouldn't go back to high school for anything! Lela

May be that is the way u think and people do change some change for the better some change for the worst that's it

I have hardly seen any high school classmates since we graduated

I am in touch via email with 2 good friends from highschool, i dont find it weird you have moved on, matured and found new friends.

No. Its part of life, you'll meet along the way. Some stay some go. That's just teh way it is.

I think you just wanted to face a new life today that's why you're trying to ignore their invitations. I've been into that situation where it seems like I don't feel like talking to my old friend in highschool, evrything has changed and we don't have any connection with each other since hs grad. It seems like were strangers again and to chat whatis happening to us right now seems boring for me.