Family business, good or bad?
By ladysurvivor
@ladysurvivor (4746)
Malaysia
January 4, 2007 1:18am CST
My family have a business running a motivational camp. But the business was set up by my father without the approval of us as the children. And he really hoped us to run the business. I tried to help him but because he doesn't let me make decisions for the company, I let go of my position and quit altogether. My father is not a good businessman and now he's relying on outsiders to run his business. The funny thing is, when outsiders suggest anything he will 100% accept the idea without a second thought. This makes me surrender and let things be the way it is. Do you have any opinion on this? What should I do now?
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6 responses
@wmg2006 (5381)
• United States
7 Jan 07
I think what you did by walking away was the best thing for you and your Father. It sounds like he did not want a partner he just wanted someone he could boss around and control. I would never be able to work for family if I could not have some say so in the business.
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@ladysurvivor (4746)
• Malaysia
10 Jan 07
Yeah, it's true and the minute I read your writing tears start rolling down my cheeks. But what the heck. Life still goes on and I don't give a thought about it anymore. I just want to help him but at least can't he give me some respect. In fact I am his own blood and flesh. Well, life is never fair and I accept everything that happened to me.
@vicky19810 (1600)
• China
4 Jan 07
I think you should do what you like,but if you like ,you could help your father.wish you success.
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@ladysurvivor (4746)
• Malaysia
10 Jan 07
Actually I do like doing business but not a motivation camp. If he opens a restaurant or a motel, I will definitely help him even if he looks down on me. I feel guilty now for not helping him but he's giving me the pressure when he trust outsiders more than me.
@ssh123 (31073)
• India
3 Aug 07
Most parents who start a business, expect the continuity of the business by their children and grand children. But due to changing economic conditions, higher education and greater opportunities to earn more, many children do not wish to continue their parental business. If the parents are alive, they feel great disappointment at this. But one cannot help decide to choose the career or business of their own.
@vicky19810 (1600)
• China
4 Jan 07
I think you should do what you like,but if you like ,you could help your father.wish you success.
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@manzum78 (16)
• Malaysia
2 Aug 07
Be patient anyway.Sometimes we just have to let it go...i know it's hard because they're our parent right? We love them so much...just be a good daughter/son, help them when they get into the trouble sooner or later they'll understand, just a matter of time
@ladysurvivor (4746)
• Malaysia
3 Aug 07
Every time they are having a problem, they would tell about it to me and naturally I would help them. But after that, my voice was not accepted again. I just don't understand, they want me to help but not using my idea. It doesn't make sense at all.
@funkymummy (55)
• Malaysia
3 Aug 07
sometimes people take thing for granted especially from the person that they love because they don't realise that the great thing is right infront of their eyes. but then they still looking for an outsider to realise the good thing. but still it is good if you willing to help your father in this business because usually in a business, family member will last long.
