have you ever been bullied, if so how did you deal with it?
By champ4ever
@champ4ever (90)
January 4, 2007 11:10am CST
hello their my mylot friends. basically bullying is one of the worst memory's in some people lives, it could be mental bullying, physical bullying, any sort of bullying. i used to get bullied when i was at school, in the juniors, i must of been about ten years old at the time. i never stood up for myself at that sort of age, i was told by mum that violence escelates problems. it got to a point where it had to end, i was getting my head smashed into a wall, my hair pulled, punched, you name it, it happened. it was the worst time of my life. my mum was always down the school complaining. one day i flipped, i could'nt handle it anymore, i had to fight back,and thats what i did. after fighting back believe it or not we became friends rather quickly, and that's how i handled getting bullied, and i have neverbeen bullied since.
was you ever bullied, if so how did you handle it?
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@greenbunny (43)
• Singapore
5 Jan 07
back when i was a kid, yeah! but not that much. there are just bored people that does that. so just completely ignore them and they'll go away. but if they do not and insists - i usually report them to the faculty members hehehe!
@pendragon (3348)
• United States
5 Jan 07
A kid in grade school would try and show off in front of his friend, they were both on bicycles, and i walked to school so the show-off kid would ride over my feet. one day i clothes lined him off the back off his bile with my back pack. He never did it again. It was a very satisfying thing.
@pendragon (3348)
• United States
5 Jan 07
*off the back of his "bike". Sorry for the disgusting typo,lol.
@chimex4real2k2 (1853)
• Nigeria
4 Jan 07
i have been bullied when in secondary skool i had the bully reported and he was dealt with..
@nickventere (1420)
• Zambia
5 Jan 07
I recall at age 10, playing in a neighbourhood group of 7 kids. The big bully was about 2 years older than most of us in the group. He used to make us pay him some fee on an every day basis. You don't pay, you are introuble. And we really were consistent with this "homage"!
Now, one fateful day (for him), I thought of putting a stop to it. Not that I had planned it, but because I had used up the coins I had on something else. And he found me with some other kids. Every one paid the tribute, but for me. He pushed me, scorned me. I almost cried, but boiled inside. Then he slapped me. He had done that before.
But on this day, I hit him back. It was a blow, and he went reeling to the ground.
He got up, cursed. I was scared, like "Oh my God, what have I done?!"
But i got courageous although the other kids were just quiet, sorry for me.
He charged towards me, I ducked and proffered a good one to his brow. He went some steps back. I lunged at him, head butt...
After 5 minutes, he was bleeding from the nose and pleading with me. He was actually crying for help from the other kids.
From that day onwards, Fear (that is what we called him among the group, but he was Philip) was no more. I became leader of the pack!
At 39 (I'm 37) he is still humiliated by that "little" fight. Sadly though, he was a spoiled kid and never did much academically. He is totally an underdog, unfortunately, but that makes him more humiliated as he calls me "Sir" the few moments we have met, usually when I sit at the table and drink with his boss, my peer now!
@Peaches1122 (470)
• United States
4 Jan 07
I feel so bad for anybody that has been bullied. I grew up fighting for those who could not fight back. I was constantly kicking kids butts for bullying but they never learned. I was the popular jock and hung in the "IN" crowd but I never let my friends bully someone around me. They most likely did it when I was not around, though. I used to be so amazed that after I would beat some bully down for picking on some poor kid (who was usually smaller with no self asteem) that the bully never learned his lesson. They would do it again and again. My mom used to tell me to let people fight their own battles but I am not wired that way. I used to give them the chance to handle it on their own but then I would usually jump in. Friends would tell me to mind my own business but I told them to shove it. If everyone just stands by and watches then we just suck. Help the little guy out. Karma will repay you for doing a good deed. Never stand silent when you see someone being bullied. I get pissed just thinking about some little 3rd grader getting pushed around by some loser 5th grader who needs to make him feel better by bullying. It does not just affect kids. I am a bouncer on the weekends and I am constantly pulling some drunk bonehead off another bonehead but every once in awhile, I get a bully come into the club. I watch them and it is just they are in grade school again. They sit there and look for some guy who is different and they swoop in for the kill. I enjoy roughing those guys up but it will not change their behavior. If I knew how to change their behavior, I would. But until then, I will keep up my approach. Many say that what I do is no different than that of the bully ... I beg to differ. Tell that to someone who has been bullied and they would differ, as well.
Do not stand by idle when you see someone getting bullied. Help that person. You will be a better person in the long run.
@Peaches1122 (470)
• United States
4 Jan 07
Another note ... my wife was picked on as a child so this is even more personal to me. I have read that many who were bullied learned the power of words. Language is a deadly weapon if used correctly. I can hurt someone with some proper placed words, too. But remember, a bully might just get frustrated and still physically hurt someone so please do not stand by idle when you see this happening. Would you want someone to stand idle while a bully attacked someone you love? I think not.
@inovator (603)
• Philippines
5 Jan 07
in my grade school time most of my classmates are bully!specialli my seatmate,,,at the start i feel so angry every time he teas me!but later on ill just realize that teres no happen when i response him,im just quite and dont mind him,so he looks like crazy...hehehe
@evlo173 (434)
• United States
5 Jan 07
I have been bullied; it started when I remember I was 2 and Grandma started saying mean things to me and Mom didn't do anything about it, she just had a smirk on her face.Then the people in the neighborhood bullied me, and no one did anything about it; I was bullied started in kindergarten, The teacher did something about it. then it continued all through school until high school graduation. Other family members and distant family members would bully me and take things from me.In 6th grade, after school, a gang of girls started messing with me while i walked home. they were older and bigger. they dragged me by my hood and drag me down the sidewalk and started punching me and telling lies about me, I didn't know these people. A lot of people pass by without stopping for 30 minutes before someone stopped and told them to leave me alone. I screamed because they were hurting me. I just stay away from those people and find places where there are no evil people like that. I still encounter bullies occassionally, so I would avoid them like the plague.
@WebMann (4731)
• Canada
5 Jan 07
I made a post about bullies a while ago but in short....
I used to get my butt kicked every single day. I would go to school and he and his buddies would be waiting.
I came home from school with my blood on my clothes and one day my foster father told that he would beat me if I came home like that again.
Well now I was totally terrified but...
The next day when Bully Buddy came up to me...
I punched him right in the face and knocked him over backwards. Guess who went home with blood on them.
That was that last time any one, other than that jerk foster father, put a beating on me.
@hegde_parvathi (77)
• India
5 Jan 07
Even i was bullied when i was in school,But very first time i bounced back on them & faught with them that was the first & last time i was bullied.This present world is like that,you have to fight back in every aspect of the life then only things happen,otherwise you will be taken granted.So now iam into business here also no body can touch me.
@Arthorio (2)
• Ukraine
5 Jan 07
Bullyin can come to anybody.It happens when someone who's bigger than u takes sumtin from u forcefully or beats u up for no raeson,it comes anyway.It have happened to me in the past but recall wot and it happened.Even as a child n a grown up,it happened but i simply to forget the incident.I always tag it a one of the things one has to pass through in life.If u can take up this reason,am sure you will not be bothered about it.Also learn to forgive people for whatever they do to u.Am not sayin u should not stand up to ur right.
@MusicOnly (328)
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
5 Jan 07
I have been bullied in my 2nd class in primary school. There was one guy who thought he s the strongest in class and he liked to tease me. One day we had a big fight, actually he was punching me while i was trying to stop him. I really dont like to fight with others. My dad needed to come in school and i can say only one thing. He was disappointed in me. I was stronger than that guy but i let him to kick my a**. As you say your mother told you that violence escalates problems, that s exactly what my mother said to me. After that fight he thought that he can kick my a** whenever he wants. Next week he started to tease me, but i didnt wanted to hit him first. He punched me in head and that was it. I actually exploded. Other people in class couldnt move me from him. I was so angry. Sure, our parents needed to come in school but i could see on my father s face that he was in one way happy. After that day, i ve become different person. No one ever teased me again, i ve become popular in my school just because i stood for myself. So when my 8th grade ended i decided to take this reputation with me in high school. I am pretty tall for my age, 189cm, so they got me seriously, sure one guy tried to knock me down but i showed him that he cant mess with me. After that day, everything is going just fine. Once again, i am popular in my class and no one even thinks about kicking my a**.
So, basically if you stood up for yourself you could see that you wont be bullied never again.
And from your and mine experience, i think that we can tell that mother was in one way guilty for our behavior while we were bullied?
@avgeorge (13)
• India
5 Jan 07
Everyone gets bullied atleast once in a life time.obviously i also experienced it;don't know,maybe would experience more in life to come.Each one is a learning experience.From the beginning i responded;cause i was not ready to submit to anyone.Inshort i payed for it dearly when the person who bullied me became my class teacher.I survived...and will in years to come.
@britshmons (76)
• Ukraine
5 Jan 07
Yes,it happen one certian time but I handle situation very well,and the person was supprise and I will never think of it again
@maxmathur (157)
• India
5 Jan 07
yeah once or twice..
but then i showed them who's boss...
i simply hit back..
teaches them a lesson
@kpbhuvana (392)
• India
5 Jan 07
u wont believe , i have been bullied by my college friends. All my college mates compared me with a fat and dark guy. Every time he wud pass by they all wud comment me that he is coming to see me. He also enjoyed the way every one compared him with me. i used to feel bad, i thought of taking leave for a week or so. But then i thought running from d situation wud just make me coward. so i decided to face d situation. I thought if i reacted to d situation then they wud enjoy , so i stopped reacting to d situation, then they also stopped bulling me. so face the situation boldly.Otherwise u wud end up in physical and mental torture.
@lelabrown (217)
• United States
5 Jan 07
I remember fighting back when my abusive ex husband got tired of bullying me and went after my 6 month old baby. That's when I fought back and ran for our lives. I thank God to this day that my son was too young to remember..
Lela
@kefkaix (33)
• United States
5 Jan 07
I never really was bullied much, except by my friends, but thats just one of those things, friends make fun of friends its natural, but back in like 7th grade or so, I was in a group of friends who had a mixxed opinion about this one kid who always wanted to hang around us, my best friend and I defended him while the other 2 abused him, one of them in particular was quite abusive, and one day actually tried to attack him, fortunately I stepped in the way and stopped him, though he tried to attack me. In the end though, bullying only really hurts people, and friendships.