Dates.. Who pays?

Most of the guys I know would perfer to pay for me, but I personally don't like to be payed for like that...I perfer to pay for myself, as I don't like to be thought of as a bought woman...I just like to be able to pay for myself.

hmmm.. boy should pay... in my opinion...

Why should the guy pay the bill in most cases? Women have fought so hard to get equality in jobs and equal pay for equal work. But this cuts both ways. On dates it can be tricky but I think in most cases the bill should be split. You can also determine beforehand how it should go down. Says one person to the other: I am inviting you for dinner, this indicates he/she wants to pay the bill, because he/she is inviting. Says one person to the other: Lets take in some dinner and a movie on Saturday night. This is not a clear invitation for a treat. The bill should be split, at least the invitee should offer to split the bill or if refused say o.k. then I will pay next time - no argument- There is no free ride for ladies unless the guy has ulterior motives.

It's the polite thing to do for the man to pay. But I think that once you have been on a few dates, the bill should be split or take turns with the bill. Women want to be equal to men so they should follow this by doing equal things.

Normally i pay the first date, after half for me half for her .. now.. who have money :-)

I think it is the boy to pay for it. In china, It is a rule that the boy pay for all of the date spend. Maybe it is diffrent in other country, but I think the boy want to show his gentle he must do this, the girls don't need to pay for it. If the girls pay, she maybe refuse your invite to dating.

Well I believe the guy should pay but it would be nice to have the girl offer to split.

in most situation, i too realised the fact that the guy is responsible for the bill. even thoguh the date call is from a girl , it is the guy who bears the cost and it may be a social status. wht do u say?

well it depends ...paying for the date is not really an issue in my case....all that matters is spending time with each other..

anyone can pay for anything on the date. there is no rule that says that the guy or the woman should pay for everything. this responsibility should be shared equally between the man and thew woman.

I agree with you. If I ask somebody out I expect that I'll be footing the bill. And visa versa. I don't usually date though, so it's never really come up in practice.

if it was a real date where the man usually invites the woman for dinner or whatever then i would assume i would pay for it,even if it was just a casual date like hanging out or just watching a movie but if the woman insist on splitting the bill then i would acknowledge it as a positive gesture that she also would like to have a share of the date.i have no qualms who pays the bill because it is more of getting to know the person.a persons pont of view on who's to pay and once actions concerning the issue is also a way to know how the person is

I Guess, it should be a split between two of them but in most of cases, only guy used to pay the entire bill. Even if a girl invites a guy for a date, only guy used to pay the bills and I had never seen a girl taking her wallet out. This is just my experience and not heart feelings friends.

like you, i personally see that whoever asks the date should pay for the date, it's really taking advantage for girls to simply ask for a date then let the guy do all the paying. I also agree with you, that of course, the ones who are bold enough to ask someone out should also be responsible enough to setlle with the payments of the date.

the guys do pay certainly after all we are the ones who take the girls out only if the guy is broke and that rarely happens

I think the bill should be split. Neither the guy nor the girl should pay for it. Why should either be made to pay? Both have equal rights. I think its stupid for the guy to pay the bill. Splitting the bill is cool

Personally I have always expected the guy to pay for the first day...don't know why but that's what I've always expected. I think the lady should offer to pay her own half of the dinner or movie. Of course most of the time the male will refuse. I also think it would be really cool for a girl to just insist that the bill be paid by her occasionaly.

Hi all As per a gentleman , a boy always feels he should pay. On the first date,the guy should pay. Afterwards it depends on the mutual undersanding between the two. If they both are happy and enjoying then there's no problem.

I guess its a case to case basis, it doesn't mean that guy will pay the bills almost all the time. I am more apt if both parties will share for the bill. Anyway their's nothing wrong if a girl will pay the Bill sometimes.

on the old tradition its the responsibility of the guy to pay for the bills on a date,,but let us look on the new generation we have to be practical,,its not easy to earn money,,both gurls and guys are now working so i would prefer it to be 50-50 on expenses or let say 70-30,,,70 for guys and 30 for gurls,,,lets be fair...