Need some advise about an obsessed friend
By FiredUp
@FiredUp (270)
United States
January 4, 2007 9:56pm CST
I have a very uncomfortable situation. I have a friend, not too close, but still a friend. She has OCD and has decided to obsess about me. She is harmless, not dangerous at all. But it is very irritating because no matter how many times I tell her to stop calling or searching me out at church, she still does. She has been to counceling for it and is supposed to take medication. It irritates me because she does not take her meds and I have to pay for it because it gets worse. I feel i cannot get a restraining order or anything like that because she goes to my church and really is harmless. My question is...do I demand that she have absolutely no contact at all or just put up with it. It is more difficult because I love her boys dearly and they often ask for my help with homework, etc. How do I deal with their Mom without hurting them?
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@rosaflorence (1924)
• United States
9 Jan 07
I know that this is a tough choice to make but if it is causing you to suffer then I would talk to a councellor about ways to aproach it. Councellors deal with people who have this problem everyday so they would know more about it.
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@FiredUp (270)
• United States
8 Jan 07
Thanks for the comment. I'm sorry I didn't make it clear in my post, but I am female. She is just a friend. However, she insists that we are hang out friends, where I see her as just a little more than an acquaintance. I am not interested in hanging out with her because I have no interest in the things she is interested in and she acts very childish. I don't have very much tolerance for adults acting like children. I love children, but only when they are indeed children.
@wmg2006 (5381)
• United States
7 Jan 07
If it was me and I really cared about her and her boys I would continue to be around them, but I would choose when. Do not make yourself as available as before. Talk to her family about it if you feel she needs help. A person like this really needs a friend. Let her obsess as long as she is not hurting you or herself. Enjoy the obseesion, make it a positive thing. Try to be a limited friend. It will be hard but it will be better for you and her boys.
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@FiredUp (270)
• United States
8 Jan 07
Thanks for the advise. That is pretty much what I have done in the past. Her family already knows she needs help though. She has been on meds in the past. She is just not taking them, that is what upsets me. She is choosing to be this way by not taking her meds and eating foods she knows makes her worse. Whenever I try to be a limited friends, she sees that as an invitation to take over my time. My family is getting tired of it. I promised them I would make her back off. So I am still not sure what to do.
