Does love fade out after marriage?

We just had our 25th wedding anniversary. We were young when we got married and everyone said it would never last. We renewed our vows at the anniversary party and my husband had me in tears.....he was so sentimental his vows were what every woman wants to hear from her man...especially when he said he loved me even more now than when he first married me. Granted we had our ups and downs and raised 5 boys together, but looking back it was all team work and what did not kill us made us stronger. I look forward to another 25 years with him and hopefully more. Oh and we still have alot of fun in the sack!!!!

I would have to agree. In my previous marriage, I sort of 'knew' that something wasn't quite right. I just, for some reason, couldn't imagine myself with that person for the rest of my life. After a few years, I realized that it was that we were just lusting after each other and we weren't actually "IN Love"! I am, now, remarried to the man of my dreams. I can honestly say that I love this man unconditionally! There is nothing that he could do to make me not love him! IT us such a better feeling that what I had in the past!

Some people are not prepared for the realities of life and marriage and family. They lose the attitude of gratitude that they found their beloved and then the love starts to starve and die because they forget to feed it. Love is not free, and is not easy it requires hard work, and understanding to live through the years of ones life with any ontehr human being. Even ones parents, you couldn't live with forever yet that is the promise that you makewhen marrying to stay in love forever and togehter foreve. That's a lot of pressure!

i think it fades away

I not say its fade away because its not the color of cloth which fade away. Whoever says these words actually not having ther real defination of love. Its fade away for those people who have many expectation from the love. Love itself means love to give, as by giving love to your lover, your parent, love to child, to God, to person whom you respect, increase the love in your self and your surrounding. Love not demand anything, its always gives. Like you have faith in your God which not take anything from you but then also, its exist.

No, love doesn't fade away. It does take a different form and if you are lucky, a much stronger one than just physical attraction. Still, reality also settles in after marriage and needs to be faced together. That is why "love itself is not enough" for a successful marriage. The financial duties, the children; these can be wonderful additions to a marriage and not a love killer.

Its wrong notion that love fade out after marriage..In case of love marriages if we make wrong choices and come to that decisions t otie a knot so early ..because if u do love each other and there is fairly good undrstanding between two then tehre is no question of divorce..Its just that understanding fades away from relationship .may be because of too many expectations which is why people start avoiding each other ..which we call that love has really started to loose its control..

Love that is based on mutual respect and admiration, honesty, openness, loyalty, trust and commitment, are building blocks that will keep a marriage alive forever. Is that a lot to expect? Yes! And it should be a lot because marriage should not be entered in lightly. Love in a marriage fades away when one of those building building blocks start to crumble over time. Sometimes something breaks down before we even realize it's breaking. There are telltale signs when a marriage starts to lose its luster. A couple should pay heed to those signs, talk about them, find out the root of the problem, be open about your expectations from your spouse, and nip the problem in the bud. Having children and having financial responsibilities don't wear down a marriage. It's when we focus on problems and don't communicate about them in a constructive way that creates the problems. It doesn't have to be that way. Both parents work hard for the family, whether they're working outside the home or taking care of the children at home. But after a long and tiring day, both husband and wife have to remember to show appreciation and caring for each other. That's one sure way to keep the love alive.

You know, I got married about a year and a half ago, and thank God our love is pretty strong still. I think it has to do with your form of communication. As well as your forms of understanding. My husband and I try to be extremely understandings towards one another, and we always try to make time for one another. I think love should be based on something solid, rather than on superficial things, such as looks or money. Because those things don't necessarily always last. You should be with someone because you love them for them, not for what they have.

no shilpi i dont think love get diluted after marriage if it happens with any onw it means the love between them was not true love it was infatuation that brings us together. me too married and it happen two years of marriage and at this moment i have a 3 months old kid but we both partner dont feeling that love get diluted after marriage.yes for the time being it may get diluted bcoz of new family members come in your family.say u get childd.

hey i completely agree with u. mine is a arranged marraige, after my engagement we had a year time before we got married. i fell in love with my husband and we had very good time.he cared a lot for me. i was his priority and many things. now its three years we r married and :( no romance in our life. he is a gem of a person. now we have a son just two months old and now priorites have changed from husband to son. love remains but attraction fades is wht i can say.

i dont think so if both really love each other then love never ends ...n in life up n down always so in that moment we should have some patience and keep more love that time it will never last but always with full sack of love.the only thing is about understanding and in love marriage we dont feel bound so it happens but not always so i think it may happen even in arrange marriage also.so its fact and always but depends on persons not the marriage type.

Probably you are right. Love may fade out if both parties are busy with something else and did not spend quality time to care for each other. In my personal view, I feel that it is important to think again if we really like the person, not just the appearance, before commiting to marriage. I always believe that if we really like the person inner beauty (true liking), love wont fade so easily over the years compared to when we only like his/her look. In addition, love wont fade so easily too even after having children and handling household and financial responsibilities.

My parents have been married for a long time now but their love for each other haven't fade ,I must tell that in their married life their are flaws and problems arises but they have struggle to all this problem and continue loving each other until now.I guess the secret in making marriage work is to have settle all problems at once.When you engaged in certain arguments try swallow your own pride.

I THINK MANY OF THEM FADE OOUT AFTER MARRIAGE COZ THE LOVE OF THE HUSBAND AND WIFE DECREASES.THEY ARE FEELING THAT HE/SHE IS NOW BOUNDED BY THE RELATIN OF THE MARRIAGE.THEY HAVE LESS VALUE TO THEIR LOVE.SO THE ARE FADE OUT AFTER MARRIAGE.

I don't think so. If you are married with someone who really loves you and you love him......true love doesn't dissapear...never. Only if you like someone and you marry with him just for interest, this marriage can't be a succes

No,love does not fade out.

no, love don't fade away...because love is a special bound of two heart to accept each other, care for each other, and to bbe together in ups and down...

hello shilpi taking abt marriage u must hav heard dat marriages r made in heaven.its just not a simple saying abt dat it a thought or belief dat two souls agree to and have faith in themselves so they believe in having relationship of love.do u agree with me!!!

I do agree with you. Now-a-days the effect of the movies is very much on the people. Love based movies are being picturized more day by day. So I feel that more than love infatuation and attraction are being created in every one. It is not that only infatuation and attraction are there, true lover are also there but, in most of the cases true love is not happening. I do agree with what u hav said..that after having the children love vanishes, but it happens only in the case of non-true lovers.