scared to make friends?

January 5, 2007 4:45am CST
it suprises me still when isee people sat in the corner at school or college just because there too scared to make friends, i personally are quite good at making friends. i am just curious of why people find it hard to make new friends, if i didnt make friends when i started somewhere new then i would probably find it much harder because w ouldnt have no one to talk to and have a laugh. what about you, any suggestions?
2 responses
@unithorn (193)
• United States
5 Jan 07
Sometimes, it is from being shy - others, it's a total lack of interest. I used to isolate myself in school. I was not interested in other people, what they had to say/think/feel/ask, what they did. I had my own life, agenda, ideas, and didn't want the bother. I felt this way until junior high or so... However, life is not a spectator sport - I was always a sounding board for people, and decided to start talking back one day. I found that people enjoyed my sense of humor and were genuinely interested in my thoughts. I became interested in theirs, too, as I realized that there were many things to learn. I am still more comfortable in one-on-one discussions, or very small groups. However, I would be a very lonely person if I hadn't taken that first step years ago, and I would not have learned many of the things that I have. My advice - before class, grab a seat near them and say hi. Ask where they're from, what they're majoring in. You could even ask their name, and tell them yours. You may overwhelm some, even get a couple of negative reactions, but I think that you could get some people to open up. Sometimes, all one needs is a little boost! Good luck!
@cupidboy (140)
• India
5 Jan 07
ya i think having friends is essential. if u dont have any friend at school or college then going to college will become a lot harder. i m also pity good in making friends. the only suggestions to those who are not good at making frieends is that just try to mix up with people and talk to them.