cheating

Thanks for the advice, some of are talking is emotinally charged and it's pretty safe to say we might like each other and we have exchanged addresses so i could send him stuff in iraq and i havent told my boyfriend about that, i agree with you about it not being cheating without something physical happening but i have to admit i'm starting to feel a little guilty.

I definitely agree with this one. Also if this is really just pure friendship then why not consider telling it to your boyfriend? Because sometimes when we are hiding something from our partner even though we are not really doing something bad, it sometimes leads us to feeling guilty.

Yes, irishchick, I already suspected that you are already feeling guilty about it, otherwise you wouldn't bring up this topic for discussion. Though you did not exactly disclose what emotional level of involvement you are having with this guy (is he an american based in iraq or an iraqi?), it looks like you are beginning to get "involved". This may be temporary but it may also go along way down the road. Since you are still single, you are still entitled to anything you want as long as you are not hurting anyone, particularly your boyfriend. Give yourself time to get to know what is you really want out of your relationship with your boyfriend and with your relationship with your new found friend in iraq because you are the only one who can decide on that matter. Whatever you decide, I hope you don't lose your self-dignity and self-respect by going the wrong way.