Do you find theres just some people you dont like to be around?
By jonezy
@jonezy (293)
January 5, 2007 4:10pm CST
Do you find that sometimes...for no reason, or sometimes for a obvious reason, that you jsut dont want to be around them? or do you find that you are fine around the majority of people untill theres something that stands out in conversation or their actions.
khris
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38 responses
@mridig (202)
• India
8 Jan 07
Jealousy typically refers to the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that occur when a person believes a valued relationship is being threatened by a rival. The word jealousy stems from the French jalousie, formed from jaloux (jealous), and further from Low Latin zelosus (full of zeal), and from the Greek word for "ardour, zeal" (with a root connoting "to boil, ferment"; or "yeast").
Jealousy is a familiar experience in human relationships. It has been reported in every culture and in many forms where researchers have looked. [1] [2] [3] It has been observed in infants as young as 5-6 months old and in adults over 65 years old. [4] [5] [6] [7]
It has been an enduring topic of interest for scientists, artists, and theologians. Psychologists have proposed several models of the processes underlying jealousy and have identified individual differences that influence the expression of jealousy. Sociologists have demonstrated that cultural beliefs and values play an important role in determining what triggers jealousy and what constitutes socially acceptable expressions of jealousy. Biologists have identified factors that may unconsciously influence the expression of jealousy. Artists have explored the theme of jealousy in photographs, paintings, movies, songs, plays, poems, and books. Theologians have offered religious views of jealousy based on the scriptures of their respective faiths. Despite its familiarity, however, people define jealousy in different ways. Some even mislabel it as being protective of something or someone, when the fact is, it's really simply possessive jealousy itself; and many feel they don't possess effective strategies for coping with this form of jealousy. [8]
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@nuttmeg (440)
• United States
6 Jan 07
Yep, all the time. Some people just tend to give me that vibe where I just didn't trust them enough to bother with them, whether it was by something they said, did or do, or just that feeling you sometimes get around certain people. My ex had a lot of these characters around, so it was frequent enough lol. There will also be times where friends or aquaintances of my own get to that point with me, too.
@dradelelassy (1208)
• United States
6 Jan 07
our chemistry determines our mood
myself for no reason do not accept be around certain people from first look
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@dominican (201)
• Philippines
6 Jan 07
I do think that you can't please everybody. And if it includes you, its just maybe both of you doesn't have something in common that you might find interesting. So i do agree that some people are to be liked some are not.
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@queenajasmina (449)
• United States
8 Jan 07
I feel that sometimes. Some people just like being negative in to make themselves feel better and bring everyone else down. I try to stay away from people like this. SOmetimes too I may see someone and just feel that they are the type of people I wouldn't want to be around and I just make assumptions about them. Either way it goes keep your head up and don't let anyone bring you down.
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@GINA_LOVE (31)
• United States
6 Jan 07
Yes, people with bad vibes. Usually it's people who perceive things very negatively, are either very jealous, envious, and just plain bad ol'company.
Being around these types of people literally can zap the energy out form you and will make them feel better. So, they may enjoy being around you, but you don't enjoy being around them. I think there's a term for this, psychic vampires? Something like that, I don't remember...but yeah, very true.
@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
5 Jan 07
There are plenty of people who annoy the crud out of me, but I've found some creative ways of dealing with them. If they know they bug me, and if they know I will aboid them, they will have already won. I'm too stubborn to give them the satisfaction.
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
6 Jan 07
Oh there are definately ppl I dont care to be around but never without reason...Its usually because they are full of themselves or have that macho attitude or are just mean, rude ppl which I dont tolerate...
@jonezy (293)
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6 Jan 07
all of these are valid reasons...but sometimes with me it is just ...a feeling a get, just by the look or one actions... soemthing they do that retains me from getting to know them properly. on the other hand i have spent tme with one of these people and learnt i was wrong in first asumptions and have become friends with this person.
khris
@Darkwing (21583)
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5 Jan 07
Naturally, there will always be somebody whose company you don't enjoy. However, I will always try to keep company with anybody who wishes it. If they start to annoy or bore me, I include somebody else so that it lightens the boredom. lol.
I'm fine around the majority of people, but there are just those few really lairy people whom I can't tolerate for too long. But, I won't be rude to them, I will listen for a while and then make my excuses that I need to go see a friend or something.
You will never find a complete community of amusing people. There's always one bag egg in the basket. :-)
@dmanuel (411)
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6 Jan 07
i think this situation happens to everybody. we just don't like some people and funny, we don't have a reason why. when you see them, when you hear them talk or laugh, it's just so annoying. i just don't pay attention to these people, it would just make me old! :)
@nuffsed (1271)
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6 Jan 07
I hate to stereotype folks, but there is one "type" that my radar constantly looks out for, without me applying any effort.
It's a man. He's large, with a obese belly. He's about 55 plus. He's loud and brash. Swears all the time and is often drunk. He's usually racist, homphobic, ex military and divorced.
I just want to shoot him. Or be transported out of his vicinity immediately.
I bet you know him.
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@pebbles_cubbie (3789)
• United States
6 Jan 07
i dont like being around a lot of people. i dont like the negative energy and i dont like the way people act. they can be really rude and inconsiderate.
@ronita34 (3922)
• Canada
12 Mar 07
I think that there has been times that there are certain people that i just can not stand to be around as i do not like to surround myself with negativity. I like to be happy and some people just live to drag others down and i just don't like that.
@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
6 Jan 07
I am tolerant of people. Everybody is different. There are some things about people you do not like and things that you like about them. Focus on what you like and it becomes easier to be around them.
@ESKARENA1 (18261)
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6 Jan 07
This happens to me all the time ive never understood it but there are some people who really put my backup the moment i see them in a room, its nothing they do or say its just a sense, but it has never let me down yet
@TerryZ (22076)
• United States
6 Jan 07
There are some people I just dont want to be around. I just seemed to bump heads with some people. I always speak my mind, I think some people dont like it, but then my friends do like. So you cant make everyone happy.
@kathy77 (7486)
• Australia
6 Jan 07
Yes I do find there is some people I do not like being around and I find that the majority of people I am fine with until they either put my other friends down or steal from me or do something dishonest apart from that, and also boring people that I cannot make any conversation with.
@jackslaiter (371)
• India
6 Jan 07
There are times when we are surrounded by people we cannot adjust with us but we have no choices. The whole enviromment seems to create a mental pressure that forces you to get out of that place as soon as possible. Some times the people we don't like arrive at you even if you don't want them to around you.