confused! plz help

Well, your problem is basically of heart breaking. Sorry really it is a sad thing and should not be happen in any one's life. You should first clear your mind and talk with the other friend clearly and mind well that life never stops and it goes on.

your failed love story before should not affect your lovelife at present. you can always love a person. love comes when you least expect it. as you said, you really like him, too and he loves you. so, why not love him? there's nothing wrong about love. just go for it. and if you fail once again, don't close your door. open your heart to possibilities. stay happy!

Love is good character you should love every one but dont fall in romance love it cause you a bad thing,but if your friend is good means call him to your home and introduce him to your parents if every one accept hime means marry him.

I think u should accept his proposal 'coz all guys r not always same n there r chances that this guy will happiness back to ur life and will sort everything which was earlier messed up by the previous one..And if u like him then u must accept his proposal ...But please be cautios as such matters affects ur whole life ......

I think you should give the man a chance. Not all men are bad. And if he wants you so much, means that he's serious and you have a wonderful time together. Maybe you can try date with him a few times and then decide. Good Luck!

I guess you are quite young. But remember and learn from now onwards, that marriage is not just about emotions. For a successful marriage, you must have great compatibility with your partner ( i dont say 100 % compatibility. There is no such thing). Feeling of love and attraction durng youth is not reliable very much. if the guy is telling you he loves u soo much... whats so great abt it? then he says he wants to be your friend... why ? Marriage is a beginning for a new life, entirely new life. And you got to be preapred for that in every way. What are your own personal goals? does the boy has personal goals? if so what are they? can you both acheve them together? without going into conflicts? these are some of the few things you have to think about and then make strong mind and commitment to get married and live with one person- ur soulamte. Its immaterial whether its arranged or not. I would say go for arranged love marriage (heard of such a thing?).

Donot confuse and make others to confuse in the matter. You make love after marriage and not before marriage.

Well I'm not familar with arranged marriages but are you allowed to change your mind? What happens if you eventually fall in love and you can't control the way you feel? I'd advise to at least be friends with this man and see where it goes from there. Good luck.

well you have think it over.dont make any hasty decisions that you will regret the rest of your life.

See if there was a break up with ur college frnd due to some reason.. it doesnt mean that ur life shud stop and u have no right to love anyone again. Everyone does a mistake ... i think if u truly love this person n u cant live without him then dont punish urself , accept his love.. And who told u that arranged marriages r a success always.... its destiny , if this person is destined to be ur love then he ll definitely come in ur life n make u happy. So i think it depends on u.. dont take any decision in a hurry, relax n think that is this the person u cud spend ur life with and if the answer is yes then accept his love. All the best!

well u see ask that guy to talk to his parents and u can get an arragemarriage. make sure u tell ur parents. well i am not sure about love marraiges cuz it jus evaporates after some time. i mean the love. so far this has been the case in india not all but so far wat i have know. maybe i cant give u this advice as i have not been in love ok all d best for ur future tellin ur parents is the way out

Are you familiar with the word "destiny"? Somtimes things happen for a reason., not to mention about the goals that we intend to achieve., not all things come in a way of what you want it to be., so all i can say for now is to accept what is given to you with open heart, mind, and soul!!! Be open-minded!

hi.so you want to do only arranged marriage.why can't you do arranged marriage with the same guy who loves you very mush.you see he is loving you very much so tell him to approach your parents.so this is arranged marrrege to you and love amrrige to him.anyway you have to love him atleast after marriage. my email id is bhuvan_reddy12@yahoo.com i am from hyd bye take care of your self.have a nice day.

really u had u r friend but me iam now in so much confusion state i am facing lot of problems so i have taken a solution such that for every problem their there will be a solution so donot lose ur confidence such that please encourage him if u face any friend again please tell him i was said and learned by my friend

you are really in proble. why don't you go for another love..................................................................................................................................

ok if you like him give him a shoot what could it hurt and be ready at any time for marraige it dont happen like im sorry you should get married cause you want to and love the person or at least know you can fall in love with him

ok , Honey I do not believe in arranged marriages. YOU should choose who makes you happy and who you want to spend your life with. Life will always be full of disappointments but if you spend your life running from the dissapointments there is a real good chance that you will miss some of the greatest moments in your lifetime. GOD choses our mates , talk to him. He has a plan for your life and for your marriage. Follow him and you can never go wrong.

You should consider to try having something with your friend. He's probably not like the other guy and he can be the ONE!

Why don't you let your heart make the final decision here? You have used your mind too much, and as far as love issues are concerned, too ahead planning ends up in a disaster. Fight for what you want, not for what you're told. Marry the one you love, not the one is set for you. Otherwise there are not many chances to be happy...that's what I think. Good luck anyway!

see love is an flow of emotion. there is nothing to stick to the point that you only do arranged marriage, when you got failed in your first love. for me i understand one thing - love the guy who loves you (if you have a little bit shortage of feelings from side, still it is better), but never fall in love with someone who doesn't have any love for you. sometime in our early age we do this mistake and the consequence is very bad always. your first love was not success, so what! that doesn't mean that you will never be in love again. go and talk with that guy who loves you and see the other difficulties of getting married etc. u said'i can't accept the proposal becoz at any time i should b ready for mmarriage' - if that guy loves is it not possible to him to marry you in near future and your parents will stress on marraige? it is looks like to me that is main difficulty for you. if so then talk with him and come to a decision and talk with your parents too. i hope that will solve your proble. i do see you have feelings for th second guy too who loves you, that is a good sign. i wish you all the BEST!