I think women are more sincere than we give them.....

This is a reality;i wonder why such things occur my dear

I think friend and family don't outright tell the woman that they dislike her husband because they respect her choice of a husband. It's courtesy. Now, if the woman directly asks, "What's your opinion of my husband?" Then friends and family have a chance to tell their real opinion, but with a careful choice of words of course. They don't want to hurt the woman's feelings. She's in a marriage already. It's different if the woman is getting ready for a divorce. But during a marriage, if the woman was still trying to work things out to salvage the marriage, friends and family should respect that. They should just be there if the woman needs to talk, or if she's ready to seek an honest opinion from someone she trusts about her situation. Divorce is not easy; the woman is hurt. She needs compassion and understanding from her friends and family. She needs support and guidance in this divorce. Friends and family mean well when they dole out advice, but they really must be careful in their choice of words so they won't hurt the woman's feelings, or make her feel like she was so naive in marrying this guy in the first place. I hope they won't say "I told you so!" She's already feeling the pain of the divorce so she doesn't need others putting salt in the wound. Give advice and your honest opinion, but give it in a tone of respect and sensitivity to the person's feelings.

I do agree...I think that sometimes this can happen. I know it has happened to me and continues to happen. My friends and family are nice to my boyfriend but then they talk about him to me after...and especially this one friend. Now ...I just tell her that I don't want to talk about him to her...because I am tired of listening to her....