Is being dark-skinned ugly? Do I deserve a handsome guy, even though I am dark?
By angel_eyes88
@angel_eyes88 (181)
India
January 7, 2007 8:37am CST
I m dark-skinned, and my cousin is really very fair. I was good at studies, and she was somewhat weaker(in studies). Though my parents loved me and were proud of me, other elders, in my family love her more than me. Its not that I m jealous of her, but she also always made me feel that she looks better me. Even, when I was a kid my mom always told me that though i m not fair, i am very beatiful. When I was in high school,(almost) every good-looking guy wanted to date me, but she started dating since she was 12. She had a boyfriend before me, though my boyfriend looks better than hers(mine is very handsome and he is very loving). She and her friends always taunt me saying that I am ugly and I dont deserve him. I m confused. I dont know whether my boyfriend loves my looks or my brains. Do I really deserve him?
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12 responses
@rovenn (69)
• Philippines
17 Jan 07
yes! you do. i dont think being darke-skinned is ugly. dont level down your self-esteem just because your cousin and her friends tells you bad things.
dont you ever think they may be just jealous of you? they might as well have insecurities towards you. dont let them get into ur nerves..
see, now you're now having doubt with ur boyfriend.. what if he trully loves you, both inside and out.. it would'nt be fair for him to deserve such doubt!!
@angel_eyes88 (181)
• India
18 Jan 07
i think that you are right!! mayb i shoudnt doubt our relationship!!
@Lush_heidi (994)
• United States
2 Feb 07
no dark skinned isnt ugly- so get that out of mind and outa sight. I am part native american and much darker than my moms family who are caucasian, yeah I had cousins make fun of me and all,and I was called names and made to feel ugly but in the end, it hurt them,not me...Cause I have a happy life, so let them talk, hold your head up high and know your beautiful inside and out! And thats what counts!
@Lemongrass18 (313)
• Singapore
21 Jan 07
Yes you do deserve him! Having dark skin is not a crime thus you should have self confidence.
@PurpleButterfly (33)
• United States
2 Feb 07
Being Dark-skinned has no relation to what you deserve. There are a lot of beautiful people of every skin-color, shape, and size... I believe you are a very beautiful person.
And you shouldn't worry too much about your boyfriend only liking you for your brains; I'm sure he likes your looks too, but that he appreciates your intelligence as well is a rarity among men, in my opinion, and a nice thing too!
As for me, I don't know that I could stand having a man only like me for my looks, OR my brains, but if I had a choice, I think I'd choose brains... I don't want to have a boyfriend who only thinks about my looks.
Maybe you could talk to your boyfriend about this? If he loves you for you, that's all that matters. Just think: if he wanted to be with some other girl, he would be.
@gendomingo (115)
• Philippines
17 Jan 07
physical appearance does not matter much if you have a good heart & a pure soul. try to do your best in everything you want to achieve in life & in love. just be your true self & many will like & love you for what you are.
@vintage_blowout (277)
• Philippines
17 Jan 07
first off, you should stop thinking like that because it's unhealthy for your self-esteem. before you can learn to love others, you should learn to love yourself. otherwise, your insecurities will surface and it will destroy the relationship.
@kushal24 (200)
• India
12 Jan 07
well first you what you gotta do is STOP thinking like that.isin't helle berry dark skinned,even then any guy in hollywood would give anything to be with her.so stop thinking like that.any guy who does not want to be with you because of your color has no right to be with you anyway
@jaya1123 (122)
• India
12 Jan 07
outer apperance definetly is not the real beauty.your pure heart and flawless smile is ur beauty.fair skin people get prorities in some occasions but not everytime.if u have talent and if u deserve it then u will get it.
@cutekristine (526)
• Philippines
17 Jan 07
Of course you deserve him, the color of your skin doesnt dictate who you are. Your boyfriend loves you not because you are beautiful or ugly but because of your attitude. the number of boyfriends one has will not tell you your beautiful, its just timing.you may not have a lot of boyfriend or dates in the past like your cousin but you found the right person for you. dont listen to what other people tell you, just be yourself and be proud of who and what you are.
Just remember that beauty fades but the good attitude will stay with you forever. one thing, most men loves girls who are intelligent than beautiful.
@shinichi31 (126)
• Philippines
17 Jan 07
ofcourse you deserve him, i doesnt matter if your ugly or beautiful in love. maybe your boyfriend love you not your looks or your brains but the whole you, give your boyfriend benefit of the doubt. and beside don't think your ugly, God didn't made a human ugly.
@Cuteprincess_Vini (55)
• India
15 Jan 07
hi,just came accross to ur discussion.Well i want to tell u 1 thing,there r 60% guys who go on looks and 40% go on nature and inner beauty.Ur bf loves u maybe he likes ur inner beauty.And i gues if u have anything such going on in ur mind u shd talk to ur bf.he can explain u better then anyone...bye tc
@sechsey (1831)
• Canada
17 Jan 07
Hey! Dont mind what other people think. Ur boyfriend is with u. Dont think about whether he is with u for ur brain or beauty. Either one is great! as long as he is with u. He should like u for who you are if he is with u in the first place.
