Crying again....
By minxy67
@minxy67 (2707)
January 7, 2007 10:41am CST
Yesterday for me was an awful day, I just woke up feeling very tearful and I spent the whole day either crying or shouting at everyone for no real reason.
Today I got up and felt much better.
Does anyone else have days like this and it is not because my period is due because I had a hysterectomy 2 months ago....
6 responses
@Darkwing (21583)
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8 Jan 07
I think you might still be suffering the effects of the hysterectomy. Two months is not much time in which to get over it; in fact, when my Mum had hers, she was in hospital for two or three weeks, and then was sent to the coast in convalescence for six weeks. I know this was many years ago, and progress has perhaps made things better, but even when she came home from convalescence she wasn't able to lift or do anything strenuous, like housework. This must be very taxing on the mind of a person who has always been pretty active as well. I would think it makes them feel inadequate to a degree, and less of a woman. I don't know if that's how you feel.
Coupled with that, if you're approaching or in the age of menopause, then this could make you even more depressed. My Mum told me that she still had the symptoms of her menstrual cycle as well as going through the menopause as any other woman did. So, I think this could increase the depressive state. Whatever you do, don't worry about the crying because worry will add even more pressure. Explain to your family what you're going through and they'll understand why you cry. It's no biggy! I do it all the time!
I really hope this doesn't last too long because I have fathomed what a special person you are, and you don't deserve to be depressed... Let me give you a big ((((((((((HUG)))))))))) and wish you better soon. x
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@minxy67 (2707)
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10 Jan 07
Yes I think you may be right about some effects being from the hysterectomy, recovering has not been as easy as I thought it would be, also my husband has a bad back and has surgery himself the end of january, and thank you sooo sooo much for the hug, I really need one, now and again. ;)
As always thank you for taking to the time to reply to my discussion. :)
@minxy67 (2707)
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16 Jan 07
Thank you again for your kind words, at the moment each day is getting better, I still have days where I am tearful but they are getting fewer and far between, If I do start feeling bad again I am going to go back to my doctors and maybe start a course of hormone replacement therapy.
Thank you again for my hugs they are greatly appreciated x, :)
@Darkwing (21583)
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11 Jan 07
Yes, we do all need a hug from time to time, so here's another for you ((((((((((HUG))))))))). I hope you're feeling better today.
I think several women take a hysterectomy to be a routine operation, but believe me, Minxy, it is a very harrowing experience from what I've seen. I was in hospital one time, and a woman in the bed opposit me underwent a hysterectomy. She woke from her operation sobbing and broke down into tears every day for the three days I was there. I would imagine it to be a bit like a very severe period of menstruation where five days is not the limit. I have noticed that women are frequently depressed after the operation, just as some are after giving birth, with their post-natal depression. It weakens the body, and attacks the mind, and certainly takes a lot longer than two to three weeks to get over.
The fact that your hubby has a bad back as well, must put a terrific strain on you, as somebody has to do the chores and even lifting a saucepan must be an effort to start with. Your daughter is becoming quite grown up now... maybe it would be an idea to explain to her how difficult you find things, and she could help you out a little more for the recouperation period. Try to find time for yourself to read, chat with your friends in Pogo and on IM and laugh with them a little when you feel down, get out sometimes, even if it's only to the end of the garden path and back. Linger awhile and take in the world; feel the wind on your face. It's a battle, but I know you're strong and have no doubt you will get there.
Get better soon, Minxy.
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@rainbow (6761)
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7 Jan 07
I think your body and mind may still be adjusting to the affects of the hysterectomy and I'm told it takes a while to level out although I cannot speak from experience
I often have days like that for no reason, self pity really I think, suddenly everything just seem to much and all you can do is go with it. I don't have periods either and managed 2 kids without them, but I think the hormones still affect me, I have poly-cystic ovaries so have a few problems with that but it's no real excuse.
Wish I could tell you how not to feel like that but I honestly don't know, if you find out please let me know.
Hope you feel happier every day!
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@rainbow (6761)
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11 Jan 07
Just checking in to see if you are feeling any better and if you have faced a visit to the Dr's yet? I will be fine, nothing to worry about really, just the odd twinge etc.
I really hope you feel happier, let me know how you get on if you go to the Dr please?
@minxy67 (2707)
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11 Jan 07
I did go to the doctors today but for my hip, because during surgery my hip got dislocated and they tore the ligaments, so I need anti inflamatory injections, (painful today). I did speak to the doctor about how I am feeling and I am going to make another appointment, he thinks it may be that my ovaries are dying and that the monopause is starting, they left my ovaries in the hope that the menopause would not start, but could not guarantee that it would stop it, my doctor says he needs to take some blood tests.
I am so touched that you have taken the time to find out how I am, Thank you xxx :)
@minxy67 (2707)
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7 Jan 07
I was wondering if maybe it was something to do with the hysterectomy, I am also very tired. Maybe I am starting the dreaded menopause, although they left my ovaries, might be worth asking my gp. I am sorry to hear that you have poly-cystic ovaries, you are lucky to have 2 children, I hope things improve for you, and if I find a miracle cure for being down in the dumps I will let you know. :)
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
7 Jan 07
It is good that you can have a cry and are able to cry, sometimes I want to cry but I just can't, the tears won't come. You are able to release your pent up feelings in a good way, crying is good, otherwise you'd bottle it up and then you snap, as I did, but I took my anger on someone else. Glad you feel better today, probably because you got your anger and emotions out! We all have bad days, we all deal with it in different ways.
@marissaj07 (402)
• United States
7 Jan 07
Sometimes I feel like that...lol. Sorry you had such a awful day! (((hugz)))
@tutul0045 (2630)
• India
7 Jan 07
hmmm i think we all have bad and good days. the important think is to remain cool. if iam in a bad mood i prefer to remain aloof and not to shout or be angry.
Its always good to remain aloof than to be with some one whom u love but u r shouting at him/her.
So hope u have better days ahead.
Cheers and keep posting!!
Tutul
@minxy67 (2707)
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7 Jan 07
I try to remain cool and I succeed most of the times, I hate upsetting those closest to me, but I feel for those few times that I feel down in the dumps, I can't control myself, I am not violent, I am my own worst enemy, I am always the one who ends in tears. But for 90% of the time I am really happy. :)
