marriage

i HAVE BEEN IN A LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP MYSELF, 11 YEARS AND HE CONSTANTLY CHEATED ON ME WE LIVE TOGETHER WITH A 10 YR OLD DAUGHTER, BUT HE WOULD NOT LEAVE ME FOR THIS OTHER WOMAN, NOT THAT IT MAKES IT RIGHT BUT MY ADVISE TO YOU IS....HOLD ONTO YOUR MARRIAGE AND I KNOW ITS HARD AND I AM GLAD YOUR IN THEROPY. IT DOES GETS EASRIER TRUST ME. BUT YOU NEED TO CONCERTRATE ON YOURSELF AND DONT PUT TO MUCH ENERGY IN THEM........

It is up to you make the decision wheter to stay or not. Do you believe in God and prayer. Prayer can change things.

I am sorry to hear that you have gone through so much and were treated so badly by your spouse. You deserve someone much better than this man. I know it is hard to let go, especially of a relationship that you were in for so long. You need to do things for yourself to help boost yourself esteem - take that trip you always wanted to go on, buy yourself some new clothes, go back to school. You are doing a good thing by going ot therapy and it sounds like you have a good support system. I don't have a magical wand I can wave for you - I wish I could - what you need to know is that you will be okay and you will make it through this and at the end you will be a better stronger person!

Try and save ur marriage. many ppl can give u many suggestions to break it or do any other things. But i would say if u still love him, then try and save ur marriage. Coz if u go for divorce u ll spoil the life of ur daughter.,......

Looks like it is not your choice anymore, he has gone already...I know your therapist told you this a lot of times, but you have to find something to love inside you first, and be strong enough ( I know it is easy to say and hard to do...)to see your reality: you do not have to live in pain and unhappiness, but the only one who really know you and can change this situation is yourself. Stop self sabotation, I am sure you are a great person, and you can deal with any kind of problem...

What is the matter with you? He has hurt you more than once.....He's abused a child and he cheats on you and sees other women? Why wouldn't you want the divorce....Maybe your entitled for some child support and alimony! I would take him for all he's worth if he's cheated! I wish you good luck but you also have to think about your future and the future of you daughter...Don't let him hurt you anymore and don't let him hurt your daughter!

Any man that has cheated on his wife. Or one that has abused a child is not worth having. If my husband, ever abused one of my children. His clothes would have been packed and he would have been sent out the door. What you are going threw is hard yes, you need to stay in theropy. and learn to stand on your own two feet. 12 years is a long time to spend with someone. but arnt you worth more than what he has given you or your child?

I think u need to get out of the realationship before its to late. If he has done thing to u cheated on u , abused his stepchild get out. Dont wait til it to late and u cant get out . what if he kills u first? DOnt let him hurt u anymore or your kid. It cant be good for her to know what is going on and see him do the things he does to you. you need to report him because if u leave he will find someone else and do them the same way. please get out of this, no matter how much u love him u deserve better. just please let go you can do better , dont let what he says or does make u fill like u arent work anything. you are! get out and finally enjoy your life find a man who will respect u and your kid and love u with all his heart ...

so , thank you for your words of wisdom ,i know what I have to do, and of course now he wants me back he is sorry wants to go back to church broke up with his girlfriend Jodi, LOL BLAH BLAh BLAh, everytime i really start getting strong enough to leave he can,t live without me, I am soooo confused why would a man cheat and do the things he does, but put me through hell and then he says he realizes I,m everything he wants in a woman, and believe me I am a good woman, but I just can't do this anymore, I start my new job in about 3 maybe 4 weeks, he wants to move back in Sat.I don't want to hurt my daughter with anymore fighting , I am so lost, and scared, I have no family, just me and my dughters, I know the right thing to do, i just can't say no to this man,he takes me for granted, and knows I have no where to go, anyways thankyou for your support, I am praying that god will empower and show me the way! Faith is what keeps me from , well alot of things, thanks again, I know the awnser and noone else can find it but me. K_love4u