What do I do...

United States
January 8, 2007 2:28am CST
my husband and I just had a really big fight tonight. We like in a small town with nothing to do . Ther is no mall but there is an old broke down movie theatre. All there is to do here is go to wal-mart. We aregue abou things around the house and he gets upset with me because i want to go out sometimes and have fun. WE have lived here for 4 mos and i dont have a single friend. People in my school wont talk to me and i work from home. I told him That I want to go to San Diego to see my sisters and make some extra cash working with her for two weeks. Do you think its wrong of me to feel that I need to get away and be with a friend?
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@freesoul (3021)
• Egypt
8 Jan 07
I don't see anything wrong in you wanting to be away for a while, distance and space can bring people even closer when they start to miss each other, but I would worry that you may feel uncomfortable returning home again to the dull life after spending fun time away from home and you will start to argue even more and problems escalate, I know that it's sometimes very hard but you say it was only for 4 months, maybe you should give it more time and effort to find new friends and some activities to actively engage with
@samson1967 (7414)
• India
8 Jan 07
Is it your sister or friend you want go with and stay with ?. Good females will always love to stay with their husbands. You should not be selfish in having fun and touring. Take your Husband also with you, you will enjoy it more.
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• United States
8 Jan 07
my husband is in the navy so he cant come with me. Its my sister and how am i being selfish if i never leave or home unless its to buy stuff for our home and I am so far away fro all of my firends and family. Basically your telling me that I am being selfish because I want to be happy too?
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• India
8 Jan 07
Thought u Both living together, and my idea was to convey you to go out together. Now I agree with you that you are not Selfish,but a lonely soul longing to associate with another like minded soul like yr. Sister. Generally, military guyz are strict, about their spouse. You got convince him politely and humbly.
• United States
8 Jan 07
I have tried that but it doesnt seem to work. I hate to say it but if he cant seem to work with me as much as i do with him, he is gonna lose a good and loyal spouse... I wouldnt want him to go with me cuz its bonding time for my sister and i plus i spend everyday with him except for when he is at work. I have no female - companionship here. Everyone needs that in a sense to keep sane...
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@Lecaro (1100)
• Romania
18 Jan 07
i know the feeling! but you are married at 19 years old? i think you should go to see your sisters and have some fun...
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• United States
22 Jan 07
Absolutely not! You are still young and finding out new things about yourself. In any relationship you must have trust. You are definitely a prize judging from your photo and he maybe a bit insecure. You must have an outlet to exscape and talk to friends every once and a while. If not you will go crazy. Let him know how much you love him and tell him that he must trust you.