Problems in my relationship with my girlfriend. ADVICE NEEDED PLEASE.

All relationships have ups and downs, and you appear to be in a "down" right now. You don't have to be kissing and hugging on her all the time to make her feel special. I know for me, it just takes very subtle things to make me feel special. That doesn't mean buying gifts or spending a lot of money on her. If you know she's had a long day, massage her shoulders or rub her feet. If you're out in public, hold her hand, open doors for her, pull out her chair for her when she sits down. Just be a gentleman. Kissing and hugging aren't the only ways to show affection. If you're meant to be together, you'll get through this. The fact that she doesn't want to break up shows that she has the patience to see it through and that she truly cares about you. It will get better if it's meant to be. Good luck!

Do you do anything New or exciting in your relationship.. or do you just take her out on the same old boring dinner and movie date? try being more romantic with her. Maybe when she is not looking for it give her a hug and a kiss and show her that you care and love her. just try doing new things in your relationship..you know spice it up hope i helped and good luck

Hi,nice to meat you.Try to change sothing in your live,she's boring and you must try something new in her live.

I agree dont ever stop doing the things that use to make both of yall hearts race for each other. Keep the love and attraction going. Because it is nothing wrong with hugging, snugging, kissing just showing complete affection is what men and women that are in relationships need. A women wants to feel loved and secure and attracted and so do men. But if you are not showing her this, yes that can potentially change what and how she feel about you. In a relationship couples are suppose to bend over backwards to keep each other happy. Since she dont want to split up with you thats a good sign she was hinting to you of what she wants you to do. Love her and you will get that back in return. Show a lot of affection.

well that might have been a kind of attraction. might be u feel this advice a bit harsh but better wud be if u forget her if u dont want to be with her and just dont feel sorry about any decision u take.

may i ask if u still love her?..if u do,try to work it out.. try to make her feel that she's still especial to you. try to go out like 2 to 3x a week.

I know exactly how your girlfriend is feeling . She just needs you love and attention sometimes when you stop doing things you used to do when you first start going out girls cans tart feeling insecure and suddenly feel like she's running after you and you don't even care that much . You need to constantly hug her and kiss her so that she feels like she still is important to you. Because in her mind she pictures your relationship to be like what it was initially and when things change she could feel like you have changed . I hope i helped :P

Pay more attention to her. Care her more. Of course hug and kiss is normal action to tight the relationship. So u must do it :)

You should spend more time with her, and give her more attention. Also, she's probably not getting that "excited" sensation anymore because she's used to seeing you. Tell her that.

GIVE HER SOME TIME ...DONT BE SHY OF EXPRESSING UR LOVE VIA HUGS AND KISSES AS THEY GIVES A BOND TO UR RELATIONSHIP.... GOOD GIRLS ARE HARD TO FIND AND IF U THINK SHE IS THAT KIND OF GIRL DONT LOSE HER BYBYE TAKE CARE AND BEST OF LUCK

well if you love her id do everything you can to make this girl feel special because she should feel like the most important person in your life and if you dont show her that shes not going to feel that way. also make a point to do little things here and there to show her that she really is speical to you and that you love her. and do it fast before you lose her because if she doesnt feel loved and special shes not going to stick around forever.

i think why she doesn't feel her "heart race" anymore is because you two have been going out for a long time. you are too much comfortable with each other that's why nothing seems to be a new thing anymore. i used to feel that way with my boyfriend but i take it positively. i figured out that being comfortable with a person is much more important than having your heart race with someone whom you are not comfortable enough to be your real self with. what i advice you to do is to spice things up a little. do things to her that you don't normally do like unexpected kisses or a surprise treat to the coffee shop. it doesn't matter if you want to do it all the time. what matters is that it is unexpected, a surprise, and a little way out of the ordinary. you don't need to give her all your attention all the time as this may tire her just the same. the point is to make up for the time you are not with her.

You guys are only young and sometimes people grow apart my only advice is try getting back to the basics and see how you go from there affection isnt allways hugging and kissing sometimes its the sweet things we do for each other without prompting the other option is that you are both in comfy shoe sindrome try being spontenious and give it all you got.

you guys must be in a phase where you have to go and discuss the feelings you both have...young as you are, you may have experienced true love at an early age....affection may be shown in some other ways but to forget showing any of these would definitely lose the spark in your emotions...try singing for her...maybe it would make some wonders...look at the bright side you are still together...Good luck...

Well, if you really love her you have to make a way to light the flames of your love once more. Find ways and ask her what things she find losing interest in you and your relationship then make a move to fill that void.

go back to the past and see for yourself what made her attracted to you??... just need spice up a relationship...

Ya friend i can understand your situation. See there are a few things that you should must keep in mind when you meet ur girl friend. One thing that girls always like is to be praised. You can give simple statements like she is looking different than before, tell her about her hairs and all. Your responce depends all on your state of mind. Try out and these things may help you out.

hi buddy, yr prob aint that tough to resolve ,but sure needs immediate attention. many a guys/gals experience wat u goin throu rite now.when a female says such words, trust me, she just means to say" i want you to tell me that you love me, i need your love , your time and attention" , and if you really love her, and cant afford to lose her, then go ahead, express your love to her. be a free spirit wen u do so. sound crazy to her. p.s take my word- " every " galfriend, needs to be assured FROM TIME TO TIME, that her man loves her. bring her flowers , a card ( a must, on which a poetic peice of love is written by you), n tell her that u still find her to be the most beautiful lady on earth..look into her eyes n say "i love u". preferably , pick up roses, n choose evening/ late evening time just try this, you will sure win her back..

hi there it seems that u know ur girlfriend for a pretty long 3 years. in that period u must have gone through various turmoils in ur relationship but it seems u patched up but now a serious problem has arise. what i think is thatu should know lovecan be defined in 3 ways it can be physical, mental and pletonic. i would say those who believe in pletonic love are real fools. it cant exist. more over some physical attachments are required to make a love affarir get prolonged and successful. u said that u r not in a mood to always have hugs and kisses. thats ok it depends on the mood. but its a neccissity to get ur relation stay on track. more over i think that u should understand whether the girl really loves u or not. and loves u in the way u r. i have seen love relationships break up like a pack of cards though it might be running with all its vigour for 8 years. so thats apparent how long is the relation. u need to understand her what are needs are and she should be understanding to know what u want. it should be a viceversa process. as we cannot clap with one hand sameway a relation cant stay when there is no understanding from both the sides. i hope u get my message. stay well and wish u a long prolonged lovelife.

Jus speak to her and tell her ur feelings. she will surely undersand.