The 2 most essential factors in a relationship (Please give reasons)

My two factors are: TRUST & RESPECT These two must exist otherwise you don't have a relationship, whether it is with your wife, lover, child or friend. I 'hear' the cries of 'unconditional love is the key' in these posts, I'm going to stick my neck out and say: Look, do you really understand what UNCONDITIONAL LOVE is??? No relationship between lovers is unconditonal, there are always conditions. Unconditional loves says 'I will love you no matter what' and frankly is the cause of some abusive relationships. However I do recognise one source of unconditional love - I have a baby daughter (OK she's more of a toddler now) and I can confirm that I will love her no matter what she ever does to me. I can give that guarantee to no other person alive...this is not a sad thing, I just know myself and am being honest. Trust & Respect, those are my two...and they will get you a long way.

Maybe I'm a Libran that's why I'm thinking in such way. Well, in order to have a good relationship, you need a balanced life in all area. You would also definitely need to make sure the person that comes in to your surroundings makes things better for you and these things can be hidden. For example he/she is being bossy and control you around, but then again you like it and got the stability in life so it's a workable relationship; but if the person hates to be controlled by a bossy person and wants a lot of freedom in life, of course it's unable to work out. So I guess when you say understanding, I think you need that before you even start a relationship. If the person you are in love with doesn't understand you in all things or everything no matter what you try or express, I guess you might as well give your love to your pets, they'll understand better. I think relationships starts off by understanding and trusting then you get the love and grace as in conditional and unconditional love between one another. As I was saying it is a balance because: a) If you understand too much of a person, you might be bored of the person and lose attraction. b) If you trust too much of a person (you need to remember that even you trust your whole life, he/she might be a jerk at one time and misplace your trust) so you also need to take a bit of caution c) Conditional love is something you need so when there are times you are lost, you will know something that is there and will always be there such as is conditional love to you maybe financially or being a provider, which is something you can fall back when relationship is unstable at times. d) Unconditional love is the most important of all and I think by unconditional love, it's usually the most important person and indirectly includes everything such as love, understanding, courage, bravery, etc. If you see the news usually unconditional love gets to the news such as a mother saving a baby by holding up a car to save her kid under it, that's also unconditional love, which usually comes in when your relationship is already on top of everything. Well, I'm not sure whether I was making sense but at least I have a go. Talking about that remember: (I saw it on my friend's msn nickname a few days back) "Do not love someone you can live with, love someone you cannot live without."

The two most essential factors in a relationship is trust and understanding. If you have these two things love will come on it's own. When you truly understand each other there can be disagreements without argurments. When you truly trust each other there is no jealousy. Without jealousy and arguements you can truly have a great relationship.

1 faith with lot of love. 2 Understanding.

I would say trust and compromise. I don't think a relationship with anyone will thrive without trusting that person. Compromise is essential to a good working relationship. Without it, you won't get very far.

i think love and trust is th two most essential factors in a relationship because to me love is caring, sharing, protecting, you have to be able to trust a person in order to be comfortable in sharing your deapest and personal thoughts

I would say love is the main one if there is no love in the relationship then it will never work and to be truthful if there is no love the couple should not be together in the first place. I think there needs to be understanding aswell because people do alot of wrong things in life and that is just a part of life it is a everyday concurrence. There is also other things which you need to take into porspective aswell such as determination because if the couple is not determained to make the relationship to work then it never will. One of the other main ones which you need is trust i am a very insucure person and if there is no trust in the relationship then it will never work.

While not denying that love at first sight is possible and indeed does happen, love usually develops from a lot of other feelings. Love, in its truest sense, is not normally instantaneous. Love normally develops out of friendship. I believe the most important aspects of any sort of friendship between two people are respect and liking. Over years of counselling I have listened to people telling of love growing cold from a variety of reasons. Where there is mutual respect, problems which can drive people apart, are usually faced and rectified. Along with respect, I would place liking. Love, in its looser sense, is flimsy and changeable. Where there is liking - a real appreciation of each other - and mutual respect, love takes on its real meaning and is then in control. I would agree with you, therefore, that love is the essential factor, but with so many meanings to that word today, qualification is necessary.

I totally agree with you.Love and understanding are the most important thing in marriage.But above this, faith in each other and commitment to each other is more important.

I would also go with Love and understanding, If you love you partner then you would only be able to survive in relationship, if you have better understanding then only you can go ahead with the decisions that require bioth of yours consent, other wise if you are not having a good understanding the petty fights would arouse then and now.But at the same time love and Understanding are two sides of same coin, If you have understanding then only you can love a person. o ther then love and understanding, There is one more thing that you needed in successful relationship and that is commitment.

I think it all hangs in unconditional love and honesty. Think about it: as long as you have these two, nothing could tare you apart because 1) you're love doesn't hang in anything; it's pure and "don't cost a thing" and 2) because you will always tell the truth and bring everything out in the open; no secrets means nothing to hide between each other.

I agree with what you said. Love is the most important thing. You must wake every day and show the love that is in your heart to your partner in every way that you can. Never forget that a relationship is something that must be worked at to keep it feeling new and beautiful. If you do one nice thing for your partner a day (or more! ^_^ ) it will go so far towards keeping the relationship healthy. And understanding is also good. I think that listening to your partner and trying to understand where they are coming from is very important! ^_^ So you have pretty much hit the nail on the head. Love and understanding, and/or listening. I think that these are the best things! ^_^

for me love and trust..one can not stand alone without the other.

unconditional love n faith r the two most important ingredients....unconditional love forges two into one n faith keeps them forged together

I would have to go with love and HONESTY.. honesty is a big thing for me since i have been so betrayed in the past that i now get hurt by even the smallest lie. I am lucky though that i have found a great guy that feels no need to lie to me and he has been honest about things i never thought he would.. evensome things that hurt, but he was honest and that is a big thing for me!

I am more simplistic. All you need is a you and a me. The rest is gravy. That's all the relationship should revolve around.

For me the most essential for a relationship are ready to sacrifice, caring nature and not to miss, love. Without these factors a relationship cant exist for long.

I think any relationship is standing on two pillars wether its the relationship of friendship or love or parential relationship or any other kinds of relationship its standing on two pillars. One is love and other is trust. If you have these two things then you are having a successful relationship.

I think understanding , love and faith are the essential factors of relationship..

I think understanding , love and faith are the essential factors of relationship..