widowhood

I hate those crap things. We are in 21st century & still think about those practices. she should not care about anyone. he should be herself. she should not abey anyone. she should lead her life herself. i guess she will be having childrens & grand childrens too. she should enjoy with them her next part of life.

I hate those crap things. We are in 21st century & still think about those practices. she should not care about anyone. he should be herself. she should not abey anyone. she should lead her life herself. i guess she will be having childrens & grand childrens too. she should enjoy with them her next part of life.

Thats really nice if she is ready to start her life over. I think you should support her fully. My mom wore coloured sarees after my father was no more and it was my grandmother who insited on that. MY aunty also wore a mangalsutra after uncle passed away in his remeberance - for her it was the source of strength. I think times have changed and no one should be allowed to make an issue of these things rather help the widow of the deceased to cope up as best as you can. Tell your elders to let her do whatever she wants to do they have no business in interferin in her life.

i have an aunt who has been widowed a few years ago.. and she wear a bindi and participates in all the functions of the family.. no ristrictions.. she is alive and she has a right to live life as she wants

when she is at her own home let her be as she likes, but as she is living in the society she has to go as per the society otherwise society will laugh at her

hey common .this is 2007 . one of my aunt lost her husband at 30 . but she keeps bindi, wears pants , attend all functions . she has a kid with whome she always play. if their husband is lost not everything is lost

Such practises are just for maintaing their status, these practises are coming from an old India and people dont have guts to abandon it, they think that if we will break these then nobody will respect us, all bakwas yesterday I saw the movie Dor starring ayesha takia and gul panag, very good movie and do watch Water also,It is also based on such cocept. Why these widows dont have normal life when men have thier normal life when their wives die.

In this century also that kinds of things are happening... Soo sad

i m wid u who d hell r people 2 advice us wat 2 do n wat not 2 do if d aunt has lost her husband dn she doesnt need 2 b alwas sad n stop living her life she have 2 live n shud do watever she wants 2 do n watever makes her happy "live 4 urself n as u want not 4 others n as others want"

I agree with you. I think people should pursue happiness, with in practicality mostly. If your aunt's life wasn't great with her late husband, she should try to enjoy it now while she can. Her family should be grateful if she'd sieze the opportunity.

this society has a lot of foolish practices and it is one among them.would they do yhe same if a man lost his wife.he'd be insisted to marry another woman even if his age is 80 and above.what a foolish tradition....

i think wat ur aunty did is correct.she should hav a bindi and live life.this is a more civilized world now.i really hate people who say that widow's should not hav a bindi..i feel like smashing thier heads.

These are really stupid practices in India which I hate the most...Already Its the biggest pain for a lady to lose her husband to top it all these stupid customs which gives nothing but pain...Every person in this world has the right to do wat he or she wishes to and no one has the right to change that. I think ur aunt should do what she feels is right.

let it be

you r correct. its her life already she has spent most of her with that man who was meant nothing to her. Atleast these people should realise this fact and let her live happily whatever is left for her at this age. I wish her a long life with good health and prosperity. My mom used to tell that elders wishes will always take us higher. I feel that these elders should be respected and people should know that they know everything and what they know should also be right. What is the botheration of others in her way of living. Just becuase your aunt doesnt like you holding a mobile will you stop using mobile phone. Definitely not. its the same way. please let her live in peace

she should do what is best for her...

sorry God will comefor you.

Ilike your responce & it is good also

Wearing a bindi dosent harm anybody we have to come out from these culture