Why does anyone WANT to have kids!?

Good for you for being brave enough to see that we have choices today. There are plenty of people who have 3,4 and more kids to make up for the kids that you don't have. I have been happily married for over 8 years, and we have chosen not to have children. Not because we can't, because we don't want to. I'm about 10 years older than you, and guess what the benefits have been from my choice? More money for us, more time to do what we want, and improve ourselves as adults, more time to pursue our interests. I am so over all these people that think you are required to have kids just because you are married. If you freak out when you are 45 and want kids, you can always adopt. For me, pets are my kids, I am happy and fulfilled, and I do not need to have a baby to see a "mini-me" or to have a friend, or to have someone take care of me when I'm older. I'll be just fine, and so will hubby.

i do"t knw,but 4 me i do"t like it.

do you know one thing, FOR EVERY THING THER IS A SPECIFIC TIME, you have to do right thing at right time, today you are thinking that you dont want a baby, i can not explain what you people are going to miss, having a child is bliss, you have your own world with your child,,,,, i can understand that yu are scared of pregnancy...... but just think ... if your parents had the same thoughts as yours then? will you be in this world to have such beautiful life? ... i am not going to force or advise you, after all it is your own life but i want to worn you... IF THE TIME IS GONE THEN YOU WILL REGRET FOR NOT HAVING ANY OFFSPRING... as i know it is difficult in later age.... hope you will read some good books on it .... rest is upto you..... one more thing i am going to become father very soon....

I think that if that's how you feel about it.. then you shouldnt have kids.. if your thinking is in those lines.. you probably woudnt be a good parent.. you would feel resentment for your kids/children. and make your self and then your children miserable. granted kids arent for everyone.. but I'd say people that look at the situation the way you .. shouldnt

it's normal to have kids.i thinck that is our reason on living.I thincks without kids then we won't have a purpose in life.If you put this question then...why don't you ask..you ruined somehow the marriage of your parrent's?Aren't thay proud and happy to have you? I thinck a kid is a joy, not something expensive..is a life witch give;s you all the good thinck's.If the marriage ruine's it's ruines becouse of the two husband not becouse of a child.I thinck he is the one who can macke a marriage work much better.I thinck i renunce of all for a child...

Just because you are married, and you are a woman doesn't mean that you have to have children. Maybe one day you'll both decide it's the right time, and you want to, and maybe you'll never want to. I can't explain why I wanted children, in fact, that is a very good question. Why did I want children? Maybe it was my desire to make up to my own children my issues with being adopted and other issues I won't get into, maybe it was just that need to give love to someone, someone who'd love me unconditionally. There's so many little bits of reasons I guess. One thing I can say, and I say to many family members or people sometimes is that one of the many things I love about my 3 boys, is no matter what, I know there's not a single day that goes by that I don't laugh so hard I tear. They are hysterical, bring even more meaning to my life. In fact, being a mother, I find it quite tough to explain what my boys mean to me. I truly know now, people who don't have children can't even begin to imagine what it's like, it's truly amazing. On the other hand, why not just enjoy your husband, life, and only have each other to be responsible for. My 3 boys are now 5, 3 and 2 yrs old, they are in preschool mornings and those mornings where all 3 are in, truly give me a break as I'm a stay at home mom. I'm just now starting college again after taking a detour. When you are a mom, you aren't first anymore. I'll be straight forward, there's pros and cons to being a parent, but there's pros and cons to being a spouse, or having a house, or anything in life. I guess my ramblings are to try to explain what my children mean to me, how they have truly changed me, and my life. I look back to when I was say 18, 23 whatever, I can't even believe how I was then. I'm very different now, but yet the same in ways too. So I can understand now that I am a parent, the reasons why and why not to have children. I've gotten to experience the before and the now. A friend of mine when I met her around 7 years ago, she wanted no kids ever, nothing to do with children, wasn't into it at all. She vowed to never have children. She went to my (1st sons) baby shower. I don't know what happened but she started thinking, and thinking she did, and her mind started to change, and long story short she now has a beautiful daughter and she has no regrets. She's one person I never thought would have children and did, surprised still to this day. To sum up, the sacrifices you make for your children are so worth it, time has flown since my children were born. One day they will move out on their own and I can only hope they lead healthy, safe lives and that I'm not worrying all the time for the rest of my life with how fast kids grow up too fast these days, freaks me out. For anyone saying to you that it's time, or is it time, or you're married and they expect you to have kids, be nice but make it clear, just because you are married doesn't mean you will definitely have children. That is up to you and your hubby. Good luck, and love your dog picture, so cute!

Why have children? Because they are the best thing in the world. To see the little person that you created, to watch them grow and learn new things is the best. They are expensive, and time-consuming, but I don't really think I sacrifice to much. For any of the times I don't get to go out or any of the things I dont get to buy because of soemthing for my son, is paid back to me many times over ever since I first laid eyes on him, with every smile and kiss. I get to teach him new things and love watching him when he learns to do somethign new. I was there when he sat up, crawled and took his first step. His first word was "Mama" and that was great. I would never change my life for anything. There are sooo many people that would love to have children so I kind of think it's sad that you don't want any children, but I also think you maybe to selfish to have children. How great is your marriage if you're afraid that children may ruin it. I'd understand not wanting children right now, but to not know why people want or have children. Maybe because they're not as selfish as you.

I'm glad that yo are not listening to other people. If you were to become a parent at this time you would make a terrible one. All things at the right time. Don't let any one pressure you into haveing any.

Children are expensive to raise. But, the need to nurture and love is something that drives people to want to have children of their own. It is a personal choice though.

Well kids could also be a very fulfilling thing and make your marriage even stronger. However, I agree with you, the thought is scary. Plus you are young. Don't let anyone rush you into something you are not ready to do or are not sure that you can afford. People like to have children and I don't think you can begrudge them that. It makes a lot of people happy. Plus a lot of women experience something that I once heard described as "baby fever". This is when their body is physically (with hormones) telling them that it wants to be pregnant. This is often more common in poor areas or small towns when girls also feel like a child would bring them something they don't have or fulfill some part of their life for them.

yes children are expensive, time-consuming, and you wil have to make alot of sacrifices. But, it is worth it all to hold that child in your arms. to be the teacher and leader of that child. to know that this is child is a gift. children will teach you about a whole another way to love and to think and to be. i say if you feel you are not ready that is fine, but please don't rule it out.

"Well my husband and I are both 26 and everyone is saying it's time to have kids, we've been married almost 1 year and it's been going really great. So why have children? Aren't they just expensive, time-comsuming and they are a reason to have to sacrifice so much. What if kids ruin our marriage? I dont know, seems like too much giving up to do and it's scary. I just still dont get why people want and have kids? " it think not everyone doesn't whant kids i realy whant kids and i have kids And i think alot of couples like to have kids . A fruit of love .And i think that it is true and you need to think like that too :D .

Looks like you don't really understand much. It's another step into marriage. It's also a way for the husband and wife to come closer to each other. Kids will not ruin marriage. The way you raise them it's up to you. I mean i would like to have kids, hard to explain why though. It's because well it's like giving a part of yourself to someone else.

Many people want to have kids because they believe that that is what they are supposed to do in life. We are brought up being told that when we get older, we are supposed to get married and have kids. Some people believe that they are supposed to have kids because of thier religion or culture. My wife and I have all but decided against having kids because life is just stressful enough for us now without them. We prefer dogs.

if you dont have kids, who's gonna take care of you and your husband when ur old and shivel up. i'm not saying you should go and have kids now, but you should have kids, when the time is right. u think of them as being expensive, but when u get old, its gonna be more expensive to get a good helper or private nurse to good care of you, than your own child (doing it free of cost and out of love). you may be ill treated, all because you think kids are expensive. please make the right decision and please make it at the right time ok.

Simply because having kids is the most wonderful thing that can happen in someone's life besides if we want to sustain the human population we have to have kids

u don't have to have kinds if you don't want to people are probably being nosey donot mind them. do what u want. i personallydo not think i want kids when i am older may change my mind but i acan not see myself wanting them.

i thing so every one thinking is diffrent. acoording to me i except all thing which u r return but one thing when ever u see her/him smiling i lost all your tention. They make your life beutiful

don't you want to have kids?.. well i do. because for me it is the fruit of your love for each other. don't you think it nice to look into a child seeing the face of you and your husband in one beautiful creature? i think once you bot yourself a child, you wont remember thinking of these thoughts

You are absolutely right. You can wait for 2 to 3 yrs before you have. If you dont feel like it dont have. It will save a lot of hassel. A couple can enjoy married life to the hilt even without having kids.