How to announce to my wife that i have a kid with another girl?

jimmy, first are you sure its your child? i agree with other posters many women that are willing to sleep with married men will usualy sleep with more than one. so my advise if to ask for a blood test as soon as the baby is born. if it is your child then you have a resposiablity to that child. i would hope for the childs sake that you would be a part of its life as i grew up without my father and that is very hard thing for a child to deal with. Secondly. as for telling your wife. I would wait to be sure if it was yours or not. you don't want to casue waves if there isn't anyreason for it. i do think that you should be honest with your wife and tell her what you have been up to. one of the words in most wedding vows is honer. and to me honesty falls in that area. hopefully your wife is a understanding woman and would forgive you. but i do seriously recomend waiting to know if the kid is yours or not before you tell her about it. I actualy had a lady come to me and tell me that my husband of 2 years might be the father of her 4 year old son. now being understanding to the fact that i wasn't married to him at the time of so called conseption i was very undrstanding and we waited for the blood test to come back. and i am happy to say i know have a 5 year old son that lives with us and i am very proud of. so you never know. hope it works out for you. best of luck!

First and foremost, are you sure it is your baby? If this girl was willing to sleep with a married man maybe she was willing to sleep with several married men. I would find out before assuming you are the father of the baby. Secondly, you know you have done something wrong and now you need to rectify the situation. I would start on my knees and ask for forgiveness. I hope your wife is a very forgiving person for your sake. Many men are not so lucky.