Not Listening...

I've been the one not listened too, and also the one who wasn't really listening (i know its terrible) - If you have one friend or relationship that you feel that person is consistently not listening and its important to you then I would suggest you talk to them about it and make sure they are focused on what you are saying, I would accuse them just inquire about their seeming lack of interest. I remember once I had a boss that complained that when he was talking to me I just "blank stared" him and he didn't feel I was listening or paying attention, although I always did the job as he asked and responded appropriately in the conversation, so it wasn't that I wasn't listening, I just wasn't responding in a manner that he felt I should. Something to think about anyways :)

It is one thing to have a friend, it is another thing for the friend to have a listening ear. Not all friends have listening ears. You only need to know which of your friends to whom you can pour out your heart. Some friends are worst than wolf in sheep's clothing.

Whenever I try talking to someone, I try to get them to repeat what I just said to see if they were listening or not. If not, I would not bother saying anything that was important to me but maybe not to them. I am sorry that this happened to you and the person you talked about. Some of the people that I bowl with do not listen to me when I tell them something and that annoys me.

Yes, oh yes, you notice their eyes start to glaze over or you can see their mind is wandering and them you've lost them. It's like a haze that comes down and distracts them, they feel obliged and obligated to listen to you but really secretly they wish they were somewhere, anywhere here but there sitting and trying desperately hard to prove they are listening. Then you hit them with a double whammy by asking them something which proves they weren't listening in the first place. Had my fair share of so called friends in the past who have done that. Selected hearing I call that, but amazing when it's they who want to talk to you and expect 110% listening ear from you!

well everybody does that from time to time but if that person does it all the time, why bother and if that person is boyfriend/girlfriend or spouse, then maybe you should not be with that person. to me if they do it all the time then it means they dont really care what your feelings are.

I make darn sure the person is listening before I start talking. This used to happen to me a long time ago, but one day I decided that I'd had enough. If the person isn't going to listen to what you have to say, you really shouldn't bother with them. Likewise if you don't listen to someone, they'll have good reason not to bother with you.

Well I do that to my friend because when she calls me its about the same od thing I get tired of hearing the same old thing and giving the same answer and she still does the same thing and complain. If this person is not listening don't tell them anything keep questions and answers short maybe they will notice then.

Yeah i think all people go through this at times. I know I had a few times and if you think about it really hard I am sure that u will also se ethat you´re not always listening. i think it is human and that all people do it, not to be mean or something, they just do!

yes of course. most of people around me sometimes do these. i think this is not such a big problem. you can talk to them about this and tell them your feeling.

Humans are not perfect in this world. Everyone has their own talents, habits and behaviour. Hence, there are some people who are good listener, while some are not. Liofe is short and personally I feel that we should live happily. So, I believe you should not bother with it. :) Try talking to someone else.

its not new at all. people do that all the time. we sometimes tend to tell people things they are not interested in. i've learnt to just answer what people ask, and offer nothing volutarily.

It happens sometimes/ Yes, I do feel bad, if someone is not paying attention to me. I try to divert his attention towards me and if he does not, I simply stop my speech. Stopping suddently in a conversation does help to divert other's attention. Moreover, if someone is not paying heed, his gestures reveal me a lot about his attention towards me. I will try to catch the fake listener, but asking short questions in between.

I have a friend that does this to me too. I know however if its something i WANT her to hear i have to tell her within the first 10 minutes of conversation on the phone or get her to turn off the movie. Other times i tell her things just to tell someone and i feel better having said things out loud. I wont repeat things to her when her attention wanders like that. Some days this friend i could tell her the most outrageous things like hey i eloped to las vegas last night and she'll be so spaced out she'll say thats nice then 10 minutes later go what you got married?

Well not exactly pouring my heart out but having any type of conversation where the person is not listening. Oh yeah...my mother-in-law would be the culprit and it totally bugs the c***out of me! Not only does she not listen to what you are saying but about half way through your conversation she will totally cut you off...turn and start talking to someone else. It is very rude and I am not sure she is even aware that she is doing this but my daughter in particular has had her feeling hurt numerous times by her grandmother when this happens. Now whenever she does it we just look at each other and laugh because we expect it.

yes i have noticed this too. many people i find are so artificial, they will always convey an attitude that they are very concerned about you, while in reality they really dont care. its these type of people to whom when you convey your inner sorrows, you get an impression that they are not actually listening. you see, nobody is actually completely stupid. you do get a feeling when somebody is not truly worried about you, and is only showing concern just to be polite. with time, you will learn to identify such people, its best to keep your distance from them.

Well it has never happened to me. When ever I have talked people have listened. Maybe you need to analyse whom you are talking to. If the other person is not listening then he was a bad choice to start with to share your ins with

It happens, that's why at times, I keep to myself because I know that nobody can listen to me better than me. You shouldn't bother that much because it's something that will always happen. It's even possible you do it at times without noticing.

well i dont know what to tell you other then i guess it depends who your talking to and what you are saying. if its not something that they are interested in then chances are they arent gonna listen and if your saying something they dont wanna hear again chances are they arent gonna listen either but i guess if you really wanna find a way to get someone to listen then id suggest as your talking stopping and recapping by asking them some kind of question having to do with what your talking about or by getting the person involved in what your saying make it a two way discussion back and forth it might work better then just talking to that person.