Divorce, What Now?

I am awfully sorry to hear this. It will be a difficult adjustment for you and your child. Is there no way you both can work things out? There is no way you will loose your child, unless your husband prooves you are unfit, and he can take better care of him. Good luck dear. Try to patch things up if any way possible.

Courts tend to favor the mother in most custody cases as long as you have a place to live and a decent job you are already ahead of the game. If he does fight you for custody it is good to have kept up with any records of domestic disturbance calls made to the police or any other background he may have with the law, I wish you best of luck.

Like the first person said...the courts usually favor mothers in cases like this especially if you feel it is unsafe for you and your son. My best wishes to you on this and just remember to try and stay strong, you will get past this *hugs*

I went threw the divorce process once and it's not easy. You really have to get a lawyer involved. You shouldn't lose your son. Most judges side with the mother. You may have to share custody unless there is something your husband has done wrong and you if you can prove it would harm your child. Joint custody really bites but at least you have the physical custody. My girls where 2 and 4 when I went through my divorce, my ex tried to take my rights away. Didn't work because he was a violent man. He did get joint custody with me so he had them everyother weekend. No holidays. He never spent the holidays with family so he didn't get to have them then. Just keep your chin up and everything will work out. Good Luck.

Have you thought about counseling? Or suggested anger management classes for him? Also, I think there is some prejudice against the one who leaves the house. I wish you the best of luck and I know you will do what's best for you and your son.

I'm really sorry to hear that, I'm afraid I can't be of much help here but I wish there's still a way for you both work things out, divorce will be hard on the kid and maybe for both of you too. I'm sure you would know better but if your husband not physically abusive as you said there may be still chances for him to get better, it may work if you seek help from family members or counseling to try to fix things between you or you may separate for a while and see how things will go, just try not to rush the divorce before you explore all other options. I wish you luck whatever you will do :)

i'm sad to hear this mfrancq! i know how hard this is for you. just be strong, and keep the faith. btw, did you get that job you were interviewed for before? you really have to get a job so it wouldn't be difficult for you to get by with the divorce and the custody process. i hope things would go well for you and your son.

Find legal aid that specializes in domestic violence. You write that the environment is not safe for yourself or your son, find help through a local domestic violence advocate group. Usually, domestic violence organizations can help you with basic filings of temporary restraining order. You need to get custody and visitation settled right away. Until you do so, "possession is nine-tenths of the law" and your husband has as much right to your son as you do. The police only enforces court orders, police do not adjudicate custody. There are also federal anti-alienation laws prohibiting you from hiding or witholding your child from his other parent, so be sure you read all the fine print, and get custody straightened out first. Please get counseling from a trained domestic violence counselor before you make any drastic moves unless you or your son are in danger, then please move safely and swiftly.

I am glad you were able to find a job and I also agree the child should be in your favor. That is one thing I am thankful for with my divorce we had no kids.

I am thinking that you should go ahead and move out if you feel the safety or yourself or your child is in jeopardy. If you have no place to go call a safe house that can put you up until you can find accurate housing. Here is a website you may be able to get more information on for safe housing. http://www.safehousenv.org This is the best I can do for now since you don't give a state where you live. I wil pray for you and your family in you time of need. God bless you

dont make the divorce at least you have an other person with you wish to get married.. wait..

If you find it difficult to cope with the marriage and think that it is going to be unsuitable for your son, there is no meaning prolonging this ordeal. Just be aware that the custody of the son is not surety in such cases and be prepared to hear that your husband have some rights over him.

don't let your son grow up in a violent atmosphere where one doesn't give a damn and get mad at the other. Your child will pick up your behaviour and this will not be good to his growing years. Make your son the center of your life, the reason to move out and on to another chapter of your life.