How to say no?

I appreciate your feelings but would like to say specifically on work related thing that its time for you to be professional. In jobs, professional careers there is nothing called feelings and attachments. If you boss finds someone better then you ready to work on lesser salary then yours he will take only minutes to decide on your replacement. Same applies to you. Moreover you are working extra with a hope to get promotions and now because your boss is habitual of getting extra work done by you it will be difficult for you to say no because now if you say no to him he will say you are not working properly so certainly it will affect your professional career also. I suggest you to make a change to a new company and from day one be professional and remember 1 man and 1 wife can give birth to a baby in 9 months but 1 man and 9 wifes cannot give birth to a baby in 1 month. Be professional.

You are what is known as - a people-pleaser. you cant say no, you volunteer way beyond the call of duty, and you do things for other people even when you dont want to anymore. You want people to like you and you feel that the only way this will happen is if you pander to their every whim. Insecurity and low self-esteem are usually at the very root of this problem. Deep inside you probably feel like the only way you'll get people to like you is to everybody's patsy. You feel like giving anything less than everything risk losing favor from the people around you. My advise is to be sincere. People pleasers usually feel that they're being "good" whatever that means. But to be blunt about it, they're mostly insincere. They do things not because they really want to, but because they're compelled by habit and fear. and the irony of it all, is that the more you give, the more people will take you for granted. If people tend to like you less, then let them eat your shorts, you cant please everybody anyway, even if you tried. At least no one can call you a fake. For me its better to be true to your nature and be unpopular, than to be a fake and be loved, but only for as long as you can keep on faking it. There's nothing so rewarding than finding even just one or two people will love you every bit as much. regardless of how repulsively unlovable you maybe. I've been through your situation. If you dont learn to say no, people will take advantage of you.

then that means you are not honest to yourself. be honest to yourself and it is easy to say no.

Grow up, girl. Learn to stand up for your self. When you really are overburdened, say so. If you do that once in a while, people will not trample over you. And because (so far) you have never said no, people will also believe you. Promotions are another thing, but if you impress your boss about your capabilities, esp. of how you can perform in your promoted capacity, you will get the promotion - unless you are in a government job in India or some place similar!

ya it happens wth me alot...i never say no to anybody even if a i want to coa i feel tht i may hurt a persons feelings while those same other ppl straight away say no to me when they wish to.. n when ever i say no once in a blue moon they get angry or off mood...y is that?? y don ppl care abt others feelings :S