15 year old has a baby, who is to blame?

Blame? Sometimes it's a waste of time. All we do is place blame, but no one takes responsibility. The parents were responsible for protecting their children (yeah, they are children!) from this. The parents should have and should continue to treat these kids like kids and supervise them. OK, it happenned once, we don't need it to happen again. What would I do now? I would give the baby up for adoption so that the baby and the kids have a chance at a good life. There is very little chance of it having a decent life in the situation it's in now - you said the kids are already fighting all the time... I feel that these children are obviously not responsible enough to try to raise a child of their own. Why not help everyone involved and give the baby to a loving, mature couple that can give it the love and guidance required while at the same time letting the kids take a mulligan on this one? Let them have a chance at a decent life without the added stress invovled with trying to raise a child when they have not yet been raised themselves? I know my view will not be a popular one, but sometimes we need to set our emotions aside and really analyze a situation logically. I wish your family the best in this time of crisis.

They have a baby its not a blame game, they need to take good care of the child. If they don't want them to have more kids someone needs to speak to them about birth control.

In this situation it is the parents to blame. If they didn't want something like this to happen then they shouldn't have let them spend weekends together. But there are other cases with teenagers having babies that it is not the parents faults at ALL.

For goodness sakes, how could anyone allow teenagers, with all those raging hormones,to spend weekends together. The parents were sending signals to these kids, whether or not they want to accept it, that their envolvement with each other was okay, and taking that relationship to the next level is also okay. 15 year olds are kids, our job is to guide them, to prepare them for adulthood, feed those young minds with lessons that will help them cope with the real world. The teen years is when parents need to be even more vigilant and interactive. However, now that the baby is here, the parents need to work together to help their children raise their child. I think each teenager should stay with their parent and the parents should work on some of the things I mentioned previously. I am not suggesting that the teenagers be banned from seeing each other, I just think the parents should take a different approach, they need to return to rearing their children, reenforcing important issues, like completing high school and college.Or at least learning some trade that will later on help them to support their baby. If the teenagers really do have a bond, it will last and completing their education won't interfer with that...SS

I think these parents are to blame. I also think they should be punished for contributing to the delinquency of minors.

If the parents allowed the 2 teenagers to spend weekends together, then they are to blame for what happened. Now that there is a baby involved, they need to help these kids out the best they can to raise this child. There is no way in heck that I would be letting my 15 year old daughter sleep over a boyfriend's house or letting him sleep over my house. What were they thinking?

this is terrible! It seems both sets of parents are to blame the boy and girl are babies them selves. The parents should have educated the kids on contriseptives. What parents would want there grandchild to be one of the many children brought up having many fathers, The two will not stay together for life the child will have many step parents in there lives how confusing!!

I would also blame the parents. Like you said they didnt give them any rules limits or boundries! Why would he be aloud to stay there? Thats not right!! They are way too young and they still have thier whole lifes ahead of them! Now they have a baby and everything is going to be way different for them and things are going to change. I hope that they realize that when their friends are going out and what them to join they cant! They have a baby to stay home and take care of!! So much more that they wanted to do is going to change now... Good luck with this....! :)

IMO The parents are to blame first. They should have ahd half a brain and not let them spend nights together. The first time my girl friend got to spend over we were both about 16-17 and it was because we were stuck at my parents place on New Year's Eve. It got so foggy we couldn't see 10 foot in front of the car. My mom called her dad and explained it to him. Afterwards we joked if he would have had a problem with it HE could try driving the 60 miles to pick her up. We were very well supervised in the sleeping arangments too. The kids are kind of to blame but raging hormones can sometimes get the better of people. They might not have ahd the education to know what the results could be. I mean everything that comes with raising a child, escially at such young ages. I hope the kids finish school and the baby grows up in a loving family.

parents share the blame for not being there to show the right path to the kids. the kids now are now parents, it will be tough for them. parents have to help them in whatever way they can to raise this baby. the kids have to continue their education and get a decent job. if they drop out from school it will be very bad for them and their baby.

i have been in this situation with my oldest daughter and i have know of lots of others that this has happened to,sadly in this day and age its now such a big deal as some would say until it happens to your or someone you love. in my opinion the parents should never have agreed to letting the kids spend weekends together!thats just like encouraging them and then why were they so shocked when there was a baby?! the parents should not have allowed them to be together like that but the kids would have found a way to be together anyway if they relly wanted and theres not much that could have been done!! you cant watch them 24-7. they are old enough to know that their lives will be changed for ever BUT the PARENTS should never had allowed them to be together for 1 night let alone a weekend!!! maybe they wanted a grandbaby and wanted to blame the kids,an easy way out. in my opinion there is no need to blame anyone now you cant change the fact that there is a baby God has it here for a reason!!! everyone needs to stop blaming each other,so what they can for the baby and the parents to hekp them.if they do to much blaming the parents might get tired of it all and leave without anyone knowing where they are or how they are!!! Just enjoy the baby while you can!!! i have grandkids that i dont get to see,1 in foster care that i dont know where he is,so they should enjoy the baby as much as possible!!!!!!!!!

I guess its your nephew and the parents as well. They must guide there children no matter how busy they are and for your nephew I guess she must have taken some extra precautionary measures if she is so inlove with someone else. Since the baby is there already they must try their best to become good parents. Your niece may need a lot of understanding from her parents inorder to sruvive that ordeal.

Supporting both kids to learn of being parents should be done by their parents although it's very premature age of being it. At the same way they have to live their live as normal as their friends do. It wouldn't be easy for sure but there isn't any choise.

I have a nephew who also had an early start. At age 15 had one child, then another , then another, then another! As a parent, we should all promote birth control. It is bound to happen, but parenthood can be avoided at this age. The story behind my nephew was basically the same as the other posts. Parents allowing them to stay all night together. We all have to sleep sometime!

It´s a matter of information, did someone told them how to prevent that to happening?

I personally think that teen pregnancy is not a great thing. This childs parents are only 15 years age difference. My sister is 12 years older then me and we have a sister/ brother realtionship. I don't know about this child, but my geuss is that the child will have a hard time growing up.

happend is happend, what is the use of blaming others for this? i hope its better to give an advice to all the parents not to let their children to spend weekends or any other days with their girl/boy friends. friendship should not over cross the limits becoz weekends make people weak

I think the parents are to be blamed. It is them who shape the future of a child. they should take care of all the dimensions of their child.

it is wrong to put all the blame on the two teens. yes they have done something wrong but this could not happen if their parents put proper guidance on them. it is just right for their parents to help them through their early years as parents.

It doesn't matter who's the blame anymore, the baby is a fact and they need to learn to make the best out of the situation! Dropping out of school would not be my favourite for either one of them! But making a plan, a 'live your life' plan to set goal for their highest potential, with the baby! I hope for them they have the best feedback and guidance they can imagine! I hope they learn to make wise and smart decisions and not to procastinate goals and things they want to achieve, because they still can! I wish them good luck and get everything out of life. For their parents, I hope they can manage this.. Wish all of you the best of the best!