Men are from Mars and women are from Venus
By forjosie
@forjosie (1544)
Indonesia
6 responses
@shywolf (4514)
• United States
9 Jan 07
I do believe that men and women are very different, and that is what this statement means. Or at least, I think that is what 'men are from Mars, women are from Venus' is attempting to say. *laugh* Of course, all men have some feminine traits, and all women have some masculine traits. But on the whole, women are more emotional and talk more. Men are more likely to be attracted to looks. Women to brains. It's just how it is, as sad as it is. Sometimes I think that it would be so much easier to be a man in today's society.. at least in some ways.
@hassanchop (820)
• United States
9 Jan 07
Well, I agree that men and women communicate differently. I honestly don't believe it's as impossible as people make it out to be to learn how each other communicates - it's just that some people are stubborn. I do believe it's easier for men to learn women though than it is for women to learn men. Men are generally the more logical-minded, while women are the more emotional-minded.
@diansinta (7544)
• Indonesia
12 Apr 07
a woman relieves stress by talking about it, which the man may interpret as an accusation or request for a solution. In terms of woman (or Venusian language) it is just sharing a problem which she wants to be acknowledged. The man on the other hand has a basic instinct to give a solution because Martians (that is, men) do not discuss a problem unless they want a solution.
This can become a bone of contention between a husband and wife because he jumps in with his answer and she interprets this as an undue interruption and makes her feel as if she's not being listened to. The author suggests that this conflict can be avoided if the man understands this situation and silently listens rather than offer a solution. Once she has been heard she will become de-stressed and normalized.
On the other hand, just listening to a man will be similarly frustrating for him, because he's asking for your advice, not your sympathy. The woman needs to understand this and offer practical advice rather than just being sympathetic.