Do You Go To The Funeral Or Just The Visitation/Wake

@wmg2006 (5381)
United States
January 9, 2007 7:42am CST
Last night a friend of mine from highschool had a visitation for his funeral, today they will have the actual funeral. I went to the visitation to show my respect to the family. Today I do not want to go to the funeral because it is so much sadder than the visitation. I always have this problem when it comes to friends. I also think the funeral is more for family than friends. Which do you do, just the visitation/wake or just the funeral or both?
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adnanmd2
@adnanmd2 (830)
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9 Jan 07
I wuld just like to visit for sometime
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wmg2006
@wmg2006 (5381)
• United States
10 Jan 07
Yes I was thinking it would be awkward for the family as well, since I had not seen any of them in many years.
bam001
@bam001 (940)
• United States
9 Jan 07
It depends on who the person is. If it is a close friend or family member I will go to both. THe closer the relation, the longer I stay at visitation. If it is a friend, but not necessarily a close friend or the relative of a friend, I will go to visitation only.
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wmg2006
@wmg2006 (5381)
• United States
10 Jan 07
Yes it was a friend from many years ago, so I just went to the visitation. Thank you for your response.
euniceeleanor
@euniceeleanor (5967)
• Singapore
9 Jan 07
i will depends on how close i am to the family or deceased...if i'm very close, then i will go to both and will spend more time there too. but if it's just an acquaintance, i will only go for the visitation.
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ipanks
@ipanks (890)
• Indonesia
10 Jan 07
i think choose both will be better because it will give a respect to his/her family.i know it will be sad but you can pray for that family.
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UcoksBaBa
@UcoksBaBa (800)
• Indonesia
10 Jan 07
he decision, his core you possibly still so many percent in having the principle, thank you.
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agusfebi
@agusfebi (813)
• Indonesia
10 Jan 07
If according to me you were again riper in taking the decision, his core you possibly still so many percent in having the principle, thank you.
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ntony9
@ntony9 (491)
• United States
10 Jan 07
There are times that i attend both visitation and burial when it is a very special person or a close family member but for most i just attend the visitation.
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CutenCuddley
@CutenCuddley (309)
• Canada
9 Jan 07
I am sorry about your friend. I lost my sister and I thinkthat its appropriate to show your self. I know that its really hard but fight back the tears. Good luck.
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TerryZ
@TerryZ (22076)
• United States
9 Jan 07
I dont think you have to go to the wake is more for the family. If you dont want to go then you dont go. And dont feel bad about it. They understand. best of luck to you
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gary87
@gary87 (129)
• India
9 Jan 07
you are absolutely right. its more for the family than for the friends. thus the friends have no role in this occassion. they are just for help, thats it. whenever we go as a friend then its for help and when as a family its for duty
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mughny
@mughny (48)
• Indonesia
10 Jan 07
i choose both, my friend :D
ae2324
@ae2324 (84)
• United States
10 Jan 07
I always do both (although ive only had to go to the cemetary twice for a funural). Its even more respectfull and its the last time you will ever see that person, or the box that they are in for that reason.
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harxian
@harxian (671)
• Philippines
10 Jan 07
i go on visitation but i dont look at the coffin because im scared i cant sleep at night the face of the corpse will always be on my mind so i just sit in the corner and pray for his soul.
natzmclean
@natzmclean (36)
• South Africa
10 Jan 07
For me personally, it depends on the situation eg: how close where you, do you know the family well etc. Then again, at the end of the day, you should do what you are most comfortable with.
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