I truly Love her a lot and want to marry her but there is only one problem......

I have always thought that those who need parental approval to marry, are not ready to marry. The two of you have to figure out how you are going to handle things. It sounds as if you are both a bit nervous and so marriage would probably be too stressful to maintain for long.

I agree with most of the posts here, stay together for a year or two and then consider marriage. Marriage is more of just a formality now anyways. I met my husband 7 years ago, we have lived together for 5 years now and still aren't "officially" married. That doesn't mean that we aren't commited to each other or don't plan on spending the rest of our lives together. We wanted to finish school and get some money saved up for a house before paying for a wedding. School is done now, and a house is coming up this spring/summer (hehe can't wait!), we'll probably get married within the next 5 years. As far as I'm concerned, it's more of a formality than anything else. I'm quite confident of my position with him (I'm his next of kin, and am the beneficiary of his insurance and investments and vice versa for me) and don't need a piece of paper from the government to tell me he's my mate for life. Be in love and have fun together, everything else is small stuff compared to how you feel about each other.

Hi I cant see your problem!! Eight years is nothing! It is just not a problem! When I lived in the village close to my town, my next door neighbours boy met and married a girl who was 15 years older than him

If you both love each other that much and are comitted to each other in every way then yes it will work no matter what anyone says It is only 8 years difference not 20 So I tell you Good luck and stick with each other no matter what the others Think do not let anyone come between you both

I think in future after say 20yrs you will 41 and she will 49 then you will feal that I have done wrong.

dont do it! (my opinion) she will always have her family and so will you if you guys cant shut them out and live for yourselves its not your realationship its theirs!on the other hand the marriage might make them see that its what you both want and they may settle down.who know but i wouldnt get married till i do!

Ok first of all I want to say Congrats on loving one person so much! Now for the answer you are looking for... so you love her and there is 8 years between you... when you are together the age thing is not a big deal and you guys are good for eachother. That is what you said. If you can control who you love then you would do it. There is nothing written in stone saying that you can not love someone older then you. Perfect example in my family, my coisns hubby-10 years older then her, my sisters man- 9 years older, my hubby 2 years younger. If you love her then marry her. Talk to your family and tell them that you love her and that this is what you wnat for the rest of your life... tell them that you wnat them to be happy for you because of your happiness. They will get over it. I ran off and got married and they got over that one... so do what is right in your heart not anyone elses. Good luck!

of cause it will work if you truly love each other,my wife is 8years older than me and we have been married for 48years,so you see it can work best of luck.

Roadromeo, you have a bigger problem in your relationship than you are willing to accept. I simply do not believe that a loving and good relationship is being stalled because of an eight years age difference! You are either not forthcoming, or are too lustful, or your relationship could have been very one-sided. Sorry.

If you were both five years older, I'd say go ahead if you are both certain it is what you want and are both prepared to make a lifetime commitment to each other. Some of the happiest marriages I know have a large age difference, and one is where she is much older than he. Age should not make a difference if everything is in place, but with you at only 21, I wonder if you are mature enough to make this type of commitment, regardless of her age. If the commitment is genuine, there can be no harm in waiting, and waiting should strengthen the commitment.

That's not a huge difference. Perhaps you should wait a couple of years till you are a bit older theb maybe your parents will have a change of heart. If you love each other you shouldn't give up and you should definately stay together even if it won't be as man and wife. Good luck!

What is the rush, why do you want to marry so soon? Are you afriad she gonna leave you if you don't sign the contract? Your only 21, so you have plenty of time to think this over. If she love you the same, she'll understand. Don't worry about your parents or hers. That is a normal feel for people whose age differnces apart. Follow your heart if she's a keeper.

I am 39 and my wife is 26. Even though she is young, she can yell loud enough for me to hear and she bosses me around just find. Age is no problem. If you are willing to never be with another woman again in your life, then go for it. Make it work

when its true love there is nothin as love.. for a guy like u who comes frm india... where people are conservative in nature especially when it comes to marriages.. you should keep in mind that in a conservative society like india such marriages shall not be accepted... your parents will never say a yes for your marriage.. cause they want the guy to be older than the gal under all circumstances....hence i wud say that its better to forget the gal... cause conservative people of indian society will never ever accept your marriage wit her.... these would be some of the basic problems u would face in future... marriages or relationships like this in non conservative society have chances of working out.. but not in a place like india..

as long as you both love each other, age difference doesnt matter. what matter most is what you feel, how compatible your traits are, how happy you are when you're together. no specific age to marry, maturity is important. good luck to both of you.

Age is not factor in love. If you really love her, don't need to worry about the age. Marry her, more over it is only a difference or 8, it is not a big thing. Go on...... Good Luck

Maybe i have the same problem with you and your boyfriend,and age difference between us is five years,also thatj's to say,my bf is older than me for 5 years,i am very boring about this ,because his parents ask him to get marry with me ,but i don't want to so early,because i am so young,so many things to do ,but my bf think that's very neccessery,i also don't know how to do now,but i really love him and also want to marry with him...

u should definitely go ahead and marry her!since u both luv each other and understand each other very well,itz sure that u ll lead a gr life!itz natural that evry parents will reject this proposal...but as time passes they ll accept it my friend!u r really gifted as u have such an understanding partner...never lose her!

go ahead and marry if only there is no child you and your partner, wish you the best.

if your heart accept that girl then you have to marry her and never care about others