What should he do ... ? please ansr,, advice needed.. asap
@Caylacaylacayla (234)
January 9, 2007 1:24pm CST
Ok so my uncle was in a relationship with a woman who he loved then they had a child which is my cousin who i dont even know..
He then abandoned them both after he turned into an alcoholic about 7 months after the son was born and he never heard from either of them again. i can understand their point though as he was awful as an alcoholic.
Now 24 years on down the line, recently one of our cousins died, who was a favorite in the family and my uncles son got in touch to express his sympathies to my aunt who had lost her son, she told my uncle and he got in touch as he is now a changed man and has got everything in his life sorted.
They got in touch and now his son has jst had a baby making my uncle a grandfather, and he was proud, but they still havn't arranged to meet even though my uncle wants to.. He doesn't want to puch it as he doesn't want to seem annoying or anything?? what should he do ?? please leave some advice thanks !
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@loxin4life (5)
• Bahamas
9 Jan 07
I have a feeling that your Uncle's son is waiting for your uncle to make the first move. There's nothing more moving than being honest. He could simply tell his son that despite what he did wrong in the past, he would like to see his grandson; because he's a changed person and is willing to make things right. He can't change the past but he can make a better future while he still has life in his body. I had a similar situation, where I had not seen my father since I was a child. Then I had 2 boys, none of them had seen their grand father and I didn't care for them to do so. But one Christmas a few years ago, I decided to make the move and see him, and also take the opportunity for them to meet him. I guess I was struck with the Christmas spirit that year (who knows). Anyway sorry for running on. But, like nike says "just do it". If you take too long you just might miss the opportunity.(Your uncle that is.)
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@Caylacaylacayla (234)
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9 Jan 07
Thanks thats really good advice, il be sure to pass it on for def. Its great to hear from sumone who was in the oppostire position and knos what it feel lyk, thx :D
@puma_nz (999)
• New Zealand
9 Jan 07
Tell your Uncle to keep trying.. Thats all he can really do to be honest. The decisions made by his Son. It maybe disheartening to hear but things like this take time. There maybe a few issues that your cousin has with his Dad that needs mending first before anything else. Good Luck
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@Caylacaylacayla (234)
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9 Jan 07
Thanks for the good advice :] il tell him to keep tryin :] thx again
