Please help! Need advice.
By mayakup
@mayakup (1303)
United States
January 9, 2007 2:49pm CST
I am 26 and married for about 9 months now. Things are going great with my husband and I, we are very much in love. We have a nice place to live, good savings, seems like life is great right?
Well NO not at all! I absolutely HATE my job. Hate it! I have an MBA and am working in marketing. Bad part is I really hate doing marketing and I am not qualified to do anything else.
So I am stuck for the rest of my life doing a job I hate. My husband is off to law school soon so I MUST work. Any help/suggestions appreciated. Please I hate my life because of my career.
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73 responses
@sigma77 (5383)
• United States
9 Jan 07
Have you talked to your husband about this? I think that would be a good place to start. Tell him how you feel. As far as your job situation, try to see that you have options. If you are smart enough to get an MBA, you have the smarts to figure out this problem.
Try to figure out what it is you really want to do for a career. Then figure out a way to get it. Since you already know how to get what you want in life, like a good husband, a nice home, schooling, savings, you have the power to change your situation.
If you think you are stuck in the job situation for the rest of your life, that is the message you are sending to yourself. Try to expand your thinking and look at other options. What you focus on, will eventually be attracted into your life. Focus on what you really want to do. Hopefully, your husband will support you all the way.
Try to identify what it is about your current situation that you do not like. Maybe, you can branch off ino a similar field. Or, maybe a change of employer might be the answer. You probably have some transferable skills that could be used toward some other type of position. You used your mind to get this far, now use it again to come up with a plan to get exactly what you want.
@nanands (122)
• India
10 Jan 07
I agree with all that sigma77 has said. I think Marketing is a vast area. It is possible you do not enjoy selling soap or refrigerators. That is because there are so many people trying to do just that and also you may feel there is nothing noble in it. Maybe you should try to sell something that has a definite social purpose. You could try to work for charity organisations. You know very well even there you need to sell the concept of charity to people. You could start a company which specialises in telling marketeers how to infuse a little social purpose in their marketing spend. For example you could work for a number of social organisations wherein you could persuade corporates to contribute a part of their quater's sale to one of them. Much of marketing in today's world is purposeless zero sum game. You need to get out of that kind of marketing.
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
9 Jan 07
Do you know what else you would like to do? Even though you have an MBA it doesn't mean that you are "stuck". Start learning about other aspects of the company you work for and find out if you can moved to a different department. You can take college courses at night or online, or take courses on the weekend in various subjects to find out what you want to do. Even though you can't stop working right now, that doesn't keep you from looking at other career paths. You may even find one that pays the same as your current job that you can switch to.
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@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
10 Jan 07
Who says you don't have time for both? You can work and teach tennis on the weekends or in the evenings. You shouldn't limit yourself! Before worrying about the clients, you need to get into the swing of teaching tennis, maybe volunteer some time at the local courts or volunteer for a kids group who needs an instructor.
@mayakup (1303)
• United States
9 Jan 07
I really dont know. When I was in college nothing interested me. So I picked Premed. I hated it but got straight A's. I got a minor in Biology and majored in business and computers. Also hated it but got straight A's. Why the good grades? Just disciplined not smart!
My point is that in business, computers, and science I have done well in all and have taken all these courses and nothing interests me.
What would I really love to do? Be a tennis coach. problem is...how many tennis coaches have MBA's? I need to make money for my husband I dont have a chance to build a new client base and new career :(
@ArsonCuff (3114)
• United States
10 Jan 07
I read this looking to maybe share an opinion or something...however without sharing what your interestes are and why you hate your job it is sort of hard for an internet stranger to just pick up from this small blurb what to say ...maybe share with us some more details along those lines
@mayakup (1303)
• United States
10 Jan 07
my problem is I hate being indoors all the time. In undergrad I srudied premed/biology and business and omputers. I got straight A's in all my classes - no joe - I grew up very disciplined. I never liked any of those classes though. I grew up playing tennis 8 hrs/ day was professionally ranked and that is my love. I would love to be a tennis coach but i need to mae money. and i wasted getting an MBA if I become a coach, I am book smart but pretty stupid in life :(
@SplitZip (1488)
• Portugal
9 Jan 07
You could probably stay put until your husband finishes law school, then try to get some education in another field yourself. But two things to bear in mind:
1. You'll probably be over 30 by then? Too much wasted time?
2. You might not be together anymore and then you'll be on your own (not trying to jinx you or anything, but this DOES happen often).
You could try to find other interests, meanwhile. Maybe take professional courses that are part-time. Only a suggestion. It's difficult to change your whole life and take another direction. Best of luck.
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@foxsoon (150)
• Australia
9 Jan 07
Patience my friend, you are doing it for love, not career wise or so. I would say try look around and see if there's any job employments around you that offer you the another job you like with about the same salary to support your life. Lucky I'm loving my career but I guess just bear with it, I've friends being forced to study medicine just because of their parents, and they suffer for life and also have quite a bad health care practice mentality.
@dinzmalayneum (118)
• Malaysia
9 Jan 07
Be patient.I`m also hate when job required the marketing.But you must remember,only you can support your own life now bcoz due to your husband case
@inked4life (4224)
• United States
10 Jan 07
Have you considered perhaps starting your own business? A little cash in the bank and great marketing experience would be a greta help. Is there something you are really passionate about? Why not try to start a business around this. Good luck whatever you decide.
@mythmoh (3984)
• United States
9 Jan 07
have you done the same specialisation in your bachelor degree?if you have done different why dont you choose some job based on that.Otherwise try to be in this atleast your hubby finishes his college.then you can study some courses online or by distance and then switch.take some vacation,have some break so that you wont get boredom.
@magdollars23 (1684)
• United States
10 Jan 07
I would say simply try to find another job. Maybe it isnt the job that you hate just the company or something so maybe you should try to find another company, or maybe find another marketing job.
@viruslove878 (53)
• India
10 Jan 07
My suggestion is that You have two ways to your Help,
First- If you don't like this job then leave it and find another job you like. You can contact to career counselor or visit and search your desired job at JOB Portals like monstar.com.
Second- Because your husband is now studying in law school and he will complete that study soon so in this period take patience and do your current job for that time period, after that leave the job.
@bryelee (451)
• United States
10 Jan 07
Not to be rude, but if you took a poll I think you would find that most people hate their job. My suggestion is to take some classes or just change jobs. Find something you would enjoy doing or learning about and go for it. Unfortunitly most people work becasue they need the money, not becasue they like their job.
@mgr1987 (689)
• India
10 Jan 07
can't you think of this situation before doing an MBA?the only way to overcome this problem is loving your job that you absolutely hate now.in the beginning it may seem a bit difficult,but you'll feel a great change after a point of time.as the saying goes"time is the best healer for all wounds".have a nice day.
@jenn2350 (3)
• United States
9 Jan 07
I am in a similar situation with my job. I like all the people that I work with, but I am going no where. I hate doing accounting work, and that is exactly what I do here. I have gotten to the point where I hate waking up in the morning to come to work. I simply deal with the fact that I HAVE to do these things in order to survive and get the things I want. I know everyone must make sacrifices and in time something better will come along. I would just suck it up until you find something you enjoy doing, and all the stress and worry will seem silly when you do.
@emisle (3822)
• Ireland
10 Jan 07
Is there somewhere near you where you could take evening classes and get another qualification?
My sister graduated college last year and has a one year contract with a promotions firm. Some days they're quiet and other times they're mad busy. She doesn't really like it so she'll probably be leaving at the end of the year.
Life's too short to work in a job you don't like..:)
@dip_cool (411)
• India
10 Jan 07
everybody is doing MBA thses days and most end up working in marketing jobs.im still in college and have done quite a lot of marketing jobs and i know it sucks big time.i guess you have to be in marketing for sometime more before you can move into management posts.
you have to gather a bit of experience and then you can look for non marketing jobs.as for now try to like your job or you will become depressed and stressed.
@bacardiblast_K (813)
• India
10 Jan 07
well my cousin also doing same job as u, n shes also newly married bt shes enjoying her job....bt here as u nt satisfy so u should first discuss wth ur hubby, n then think positively whts ur aims in life n wht u can do else?? n marketing is nt only here buddy..there r many jobs besides this....so u should go gor tht also....
@gigarange (1165)
• United States
10 Jan 07
Take it easy. I understand how you feel but you have to have a job for a living. For now..just be patient with your current job and start thinking of the things you love to do and maybe start from their..change career.
@smilyn (2967)
• United States
10 Jan 07
Your job is in marketing field. You know, marketing department is also an interesting one. But one cannot work without an interest in the job. So it is better you skip the job. Since your hubby is going for higher studies, you can atleast try to quit the job and search for another.All the best.
@1987sourabh (28)
• India
10 Jan 07
if u have a children u can spent your time with them.or except marketing u job u can teach in the college,as u have written that u are MBA so,u can teach the BBA student in any management college.