What would you do if you were inlove with your friend's Girlfriend/Boyfriend?
By rallymercado
@rallymercado (307)
Philippines
January 9, 2007 4:25pm CST
What if you had this close friend and you kind of like his/her partner? They have been in an "in and out relationship". They always break up and always get together again. You can not even count the number of times they have done that. They have been like that for 3 years now. Anyways, the boyfriend/girlfriend is a friend of yours but your not that close. You just know that each other exists. You liked him ever since 2nd Year HighSchool.Now, your in 3rdYearCollege. You know your stupid for loving him/her up until now. You just can't shake the feeling of...You want to be with him/her but:
1.) You don't want to ruin the friendship.
and 2.) He/She loves the partner so much.
What would you do if your were in this situation?..
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81 responses
@aryangentleman (1122)
• India
10 Jan 07
I think I will damn angry with myself for being so weak to fall for some one who is my best friends girl. There cant be no other than forgetting about her and try the best avoid to be in her company and its better to maintain a distance from my friend, rather risking my emotions sensed by her or my friend. After all women do have sixth sense regarding men's feeling for them.
@rallymercado (307)
• Philippines
10 Jan 07
Ooops! SORRY. wrong response. Many things are on my mind and I just scrammbled my thoughts. SORRY AGAIN! :(
@aryangentleman (1122)
• India
10 Jan 07
I think I have responded the dicussion you reffering. Never mind for yours reply I have been into this sort of things wrongly posted some thing which was not asked for.
@digitalrebel (7)
• United States
10 Jan 07
I say love necesarily, I would say it was just lust. Id probably get with her, If it was are secret. Ask no questions tell no lies. Im just speaking from a past experience mostly. It felt wrong but thats what made it so hot!!!!
@rallymercado (307)
• Philippines
10 Jan 07
It would be nice if IT could be a secret. But, a girl always tell can never hide a secret. ^^ and, it is FUN to do wrong things. That's why rules are made to be broken.
@Angelinka (1410)
• Italy
10 Jan 07
well very dificult and delicated situation...but i believe in destiny...and for sure i am not going to broke them relationship..I wouldnt like to lose my friend...
@kornordie (119)
• Romania
10 Jan 07
I think I would mark this one right here as the bast answer:P
...well said dude;)
@deomix (65)
• Lithuania
10 Jan 07
What I would do? Well I think that the best thing would be to talk about that with the person you like without your friend knowing it. You can even talk about your feelings in a humorous way ( say something like "what would you say if I asked you out" or smth.). If that person won't respond to your feelings... well you'll probably live it out if it's not your one true love. If he/she says that the feeling is two-way... well in this case you both have a problem how to tell it to your friend, but if he/she is a true friend everything should work out fine.
p.s. I still wouldn't want to get into situation like that...
@emarie (5442)
• United States
10 Jan 07
friends bf/gf are ALWAYS off limits, unless that friend is not currently seeing that person and has no feelings for them and know you like them and they approve. other then that, if their currently dating them, then its a big No No. most people have those rules in their circle of friends, i know i did with my friends. then again we all had different tastes, so it was never really that much of a problem.
@Datingtheplayer (661)
• United States
10 Jan 07
I would try to distance myself from the boyfriend/girlfriend... it's a dangerous situation to be in because you dont want to ruin your friendship, and the boy/girlfriend my reject you and you'll be even more hurt.
I would distnace myself
@agusfebi (813)
• Indonesia
10 Jan 07
Why not, so why we must have a headache to think about him, that undertook our love relations personally would, and but not the other person, what we did not realise, that the love was the gift and at the same time giving of the gift from the lord, if we trusted the existence of the lord, I was, sure the problem will for the sake of the certain problem have the issuing road.
And we will then be very happy to receive The reality or available fate.
@MzLefty (311)
• United States
10 Jan 07
First of all,I would set my sites elsewhere,especially since you are suppose to be a friend,plus you did not say anything about him returning those feelings.It seems that is they keep getting back together after each break up,there must be love there.with so many men out there why do you have to be in love with your friend's man.I use the word friend very lightly,because a true friend would not even ponder sucha thing.it may be that you are just jealous of the relation and think that you are in love with him.you need to take a long look at yourself.
@zoeokeeffe (184)
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10 Jan 07
I wouldn't go there or entertain the idea. Good friends are not easy to find and such a betrayal of trust would be hard to forgive. If you did ener a relationship with them then I think you would have to be prepared to lose your friendship, and would be naive to think anything else was possible.
@Pantherfan (6)
• United States
10 Jan 07
I like what I'm reading from most of these comments. I'm glad to see people have heart. You definitely don't want to get involved with this person that is clearly taken. In the long run all it will do is cause problem. And who's to say you and this person will stay together. I know this is an old adage, but I must say it any way "You play with fire, you'll get burned."
@lifetalk (679)
• Pakistan
10 Jan 07
Well, if i were in this kind of situation.. i'd well.. go ahead an tell em what i felt about her..
it's all about the kind of person you are.. if you are a confident and straight forward person.. and believe in expressing what u feel,, than that's what u would do!
@gonzalu (216)
• Portugal
10 Jan 07
Well, That is a tricky one! but a lot of people has already been in that situation. I believe nothing good may come out of that. I believe you should not involve with your friends partner unless he wants to get involved with you and he is not dating you friend. but it is very complicated anyway :S
@micheller (1365)
• United States
10 Jan 07
Don't act upon it. If your friends partner loves your friend then chances are he's going to look at you stupid and tell your friend if you let him no how you feel. And once that happens you will loose a friend over something that isn't even going to happen.
@viruslove878 (53)
• India
10 Jan 07
In that case First I see the rating of Love between them if their an "in and out relationship" is a part of their love then I never think to love with my friend's Girlfriend. But if their "in and out relationship" is not a part of True Love then I can propose her because I love her also.
@monicathinks407 (311)
• United States
10 Jan 07
All I can say is better you than me. That is not even an option in my book. If you were interested in the person and you didn't know the persons partner, then it is fair game. Good luck & be safe. These days tempers are short and you never know how the person you hurt may respond. So be careful. When people are hurt they become vengeful.
@nice_wise4u (109)
• India
10 Jan 07
this is real stuck up kind of a situation men....
well ...............
just wait for some more time....
n i kno i ll b waiting n the life goes on if one day the friend start hurting n hating her n she s really close and knowss u r the good guy among the lot she lll come to u if not...u can tell how much care abt he nthen its left to her....
*^&&^ confused *^*^*
