Losing My Parents

Honey, the first thing you need to do is breathe. Breathing is important. Keep your head about you. Pray. Take each day as it comes. Be by your father's side at every moment that you can. Give him support. Keep his spirits lifted. Pray together. Do not think negatively. Continue to think positively. Huggers to you. Please keep us posted.

I have experienced the lost of both my grandmother and greatgrandmother, also my stepfather, and all of it were very solemn experience. It is very hard to face the fact that our loved ones may someday leave us but it is a part of life we have to deal with. Being a Filipino, we do have very close family ties, and through our family we get the strength to go on. Maybe you can find some comfort with other family members? Or a close friend? I do hope that your father win this one.

i am sorry to the happenign of your father

I'm the one to talk to about this, friend. Here's the scoop; the key is not to expect him to recover, but to expect him not to. You must remember that the universe owes you no favors. It doesn't care about you anymore than it does anyone else. Life throws at us what it will, and there is absolutely nothing that can be done about that except to swallow it and go on living. This, right here, is people's number one mistake; they keep waiting for something good to happen, for some miracle to come along, only to be set up for defeat when it doesn't materialize. As a general rule, things get worse before they get better. Just when you think you can't take anymore, life will throw something at you ten times worse. You'll think you die, but you won't. You'll keep going, and even be able to smile as you reflect back on it years later. We humans are naturally selfish creatures. We expect things to please us, to make us happy, to excite us. What we should be expecting is for the opposite. At least then when things DO go right, we are extra pleased and elated! I wish I could do like a lot of people here are good at doing, just patting you on the back and saying "God will help", "I will pray for you," etc. I only wished that worked! The truth is, the situation is bad. That you well know. There's no way around this storm, only through it. I am sorry for the situation, and of course, hope for the best outcome. If only hopes could change the world, aye?! But get the peace of mind that comes from realizing that we are powerless and helpless in this world, that we are at the mercy of fate. There is a great satisfaction to be had (call it a spiritual satisfaction if you will) in resigning all our sorrows and worries to the fates. Let come what may, cry your tears, then say "To hell with it!", and move on! Wish I had more comforting words, but truth tends to be rather cold. Best of luck! :)

Well, you have not lost him yet. I would pray, think positive, or do whatever you do to keep you thinking right. Try not to panic. Talk to friends, do what you are doing here, getting advice. Exercise, get enough sleep, eat healthy, read, write, do anything you can do to get you mind off the negative. Encourage your father and let him know you love him and are there for him.. That will help him out a bunch emotionally. I wish you all the best. I know this is tough.

I've lost my grand parents a while ago. I haven't really thought about it much until a few weeks ago. I started to think about what am i going to do. It felt like loosing a part of myself . My grandfather who i loved - We always used to play, wrestling and other games. While i loved both my grandparents when my grandfather left this world, my last grandparent i know. I felt i missed alot. Whenever i would call my siblings and ask them about our grandfather from force of habit they'd say ' huh! Grandfather? ' ... I myself don't know how i've dealt with it other then with the following sentence ' life goes on, you can't stop time nor go back in time , the only thing you have is your memories '

i'm so sorry to hear that, my friend! Whatever it is, just remember to be strong and be mentally prepared should things become worse...my beloved grandpa passed away early jan 06...i felt empty and missed him a lot for the first month...but then time will heal all wound....sometimes, i could feel him around me, and i like to know that my grandpas has now become my guardian angel, overlooking and caring me....everything will be fine, my dear! Please keep us updated! :D Take Care

you never deal with it, I lost my mom when I was a child, my grandparents as a teenagers and my dad well never been in the picture. But being there for your father and letting him know you love him is the best thing for you. If you can don't leave unresolved issues and make sure their is as much closer as possible. I never got that so I am lost in life and feeling abandoned and it is not what you need. Talk to him, make sure he knows. And I am also very very so you are going through this at time.

losing parents is one of the bad things.when there are no parents the life will become unambitionus and it spoils the life.

I am so sorry to hear about your dad. I believe prayer is the answer and you have to be strong for your mom. She will feel sadder if she sees you're suffering. I'll pray for you though.

I can only think of platitudes right now but I can assure you that if the worse happens, you will go through the grieving process and you will survive. You may even come out a stronger, even more mature person than you were before. The platitudes are true, although shen you are grieving, it doesn't feel like "time will heal all wounds," or "there's a silver lining behind every cloud." But, as someone who has also been through much heartache, including losing my father in my twenties, I can assure you that you will be okay. It is part of life and somehow, we go on. In the meantime though, let your dad know you love him and continue to hope for the best. Try not to worry about losing him. It may not happen for a long time yet.

Have courage my child and hope/try/pray for the best.At this time all the members of the family should share the shock/grief collectively.

Facing the possibility of losing a loved one is mentally upsetting. Brain races 100 miles an hour. Thinking,thinking,thinking. But we get through it the best way we can.

I am sorry to hear about your Dad. but what I did when I thought I was going to lose my Mom was I just asked god to make the choice of taking her home with him, or letting me keep her, I did not care if she could not walk or take care of her self as long as she could tell me she was hungry or in pain, I could do the rest for her. but if she was going to be in pain for the rest of her life I asked him to take her because I did not want her to suffer. So just ask your self if your father would be happy with the outcome, My prayers are with you and your family, nana2000

Oh boy. Darlin, we all feel what you are feeling right now, that is normal. I am 56 years old and I still have trouble dealing with the idea of losing my parents. It has nothing to do with you age. There is nothing stronger than the bond between parents and their children. You were dealt a terrible blow, but it can still work out right? Is your mom still alive? If so, then the two of you can lean on each other to get through this. I don't know anything about you and will not try to push my belief on you, but for me, I will be praying for your dads recovery and for the Lord to give you the strength that you need to get through this. I have been taught since I was a child that the Lord will not give you more than you can handle, so if you believe in God, you might do some praying too and lean on him for guidance. If you need someone to listen, I am here. God Bless you.

nothing will happen to him. you should be brave enough to face everything.. lets pray for his early recovery

Its not an easy situation to be in. You don't have to be strong, you dont have to hide your tears, but you cant close yourself. Talk about it with family and friends, talking really helps., and prevents you from feeling alone.

i request u too be in touch with all ur realtives..they can support u or else i can give up......

I am sorry about your current situation... In the world, losing parents is the most painful thing in the world I think. What I can do is to pray for your father to recover ASAP...You must be strong at this tought time, support your father and try to set up a kind of confidence in your father's heart - he can survive this hard time.

This was posted 7 days ago. I hope things have improved. Pray for him and for his doctors, pray for the people who can help him to know the right things to do. If the worse should happen, you put one foot infront of the other. Somehow you just get through it one day at a time. It never gets easier you just learn how to handle it better. My son(15) lost his dad last april. You survive you move on. I lost my husband that day.