Is marriage becoming a thing of the past?
By melanie652
@melanie652 (2524)
United States
January 9, 2007 7:24pm CST
When I was growing up everyone got married - that was expected and accepted. If a girl got pregnant they got married because it was the right thing to do. Now everyone seems to be living together and divorce rates are over 50%. What happened to committment and responsibility?
3 responses
@purpleravenhawk (81)
• United States
10 Jan 07
Marriage isn't entirely losing its ground in the world. Yes, there are more people choosing to live together without a certificate, but there are also a lot of people still getting married. Personally, I think it's better to just live together, at least for a while. That way, you can be certain that you're with the right person before signing a document that requires a legal maneuver to get out of. Which is worse, living together or getting a divorce and marrying someone else? The latter increases the number of marriage, but only because the first one failed. In some cases, doing something less is a good thing.
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@melanie652 (2524)
• United States
10 Jan 07
Nothing wrong with living together to see if you're compatable. I wonder about the people that live together, have kids together and then decide this is not the right mate for me. I wonder if the kids suffer for that?
@mama_of_two (268)
• United States
9 Mar 07
I don't think that the children suffer, especially if they aren't old enough to know. However, if they are and their parents don't get along, then it shouldn't hurt them either. I mean, if my parents never married and not got along when I was a child, I wouldn't want them to stay together just because of me. I would rather everyone be happy and get along this way instead, but this is just me.
@melanie652 (2524)
• United States
10 Jan 07
That's one way to look at it? Thanks for your response.
@mama_of_two (268)
• United States
9 Mar 07
I was married once, and it didn't work out. I was also very young, but I have decided on my own that I don't believe in marriage. It always ends in divorce, and there aren't that many guys out there who can be faithful or nice. I also don't see the big idea about buying a license to get married. We already have licenses and permits for everything, so why marriage? It just seems to me that it all has something to do with money.
Also, I never choose the right person to be with. I always end up in really bad relationships where someone treats me like total crap. I have just decided that it is best for me to be single and raise my child. Plus, I would not want to drag my child in a relationship where she will be seeing her father treating me like crap. He could very well end up doing it to her as well, so I see it best that I not be in this relationship anymore. But this is just me...I don't know about anyone else.
