When is it necessary to discipline someone elses kid?

i think what you did is right. atleast, you made your point and made these kids realize that what they are doing is wrong. however, don't yell too much onto them. it might be that they'll feel more scared than understanding what you are saying. it's better to talk to them nicely than shout at them.

There is nothing wrong with what you did. I have done it plenty of time and have even had the children mothers that I yelled at come to my home and yell and scream at me for yelling at their kids. I don't have a problem with that either. If my children or other children have the possibility of getting hurt from the actions of other I will step in regardless of who's kids it is. It is your right to protect your children. Just think if something bad were to happen and you were there and didn't step in. How bad would you feel?

First of all I would like to say I see nothing wrong in what you did. Depending on the circumstances I would do the same. Now unfortunately what could happen is the little boy could tell his Mom and exaggerated version and she might be upset and cause another ruckus. I would love to think that "it takes a village to raise a child" but we just don't live like that anymore. At least most of us don't. Those days are truly missed by me.

I think it can cause problems. I stepped in when a little boy was getting pushed around. Within 2 days the parents were at the school threatening me & cussing up a storm. I was 8 months pregnant & the dad was following me around saying he was going to hit me. At that point I really did not care what happened to the kids. This happened back in Oct & the kids still try to intimidate my 2 daughters.

I say yeah for you April. I do the exact same thing all the time. I can not stand it when kids are just out and out brats!!!

It would certainly piss me off too, especially if my baby daughter were supposed to go into that same bus where most likely they would continue their argument. I beleive that what you did is right, even though the suing part was not needed, i understand that in the heat of the moment you need to do what you gotta do for their protection if nobody else is doing it. Maybe you could have threatened him and saID: i heard what you just said AND NOW iF I ever see you hit that little boy or anyone else in your school in the future, then im gonna forget about your momma and call the cops on you. - I think it would be better to leave the parents out of it and what may happen if they sue eachother, because its very clear that they do not want to step in for discipline when its needed.

I do think there is a need where a parent should discipline a child of someone else, like in your situation. A parent can not allow their child to be bullied by another child or have what the other child does effect your own. I think that is being a good parent. The parent of the child misbehaving needs to have a talk with their child. I would have to say something to if another child was doing something to another child or my own.

I would do the same thing. I dont care if they like me or not. I wouldnt let kids act that way. Expecually around my kids. That isnt showing them a good example.

April you certainly did the right thing in trying to stop misbehaviour in children. Might I make a suggestion? I believe very strongly in POSITIVE discipline. My approach would have been to firstly compliment other nearby boys who were doing the right thing, and then gently but firmly tell the misbehaving ones they should follow their example. I don't believe shouting achieves much and may only remind them of abuse they receive elsewhere. I also question using someone else in the argument. Could you know the boy's mother would sue? What if the boy had been hit? Your reasoning would have been lost and no lesson learnt. To say you would check, and that if the boy was hit, you would talk to the offender's mother, or the school teacher, could have achieved a valuable lesson for both boys. I admire you for defending the boy and for trying to correct the bad behaviour. If more would do this, we might be able to achieve something. Keep up the good work, but try not to fight abuse with abuse. Good discussion topic. Thanks.

I never keep my mouth closed with kids if they are doing something "wrong" or not nice, disrespectful, dangerous. I am totally amazed at the number of parents today that allow their children to run wild, to talk back, be mean physically and emotionally, to use foul language, and the list goes on. You did the right thing -- and you were right the older kid should know better and if he didn't he does now! :)

It is not your business to discipline somebody else's kids. I won't do it. If a kid is going to fall off a cliff I will make sure he is safe and tell him what he was doing wrong but I don't have the right to yell at them or spank them. Their parents are going to blame you for that. In your case I would make sure the other kids are not getting hurt and they are on bus and tell them to get on the bus or the bus is leaving.

you should never discipline someone elses child unless he or she does one or more of the following: hits you, hits your child, hurts you, hurts your child, makes your child cry, hopefully not makes you cry, destroys either your or your childs property on purpose, or threatens either one of you. by the way, i think you handled that situation perfectly.