Pregnant at Nineteen!

I met my husband at 18. By 19 we were married and expecting our first child who was born when I was 20 (our, now 15 1/2 month old son). A few months later we found out I was pregnant again (at 20) and she was born a couple of weeks before I turned 21 (she's now 5 months old, but her adjusted age is 3 months because she was born prematurely). Yet again, a few months later I found out I was pregnant again! I'm 21 & I'll still be 21 when this baby's born. My husband and I live on our own, in a 3bedroom/2bathroom apartment. We do very well in providing for our children. Our son is the picture of health. And our daughter (who was born with complications) is getting well and actually has the development of a 5 month old, except in her legs and interest in a bottle. So she is getting physical therapy & occupational therapy (learning to use the bottle). So having been in a been there/done that instance of having kids young. I would suggest congradulate them (it help with the stress to have support) but be there in case they have questions, or need help understanding the pregnancy mood swings. It's amazing how much people are capable of handling when it is just laid on their shoulders so to speak.

That is hard to figure out. You want to congradulate the person because they are carrying another life. But at the same time, being older myself, I know it will be a struggle. I was 14 years old when I got pregnant the first time. I was married by 16 years and before I turned 19 years, I had 3 children. So, personally, I know I would not want any of my children to have a baby at such a young age because I know what they would be loosing. But you also do not want to cast a negative energy on the person. I would be torn. I would be happy for the person if they were happy. But secretly, I would feel a morn for the person and all the growing up that person will have to do very quickly!

Maybe you just support them emotionally because they have no choice but to face the fact and their situation. Nineteen is too young to have kids so what you have to do is to support them.

well theres nothing wrong with being pregnant at nineteen if they think theyre capable and responsible enough for the consequences..

Nineteen isn't so young anymore. With programs like WIC and welfare, it's not that hard to make enough money to get by. My girlfriend was 19 when she had our daughter. I was 24 but these days, and it's only been 6 months, she's making more money than I was so she's the breadwinner. Once you get past the pride of accepting government handouts, it's really just about being good parents. WIC pays for all of her formula (about $60 a month) and foodstamps cover all of our groceries (about $300 a month). If you can get in touch with enough people that are done having kids, getting some toys and clothes should all be free.

ok this might sound rude but this is my opinnion and i just want to make my point. i think you should stop thinking of your feelings about it and start supporting your friends. be a good friend and be there for them. They need your support and not your critisisms. i don't think it's too young, if they are finished school they they will be able to suport themselves.

If you think of this in the 1940- 1950 my Aunt and Aunt got married at 18 and 19. They were already on their own for 4 years and 3 months after their honey moon she was expecting her first child......Why has our views changed so much since then?? I mean they are Adults and if they are happy and all the power to them....be happy for them.

I think you should be happy for them just because they are 19 does not mean they are going to be bad parents.I was 19 when i had my first daughter im 29 now and i know from experience that a 19 year old can make a good parent.people tend to look down on young parents but i wouldnt only because i was in the situation before.If i was you i would be happy for them after all they are going to be parents and bring a new life into this world having a child is a blessing it doesnt matter their age as long as they take good care of their baby.

Well, even though nineteen is still a young age, you should definitely congratulate them! It may seem like quite the wall to mount for a couple so young, I can't imagine having a baby of my own right now, so I cannot even imagine trying to have one three years ago. Tell them you wish them the best, and give them your friendship. Regardless of other feelings.

Nowadays, having a baby in the young age is not too bad to be a young parents as long as they have responsibility for their baby. Maybe they have not been grown up enough and too young to have the resposibility the child but it will not something to be fear. Give them suggestion, moral support, love and guide them how to care the child. Having a baby is a blessing and it will bring a new life in the world.

if my friend get pregnent at the age of 19 is not just a serious matter because when our society is declairing that at the age of 18 you are adult and mature in many ways.

It's not so bad to have a child at 19. It's worst when having a baby at 14 I would say. As long as they are prepared and know what their up against and still decide to go through with it, then I would congratulate them.

I had my first child a month before my 20th birthday. I would have to say that you have to be happy for them based on them. At 19 it is a very iffy situation. Like I said I was 19 my daughter is now nine she is excelling in school and very well behaved and liked child, however I have a friend who also had a child at 19, her child is out of hand at home and in the class room. They are your friends so you should congratulate them weither or not you feel they are ready for this, and be there for them because they are going to face people who are going to put them down because "19 is to young to be having babies". Tell them to hold there heads up high and delight in the wonderful gift they have in making that baby. Good luck to them

i think 19 is very young for pregnant.

are they happy?if they are happy then you should be too.just be supportive,thats all you can do

nineteen is not to small to have a kid I think you need to congratulate them.

now-a-days we don't think of having a bay at nineteen, but nineteen is not bad enough to have baby if both are ready. from your part you should give them moral supports, because if then don';t get proper support or guidence and that may affect the baby, baby who is going to see the face of world very soon, didn't do any bad. so we need to see baby should not suffer from that. baby should get all support, care and love. so you should congratulate them and support them so that they can give a birth of normal baby.

still you should congratulate them

Nineteen may seem young, but if they're both nineteen, and ready for the responsibility of a family, celebrate with them. Not everyone will choose the logical path and prepare for their family before it comes. Some people will just dive in and take life as it is.

Me and my husband got pregnent at 19 and everything worked out just fine. We know have 4 beutiful children and we have a good paying job. Sure it was hard at first but, I think everyone goes through those difficulty at any age when you have your first. I think congratulations and some support is what's needed? Not a caution light. Just be there for them adn be happy for them. New new baby is something to celebrate.