He Falls Asleep on the Couch Every Night...Going Crazy

omg! I wrote this! lol (well, I could have!) Wow! Can we be friends??? I have the EXACT same problem as you! My hubby does this every night!! The same thing as you said! I get so mad! I do understand too that he works hard and all but it still does not help me cope with it, ya know? I have talked till I'm blue in the face and we have actually had awful fusses about this very thing. Just as I was reading your post, I was on the computer and he was, where? On the frickin couch..asleep!! i looked around the room to make sure YOU weren't in here with me! lol just recently I did tell him that no one needs to sleep that much that something was wrong with him and if he didn't start trying to stay awake more then I was going to start going out when I wanted and not be here when he gets home because I am tired of sitting around here while he sleeps all the time. Now, that woke him up....he started doing better for a few weeks...but I think I need to remind him AGAIN! Thanx for posting this...it's good to know that I am not the only one who feels like this. Just now, he woke up and I read him your post and he asked me did I right it? lol He didn't believe me when I said no. But I told him I was fixing to respond to it though!

I think you are lucky, there is a lot of women who would give anything for their husbands to be home doing that, be very thankful your husband is there and not out with his mates all the time or other places, just having hin home with you after a days work is nice, enjoy it...

Mine does the same and I used to let it drive me crazy as heck. But, after all we have been thru and all. I am just glad to see him come home. He will usually take a nap and then be ready to talk to us. They work very hard and sometimes that is just what they need. I have found that the less I bother him about his sleeping or naps the more he wants to pay attention to me. If there is one piece of advice I can give you its that men want to chase, yes even after they are married to us its just in thier blood. The less I bother him the more he wants to know about me and my day.

this is so funny but my husband was complaining about this to me. I fall asleep when I get home. Dry maybe giving them coffee, this is what Ive been doing lately to stay awae longer

I HAV NOT MARRIED YET.BUT DO SERVICE.AFTER GOING HOME I BECOME EXHAUSTED .SO IT IS NATURAL YOUR HUSBAND IS GOING SLEEPY.AT SUNDAY ASK HIM TO SPEND TIME WITH U

PLAN OUT B4HAND LIKE OH PLZ MY FRIEND WANTS TO HAVE TEA WITH BOTH OF US.CHALLENGE HIM IN CARD GAME SAY NOBODY CAN LOOSE ME IN THIS GAME.

Maybe hhe should see a Dr. He could have some health problems. It's unusual for some to be that tired.

hey.... that's sad yaar.... but feel good that he is sleeping only after getting back to YOUR home..... Things will turn out good from this year.... all the best.....

Try to encourage him to do something that he would normally be willing to stay awake for and participate in. If he can stay awake for something that he enjoys, then he just isn't trying. You can confront him with this and let him know that you're not willing to commit to this pattern of behavior for years to come. If he goes to sleep, then I would suggest trying to set up a doctor's appointment for him. Get him treatment and you could have more time together.

What kind of diet does he have. Maybe he isn't getting enough of the right vitamins. I read that an apple will not only give you vitamin C but also give you an energy boost. I am a stay at home mom of a 2 yr old and a 3 yr old. When my husband gets home from work I get to relax a bit. He usually watches them while I fix dinner, take a shower or get on mylot.I watch them while he showers. We all play together or watch a movie. Some nights he will even put them to sleep. I think he just understands that I don't get a day off or a vacation from my job like he does. My job is 24/7. I let him sleep-in in the morning and I get up with the kids but there is just no time to be lazy around here. Put your foot down. They can't possibly be any tireder than you all are. They helped make the babies they need to help take care of them. Our agreement basically is he works his hours and when he comes home I have worked the same hours, anything after that should be shared. That means cleaning, cooking, watching the children or what ever needs to be done.

My husband used to work outside in the heat (we live in Florida) and he would do the same thing. Come home from work, eat dinner and fall asleep on the couch watching TV. It didn't really bother me that much, because I realize how tired he must be from working outside all day. Also, I am not a night owl myself, I go to bed early. The only thing that would annoy me is that he would fall asleep on the couch with the TV on, and then he would finally wake up around midnight or sometimes even later and come to bed. So that would interrupt my sleep because I would hear him. Now that he has an indoor job, this doesn't happen as much.

First I would insist upon a full physical with bloodwork. If all is okay, and you are certain it isn't low iron, high blood sugar or the likes...then I would take action! When you come home from work, rather than cook dinner, why don't you lay down and sleep! (or fein sleep!) Do this for a few days or until he says something, and innocently say, "I thought this is how a marriage worked?" As for dinner, don't worry about it! Be sure you eat an energy bar a a tall glass of milk before you lay down..or grab something similar later! Surely he will see how boring it is to not have an animated/involved spouse. If that tactice doesn't work, start going out at night with the girls. Again, do not cook first!!! He'll have to stay awake long enough to cook! If he says anything about no meal, say that you had plans to eat with the girls while out.

maybe you can make plans to do something with him that you both enjoy on the weekend that way you have something to look forward to and then you wouldnt mind so much when he comes home and sleeps on the couch the other days

Is he sleeping on the couch all night, or just falling asleep? I think if he has worked hard all day, let him fall asleep wherever he wants to. Just wake him up to go to bed whenever your ready. He's not hurting anything by falling asleep on the couch a little while. Most likely he's stressed out from work and that couch is a nice comfty peice of home that relaxes him and makes him feel good enough to fall asleep. Just let him do it.

Well I'm a male and know how you fell but cause I've have been their, and still somewhat But because I'm a male I do not think I could tell you how to handle the way you are felling Well have you tried to seduce him,try that.

my husband does the same thing and i dont mind to much cause i know he worked hard and needs his rest..i am stay at home mom and i wouldnt be if it wasnt for him goin out everyday and workin his a$4 off i am very gratefull so whenhe comes home eats sh*&s and then sleeps i dont mind at all....i just know if he gets his rest he wont be so grumpy and miserable in the morning lol

i would say all may have this problem in one way or the other.but isnt marraige all about adjustments and sacrifices.

This happens a lot in our relationship, only it is me that usually ends up falling a sleep on the couch. I am a stay at home mom / work at home mom. The majority of my work gets done at night, after my daughter goes to sleep. This past summer I bought myself a laptop for work, as a I am a freelance writer. My favorite place to write is laying on the couch. There have been many night when I have fallen asleep there. Thankfully, my laptop hasn't fallen off the couch yet (lol knock on wood). The only difference here is that my boyfriend, who I live with, has a midnight snack ritual. A lot of times, I am still working when he gets up, but those nights I am able to make it into the bedroom. The nights that I am really tired, I am usually fast asleep by the time he comes out for a snack. He just wakes me up and then I move into the bedroom. Once in a blue moon will I end up sleeping the whole night on the couch. I know that you are probably sleeping too, but if you happen to get up, you may want to think about waking him up. He might not like it right away, but if he knows that you will wake him up he may try a little bit harder to get into the bedroom.

Well as everyone else said, "Its good he came to sleep in YOUR home". Im not saying its common that men sleep with others, its just a way to show that he knows your alive at least. And try to see that he eats healthy and not to much when he comes home, he will be less tired. Its a healthy vegatable thing.

You remind me of myself. That is exactly what I do. I come home from work at 5pm, cook something and eat. By 6.30pm I am here on my computer while my husband is watching tv. After about an hour or maybe two I start to doze off on the computer. I turn it off, go take a shower and head directly to bed. Most of the time it is only 8pm! The minute I get on the bed, I am asleep. My husband is used to me now and he says nothing though sometimes he gets annoyed I don't watch tv with him. I know the trick!! Do not give your husband dinner early. On weekends when we go out, at 8pm I am still going out of the house. By the time we go for a ride in the car or maybe for a walk, then go to a restaurant to eat something, I don't feel sleepy. Even if it is midnight. I only feel sleepy as soon as I eat! Try it and you will see I am right. Good Luck!!