Spacing children-how many years between them?

My oldest 3 are each a year apart. I don't think they missed much. Actually I think they gained some things. I was reading an article once that said 3 and 4 years olds are incapable of sharing and have little empathy. But that sure wasn't true with my kids. They had to share--it was just a fact of life. They were always willing to share with each other and other kids and had much empathy for each other. If one was sick or sad another was always around to cheer them up. Yes, they fought a lot, but they are still best friends. (They are 6, 5 and 4 now). I don't see any benifit in waiting, other then having an older child that is "spoiled" in that he/she is so used to Mom and Dad's undivided attention that they have tantrums day and night when the baby comes home. I found it much harder for my 4yo to adjust when we brought home our new baby (she was 3 1/2). My other two had no problems when I brought the next baby home. They just accepted the baby. They don't remember a time when their brother or sister wasn't there. I like it this way.

My 2 kids are 10 months apart. I am able to give them both equal attention. It can be hard at times but I have 2 arms so I have one in each at times...lol. I sit down on the floor with them and play with them together. I think they are both getting the attention they deserve.

about 2 years would be great

My two boys are two years apart. I like that we had them when we did because they have alot of the same interests and they play with the same friends. They also are very close. Not sure if that is because of the age or not.

I think it is better to have them early so you can still have fun when they get to the age they can leave the house. After that you can still enjoy the rest of your life doing what ever you want to do and you also mave made more money by then. The other side to that is that you also have more energy to play with them if you have them early.

My six kids are spaced at various rates, from 16 months apart to almost 7 years apart (between #2 and #3). Spacing isn't nearly as important as being willing to deal with each kid's special personality. What works with one kid usually won't work with the next. And sometimes, nothing works at all so you really have to improvise, pray, hold your breath and hope the next stage will be easier. My #3 who came 6years 10 months after #2 was spoiled and not nearly as well behaved as his two older brothers. #4 & #5 (my only daughter) who were just 16 months apart had their own special language, entertained each other and really didn't seem to have missed out on much at all. They just learned to share the attention. Kids need attention - a lot of it - their whole lives. Spacing kids doesn't make that easier unless you space them 18 years apart. :)

I have them in 3 years gap.

I would think that most adults do whatever they choose, regardless of what is advised. I do know that it takes a woman's body anywhere from two to three years to recover fully from a pregnancy. So when a woman has one baby, and for two and a half years is recovering....If she became pregnant when the first child is three, her health would be up to par. This would give both mother and baby a healthier start. If the pregnancy was started before full recovery time, both mother and baby are starting out already tired. Not Godd for either one. I say three tears is good.

It is always recommended to have atleast 3 years difference.Because mom has to gain the nutrients she lost in her first delivery and the first kid should also be able to do some things say eating of its own.

LOL! My kids are less than a year apart! My oldest just turned 3 a few days ago, and my twins turned 2 last week! They were born 4 days before my sons first birthday, thanks to birth control! I do feel bad sometimes that they dont get enough attention because there are so many of them! I went from having no kids to having 3 within one year! I made sure that wouldnt happen again!

I think kids get along better and are closer to each other when they are born close together, I'm not saying there can't be a lot of stress that comes with that. myself and one of my brothers are only 11 months apart and we grew up being so close to each other and we still are. my kids are 12,10,5(6 next month) and 4. The only reason for the bigger gap between the 10 year old and the 5 year old was that I had a miscarriage in between them. I like that my kids are fairly close in age but everyone has their own preferences.

have them in 1 year gap

min 3 years.. so that they can help u in ur next delivery.. what say?

My stories is a little different then most posts here. I have 3 children. The first two are 13 and 10 and then I had another baby 2 years ago. So my 10 year old is 9 years apart from my baby girl. The oldest kids fight like cats and dogs but everyone loves the baby. The great part about having them spread out so far apart is that the 2 oldest really are like extra parents. They keep an eye on the baby and I can leave her with my oldest while I run errands. There are pros and cons to both situations. My baby girl doesn't have anyone to play with so I guess we will have to have another :o). I would like to say one last thing. There really isn't much difference in a 2 year old girl and a 13 year old girl. Both very emotional, whinny and occasional tantrum throwing is not unheard of around here.

Good title. They need good attention. It is our job to provide it doing anything.

i hv them one & half year . this prove good coz almost both r of same age ,they live like good friends . nw one is fiveyrs & 6 months & my little daughter is 4 .

Mine are 18 months apart and I love it that way. They are both spoiled with attention from us and each other.

Before I started having kids I wanted 5 yrs apart but now I think about 2. My oldest is 2, 27 months and I am prego with the 2nd. They will be 2 and a half years apart when the baby is born. I think it is a great distance!

at least 3 yr gap is a must

Atlest 2 years are required..