Book to Disipline Children

That would be effective for some children, but not all. Although I don't have as severe a problem as you do, my daughter, now 3, will completely tune me out sometimes (sometimes being MOST of the time). She will completely ignore me at times. While this may be normal a "just a stage", I worry because she will do this even when she's putting herself in danger (going to close to the road, playing on the stairs, etc.). When her brothers are in school, she's usually fine, like with your daughter. But as soon as the crew is home together, it starts. That's also when the bickering starts. While I don't think she's in NEED of more attention, it (the bickering) is certainly from some sort of competition with her brothers for attention. As for her ignoring me...well, I haven't figured out the cause of that one. But as I was saying, different children need different ways of discipline. My daughter HATES time out (thank goodness). I start to count to 10 before she gets time out. As soon as she hears one, she knows. Sometimes she'll wait until I get to 8 to do anything to correct herself, but usually, she does. Otherwise it's time out. It hasn't made her stop her actions to begin with, so I need to work on that with her, but it has made it easier to control them once they start. I don't know if waiting 5 seconds between counting would work for my daughter since 5 seconds would give her enough time to completely forget that aI had even started counting... My dad told me once that he would always get a spanking while his brother would get grounded. He thought that was really unfair until he got older and realized that his parents understood he "got the message" more with a spanking while his brother, the more social of the two, really felt the "pain" from being grounded. While I don't promote spanking, I use this as an example of the need for different methods of discipline for different children. My dad would have preferred being grounded since he was usually cooped up in his room with a book anyway. I guess you just need to find the right button. Unfortunately, I still haven't figured it out for my 13 year old. Nothing has worked so far to motivate him to behave. Although, I could believe what everyone keeps telling me...that's it's just a stage...a very long stage... Good luck with your daughter. I would suggest ignoring the tantrums although you may need some ear plugs for awhile. And try the books suggestions. If it doesn't work out, at least you can say you tried it.

i was having the same problem with my son when he was 4, he was acting out in daycare. and his daycare provider actually advise that i take him to see outside help. His psychologist told me the same thing that it was a stage and he was looking for some attention and she too recommending that book. I tried it and after about a month I would get him to stop the behavior, but since then I took him out of that daycare and have in a private sitter and I also set aside time each night like a half hour before bed and after bath time that it is just me and him, either palying a game or reading books or coloring, and this has seem to stop his tanturms al together. Maybe your 2 year old is feeling liek she is getting attention she needs from you. You can try to set aside time each night where you are just interacting with just her and not with her and her sisters.

Ok I have the book and I have read it. It works. It worked for me very well. this was several years ago when they were about hhmmmm 4 5 or 6. I am often complemented on their behavior. Now they are 16 and 18. It was just the other day when they kept putting off their chores when I said "now do I have to start counting?" They were slightly humiliated at the thought of disciplining them like I had when they were younger. my 7 year old is just not starting to push her limits and I am starting with her just a little. The trick to this is you Have To Stick With It At All Times. No wishy washy or don't forget and start to fuss or whatever. Good luck.