should i talk to my husband??iam confused...
By swasti
@swasti (1157)
India
January 10, 2007 11:40am CST
my husband loves to travel and work around the globe. iam from india. i love to live in my country only. but my husband wants to travel not only cuz of his wish but also to earn money . iam happy with his earnings now and with it we can peacefully settle in the same city we live. now i have a baby boy also.so i dont want to leave to a new place. also i hate to be alone at home. it is very boaring. i have lots of friends and relatives around here in my city . so i dont get to feel boared and i visit them regularly and they too visit us regularly.
earlier i had gone and stayed abroad. but i hated that life full of loneliness. i had no known person except my husabnd who has long working hours.
is there any perosn like who lives in new places with no known people???
so iam confused. i dotn know wether to encourage my husband to go aborad and take up new projects which will uplift his career life or to tell him that i dont like to go aboraod and live with the job he has.
so our case, either he has to sacrifice or me....wat do i do??
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6 responses
@altair_dip (807)
• India
12 Jan 07
Hi Swasti,
i empthise with u ........ my hubby is always talking about moving to another country.. he was in Swizz when i was pregnant and i was just so unhappy about that... we need to strike a balance here as a career move going abroad makes sense.. and also the work hours are so much less there and the quality of life will be good.. u need toget urself involved so that u dont feel lonely.. and make a pact that u will comeback and settle in India after a certain period of time.. that will satisfy both ur requirments
@amazingguy (178)
• India
11 Jan 07
U r the part of life of ur husband. So, it is ur obligation to encourage and support ur husband in every stage. Ur world is now attached with him. So, u have to find all of ur happiness with him. I suggest u to go with him where he goes. If u feels alone, just imagine how ur husband is living without u abroad. Anyways, u have now baby boy u r not alone anymore. U just need to reduce the lonliness of ur husband. Get together as much as u can, u will find much enjoyment.
@swasti (1157)
• India
11 Jan 07
yeah i can understand wat u say. i too think the same. but iam mentally sick being alone in a new environment. also i faced a miserable depression during my pregnancy which i did not shrae much with my husband least he shoul not feel bad for me. i am confused if i should force myself to change or talk to him.actually the depression i faced was not a normal one it was terrible. in fact i think i need some medical help if it recurrs again.
@sogeeahouse123 (451)
• Nigeria
10 Jan 07
Communication is the greatest tool available in marriage,talk to him.
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@mcarps79 (1262)
• Uganda
11 Jan 07
Better is that you both compromise with each other.
I think better he go abroad alone leaving you here at the palce u hv so many friends and let them compete his project and come back to meet u ...can comes in between some days to meet u and u can always be in his touch throuhg internet, phone and so many things are available now a days...
I also suggest you to help him in his development, and u shud always encourage him coz wife is always backbone power behind success of husband as I think.
One more thing ...I want to suggest you that u can make hobbies liek to do meditations, watch good TV progrmas and reading good books and listening music,learning music and u can start a small type of work at home also...that will be far better than to depends on this i hv so many relatives and friends around.....I think u shud make ur habbits which will help ur husband....
As per me ur husband is right more than you....sorry to heart you.....
@swasti (1157)
• India
11 Jan 07
well actually after i became pregnant. i cam ebacl to india when i was 5 months pregnant and still he is abroad and iam hhere .he is returning to india after on completion of his prohject on feb. so all these days he was managing by himself abroad. i missed him too and he too had to face difficulty in cooking and eating . he hardly has time to cook and eat. so i dont want to be seperte again for long. if it was jus 2-3 months , it hink it is fine.
thats y eiether i feel i must force myself to change or talk to him.anyway i think i should not stop him from his development giving importance to my feelings alone.
@sunny5u (2069)
• India
13 Jan 07
Till now he worked going abroad na. Tell him very softly i can't stay there and now we are having baby also,please stay here and do the job here itself na.A man who is working can work any where in the world.Tell to work in your city.Request him.
