Raising adult children is harder than getting them to adulthood.

This is how i see it..im not a mother but i am someones child so my opinion should be valid. When your raising a child you guide them, tell them what to do, you make the majority of all their decisions when you raise them when they reach adult hood you pray to god that you did a good enough job to where they will make level headed choices in life...although you can not make their decisions for them, or punish them..you can still be there for them for guidance, moral support, and love..so no you never stop being their parent.

While I have not yet had children, I know that a parent can never stop being a parent. It is not something that one can turn on and off like a lightswitch *laugh* I think that it's wonderful that you still wish to give advice. I am certain that you help your children out all the time, no matter their age. There are always going to be things that you know more about, having been on this planet for longer than they have! We should always do our best to listen to our parent's advice! ^_^

Once a parent always a parent. One thing I have learned though is that unwanted advise can sometimes drive the person you are trying to help do the exact opposite. Several times I have had to bite my tongue to keep from giving unwanted advise. Even when I know it is good advise.

Right up until my children got married, I would always offer advice without being asked for it. Not that they heeded it, they still thought they knew what was best, but most times they have come back to me and said 'you were right, mum'. Now they are married, I will still manage to offer a bit of advise without sounding as though I am interferring. They know that I am just a phone call away and they can always depend me. Regardless of what anybody says, like you, I will always be their mum.

As an "adult child" I don't think the problem is with giving advice, but the fact that sometimes parents over-advise. Parents try to tell you every little thing like how to cook eggs right, or how to walk! Once a kid hits a certain age, there are things that simply don't matter so much so that you don't need to give advice. If your adult kid's eggs burn all the time, let them learn on their own. I know kids do appreciate their parents advice on BIG things in life, but there comes a point where they don't feel they need help on the simple things anymore.

It is hard, no, it is impossible to not worry about our grown children. You wouldnt be a good mother if you could turn your motherly instinct on and off at will. The problem is that they do have to learn themselves, as much as we hate it. They do have to learn just the way we did. They will learn and be stronger for it. Just know that you taught them and they will do the things you taught them. They just have to learn who they are and find their own way. Their choices are not a reflection on you as a parent and a good parent is always there, Always!

I know my mom is always there for me no matter how old I am. I know that she always says that when a married couple has problems it's best not to get into their buisness because it's their problems not anyone else's I know that's not what you asked but I just thought I'd mention it. I know I'll always be there for my daughter I think it's kinda sad how sometimes parents especailly when they are much older think they are not wanted by their kids because their children don't come to them as much as they used to. I hope my daughter will always come to me first and I hope I'll be the best mom she could ever have.

Once a mom always a mom, we can't turn it off and on. They just don't understand that we know better than they do, haha. If they would only listen to us, we wouldn't have to keep telling them over and over.

While i may listen to what my parents say, i still make the final decisions. My mum and i have very different opinions on things, and although i won't stop her making suggestions, in my head i'm rolling my eyes! Of course not everyone's child will be like that, but I think that some parents can't see the difference between 'being there' for their child, and trying to control them. I think it's great that you're still 100% supporting your children, it just shows you care..:)

What a relief to hear someone else say that! My grown boys are more trouble than my teenager, now what is wrong with that picture? We never stop being parents, I don't care how old they get, they are still our children. My boys expect to hear from me exactly what I think, and they do it respectfully no matter what choice they end up making. That little bit gives me hope for them yet...so many kids today (small, teen & adult children) lack respect, thus the fact that my boys will at least show respect is something. I think my teen will be okay, he seems to see the errors in his older brothers' ways. (fingers crossed)

mam remeber that he is after all ur child and how ever he grows he is not into the world begfore u were born u r experiance is not more than of him never get dippressed of him u can get involved int his life because he will be scared at some point of the time of the diffecultires he faceses in this world

You donot stop being their parent, you just advise them and let them make their own decisions. I don't think a responsible parent should see a child heading in the wrong direction and not advised them.

I agree with you. My children are still small, but I myself am an adult, and my mother is still a very big part of my life. She still gives me advice, helps me with advice with my children ect. She has the same out look. She will give me advice but it is up to me on if I take it or not. Sometimes i find that if I go my own way she was right. :)

yes it is right.You are still a parent,no matter they are adult.You shall always be a parent.However you would have to let them live their own choices which you must understand.Please advise them right and wrong and respect their judgement too.if you do so you will find that they are your best friends.

I sort of stay out of my adult kids lives unless they ask for help or advice. I've learned I'm better off not knowing too many details sometimes! LOL!! What is interesting is the kids ask for more advice now than they did when they were in their teens. We're still their parents and it's still our job to be parents. I don't think that ever goes away. Even when we're in our 80's and our kids in their 60's. They'll still be our kids!

Once my kids get to the adult stage and they will live their own lives and have to ask me for advice and help. I will get my chance to watch and just shake my head. Kind a like a bobble head..lol. They have to live and develop at their own rate and we cannot any longer interfere with them once they are adults. We hope that they will turn around and take heed of the advice we have given in the past. Good luck. Keep in touch with them and hope for the best!!

I believe that up until the child starts his/her own home, a parent has the right to offer advice and the "child" has the responsibility to at least listen, especially if the child still lives at home. I would hope that the relationship built throughout the years would foster a bond that would enable intelligent discussion, with each listening to the other and reasoning without accusation or ridicule. When the "child" marries and sets up his/her own home, I would hope that the child would still SEEK advice from the parent. I do not think the parent has the right to butt in or to criticise or to offer advice willy-nilly. Once again, if the communication lines have been operating successfully over the years, who better for a young person to turn to than his/her own parents? I agree that advice is advice: not a command, but from a parent to a child, it is usually based on concern and sound principles. A child with a wholesome family background with be rather foolish to ignore good advice from a loving parent.

Well its very ture indeed..raising adult chidren is very difficult as they've already grown into mature lifes and have their own likes and dislikes and a set frame of mind... While a child in younger years is like wet clay..you can mould him/her in your own way..An adult is obstinate.. I would advise you to get close to your children as a friend and not a parent..understand them. You must not be stern and strict at this stage..it will make matters worst..

Letting your children go is the hardest thing a parent can do. Do you know how many times I have heard that line! I resent it so much I had a hard time typing it LOL It's hard to watch them make mistakes that they don't have to make. I know that my husband and I have watched in horror as they go merrily along their way. And yes once or twice we were there to help pick up the pieces and point them back in the right direction. AND to our suprize that only works if THEY want it too. My own parents still give me advice...... and by golly I even ask for it at times!! My great grand mother was 98 and she was stil passing out advice to my mother. Parenting never stops. How can it!

They have their own decisions and majority affecting them is the environment