When to part with your kids clothes?

I agree--just because you are giving it to family does not guarantee you will get stuff back in wearable condition. My sister in law gave me a ton of stuff for my kids and they destroyed it all. Everything she gave me is stained and ripped. Luckily she didn't want any of it back and didn't care because it was amazing the stuff was wearable after her 3 boys went through it. Same with stuff my friend gave me. Most of it is ruined but she didn't want it back. If she had I probably wouldn't have let my kids wear it. When my cousin and his wife had their daughter in the late 80s my mom gave her most of my baby clothes on the condition that she got them back a year later. My mom never saw them again. My cousin's wife kept forgetting and putting it off and eventually they divorced and she sold all of my mom's stuff. These were important clothes to her and she realized her mistake. She gave away everything pretty much. So I would never give away anything that has sentimental value to me or that I really like and know I couldn't replace.

I can see your point. When I was pregnant with my second child, a girl and my first is a boy, my husband talked me into giving away ALL of my boy clothes that I had carefully packed away and saved. Two years later I got pregnant again with my second son and had nothing and had to rebuy everything except for the basic unisex clothing I had saved from his sister. We don't plan of having any more children, but I still have a box of clothes that I am not giving away to anyone for sentimental reasons.

I think that since her sister is only 3 months pregnant you should wait awhile before giving her any of your daughter's clothes. But I do think it would be a nice gesture to do that. You may want to keep a few outfits, in case you do have another baby, but I would not keep all of them. What if you had a boy? You would not want him to wear outfits that make him look like a girl.

Tell your girlfriend what you have in mind about the old clothes of your baby but don't tell that you don't like her sister. If you don't want to give the old clothes of your child to the sister of your girlfriend then you can ask your friends if they have old baby clothes and tell your friends if they can give you those clothes because you want to help someone in need of those clothes. That's it.

I too feel the same. I really love may daughters dresses, whether they are hand me downs or we personally bought it. Most of the hand me downs she got are from her cousin. I really don't like giving it up since I know how much my sister worked hard for it. We gave only a few things, the ones that we are not afraid of having stains,ruined, or worn out. Tell her how you feel, I know she will understand this.

When my son outgrows something it is time to get rid of it, no use wasting space on smoething that is not likly to get any use out of again.

Once it leaves your hand there is not guarentee you will get it back or be able to use it agian (stains, rips ect). I kept all the clothes from my 8 year old & used them 20 months later on her sister. My 5 week old will wear clothes from the older 2. I will still not get rid of them then because we will more than likely have another baby still. Then I think I will keep the clothes for when my girls have girls. I would not give away anything you would be upset if you did not get it back. I would also not give away everything in case you have another girl. The first time I started selling my oldest daughters dresses when I found out I was pregnant again.

They'd be staying within the family at least. You're right, I don't think you should give up all of the clothes. Maybe keep a few cute outfits or ones that are especially sentimental. No matter how careful you are, some clothes are too damaged to reuse for each child that they are handed down to.

i too have that same problem but as they say share... you will never know when your next baby will come and maybe by that time a new trend of baby clothes are in line but if you really love those that was worn by your baby keep those that you have bought as well as the ones that has been given to her tru gifts but the hand me downs just give it away anyway they are not that new right

If you don't feel good about loaning out all of the clothes, only let her sister use what you are okay with giving & only those that you don't care if they get ruined because they very well could once they leave your hands. I noticed that someone said that your keeping it in the family atleast--stains still happen & clothes get ruined. I have 5 sisters & one of them isn't very good about getting stains/food off of the shirts before they set in & when I finally had my little girl & got all of the clothes, most of them were ruined from food stains/ formula milk etc. So, I will not loan any clothes out to people especially the ones with sentimental value, because you are going to have more children & how nice will it be when you have another girl to have all of those clothes.. so, explain this to your girlfriend about how you feel & if you can come to an agreement about the clothes you'll let go and the clothes you'll keep!!