i need to report child endangerment!!!
@richietroupgirl (1)
United States
October 2, 2006 2:04pm CST
my situation is serious.
i have a close male friend, he had a daughter who's 12yrs old. he has been in and out of jail for years. he got out 3mos ago. and has his head on his shoulders, is changing his life in many ways. he has always had a relationship with his daughter- but has not been stable to financially care for her.
so she has lived with her mom. his wife.
they are seperated-but not legally. there still married.
anyways-
the wife is extremely depressed,she is a heavy heavy drinker-usually leads to daily physical abuse, mental abuse, poor nutrition, i am consearned for the daughters health and saftey.
the mother is additcted to many presciption pills. and takes them daily.
my friend is asking me to help him.
he doesn't know what to do or who to turn to!!!
i suggusted he call social services. what do you think?? please help me help the innocent children!!
8 responses
@bhchy1 (6047)
• United States
3 Oct 06
He needs to call...explain his concerns, explain his situation...lay all of his card on the table. CPS just doesn't take kids away from thir parents. Thye have "family home builder" programs where they help families become sl=elf sufficent so they can care for their children. CPS is not the enemy..they want to keep families connected if at all possible. It does mean he has to show them that his daaughter's elfare matters more to him than anayhting..get counseling...what ever they request..but it's to all invloved advantage...If he loves his kid that much he needs to do this..show her that there is a life outside of substance abuse..
@chihouse (213)
• United States
4 Oct 06
that one way to get it done. I don't suggest using them if you can fix the problem amoung family and friends, from personal experience they do take your kids, they do ruin your life and they do not do a proper investigation before hand, they don't apoligize and my siblings ( I was 15 at the time) had to go through therapy afterward. they based saving the kids on some "teachers" story about abuse in my home which wasn't true. she was a racist and used the system against us. and they let her. and seemed to applaud her for doing so.
@amberleef (480)
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2 Oct 06
surley the situation can't be that serious if you have the time to p**S ar*se around on mylot taking your time asking and then answering questions!!
What you should be doing is getting in contavt with the relevent authorities in these matters!
don't mean to sound harsh but it just seems a bit silly to be taking your time discussing this on a site that pays you as well to post questions in the first place!
oh well never mind at least your earning some money out of someones elses misery:(
@chihouse (213)
• United States
3 Oct 06
He should apply for sole custody of the child. the court will determine what he needs to prove in order to get custody.
if it's not too much, can the child live with you until her dad can get custody? you would feel really bad if in a depressional fit the mother hurt the child.
also look up custody laws, family law, and child protective rights for your state on the web that may help you get a base
@watsuuuup1 (87)
• Australia
3 Oct 06
well i dont know the laws in the u.s but the father needs too do something seriously here in australia if a parent rung welfare they would see it as a domestic and not act (sad isnt it) but the father should be helped by friends and the family too get her in his care asap pills and alchohol cant be a good mix i have seen some ppl on pills and they are not fit enough too look after themselves HELP THE FATHER GET THE CHILD
@mzamorano (34)
• United States
3 Oct 06
Well if the daughter sees this daily abuse, she is old enough to chose to stay with her dad, if daddy can talk to her, he can get help from the state....if he needs any assistance in any way......he also needs to try and get help for his ex wife, if she refuses then there is nothing he can do for the ex wife, but he needs to save his daughter before its too late ......
@DRoddy77 (1776)
• United States
2 Oct 06
Has he tried talkin to the mom about it and asked her to get help? Does he have any other family members that could take his daughter in while he gets on his feet? He definitely needs to figure out something to get his daughter out of there! If he cant take care of her right now then he needs to find someone else who can until he is able to! The bad thing is, the courts will look down at him if he has been in and out of jail. My husband used to be in and out of trouble a lot. He has a 9 year old daughter that he doesnt get to see, and that is mostly because the courts remember his past, even though he is a completely changed man now. The mom refuses to let him see his daughter as a way to get back at him but the courts wont help him at all.
@Smclin1 (324)
• United States
2 Oct 06
Yes, call DHR right away.There is no need to wait and see what happens when it comes to a child.This ticks me off that people who really endnger a child gets away with it and yet folks who take good care but just may not be as neat as others gets DHR up thier butt daily.This is serious and someone needs notified for the sake of the child, who cares who gets mad.
I would call myself!
