Should I file For Divorce?
By BlueBell101
@BlueBell101 (192)
Canada
January 10, 2007 10:40pm CST
I have been fighting to keep my marriage alive for the past 3 years, we have been married for 10 years and the straw that broke that camels back happened this weekend. My husband is claiming he is is a mid life crisis (he is only 39) and quick his job, be also cleaned out our saving and took off for a trip to Las Vegas. I have called the police to find out what can be done but they said it was a joint account and he had a right to do it. I have closed our chequing account, canceled our visa and called my lawyer. Now I am sitting here wondering if I should file for divorce. I have tried not to burden him with my illness and have even hired help for me around the house and it seemed to have helped. However, I have discovered he has been gambling and drinking. I need some help in this, I can't do this along......I am afraid if I do this I may regret it or he may make me pay for my decision. What should I do?
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5 responses
@Island_Geko (3759)
• Canada
11 Jan 07
hun, how is his mood towards you? Is he treating you differently? If you are scare and if you are sure he will harm you leave...It is hard to see your marriage crumble, but you have to think about yourself and if it mean starting fresh by going through a divorce then so be, take care of yourself.
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@BlueBell101 (192)
• Canada
12 Jan 07
He is like a bear right now and we are not talking....he has just come back from Las Vegas (Wednes AM) and he looks cold in his eyes...He will never touch me I know that but he will just yell and I can't handle that. I have moved my animals to my shop and I have just want no discration around.
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@Island_Geko (3759)
• Canada
12 Jan 07
Hun you are in fear, just your action and words put it....get out and do it now. It is the best thig for you...get your friend support around you and go. There if place that will help you in your situation. Yelling is a form of abuse and you in your health don't need it. This site will help you http://www.phac-aspc.gc.ca/ncfv-cnivf/familyviolence/html/femdisab_e.html
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@sharone74 (4837)
• United States
12 Jan 07
Get the divorce or get into counceling you and he. You can't live with the instability osf his going on these jaunts and spending all of the household monies when they are needed to pay bills. You need to sever yourself legally from him and any bills that he may be racking up. Loosing money once is one thing, letting him ruin you and your credit and/or getting you eveicted from where you live is not worth it.
@BlueBell101 (192)
• Canada
13 Jan 07
Thanks, me and him would not work in councelling since we can not even talk in the same room. thanks for the post.
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
11 Jan 07
oh you poor thing, I think I would be getting out, it is strange he should do this maybe he has had some sort of breakdown, which can happen, I hope you can come to the right thing to do, you must think of yourself,,,,you are NO1...put your own needs first...
@BlueBell101 (192)
• Canada
12 Jan 07
It is had to think of oneself when you have work so hard to be a couple. I have made a few "escape plan" for the type of a day but when should I start.
@kathy77 (7486)
• Australia
12 Jan 07
Oh my goodness i think your husband doesn't know what a mid life crisis is as he is only young at 39. Oh yes after reading your discussion here if I was you I would file for a divorce as this is dreadful what your husband has done and it is not that you have only been married a short time but for awhile. Well you cannot keep living like this so I wish you all the best in whatever you decide.
@BlueBell101 (192)
• Canada
13 Jan 07
All I know is he took off and did not tell me. I had to find out from my bank and that was quite embarassing. So I think I have done the right thing and filed for the divorce.
@joan_hazle (127)
• India
11 Jan 07
If u think the divorce can solve ur prolems then go ahead and file it. Why did ur husband run away from all the problems??
If the divorce can make u and ur husband happier individuals then file a divorce.
@BlueBell101 (192)
• Canada
12 Jan 07
I am not sure Joan, he said it was a mid-life crisis. I think he just got tire of being with a disabled woman.
