When the friend of your partner makes passes at you...

My mans brother made inappropriate comments to me before, I was very upset and felt like I was in a odd situation. I told my partner, communication is the key to success in any relationship, he handeled the situation. He still get along good with his brother; his brother just needed to know that he over-stepped his boundary. I wish you the best of luck in handeling this situation. I really think you should tell your partner. The only problem you may experience is he may not believe you, because they are best friends. I tell my partner everything, it makes it easier I don't have to remember any lies that way.

if you get down to the nitty gritty of this situation, it is a very tough one....on the one hand id talk to the friend and say that its not acceptable and not worth losing a friendship over but if it continues you will tell your partner. the downside of this is they may get so angry or upset and start making up crap about you to your partner that it was you who was making passes etc or anything... on the other hand if you told your partner first, a possibly good friendship may be ruined from it and they may or may not believe you or the friend.... it is a tough one...i think i would talk to the friend first and hope they stop...but if i saw anger when talking to the person id tell my partner straight away before they can do any damage.

I had this happen to me, I told the guy that it wasn't appropriate and I didn't appreciate his attention. I then told him not to continue or I would tell my boyfriend. It ended, and I never did say anything. Their friendship did cool a bit, and he stopped hanging around so much, he was probably scared I would tell.

I think before letting my wife to know about it I would rather delicately but yet firmly ask her(my wife's best friend) not to screw up her friendship with my wife and there is no reason for her to feel dejected or humiliated, such things do happen out of intimacy.And I will let my wife know about it and request her not make issue about it and humiliate her best friend

i ll surely tell my partner....in such situations itz better to tell the partner rather than handling it by ourselves...i havn't had such experience yet....

first i'll warn him not to do like that,because there's a proverb "prevention is better than then cure... so we should not be the cause for that...

Friends are always partner in life .Friendship is the best relation inlife time. Any bad situation friends are helped at a time.

If my partners best friend made a pass at me i would tell him that is not acceptable and tell the friend how i feel.I will also tell my partner what happened because the friend should have respect for his friend that just isnt right.

better is tell to the partner. if you i know this issue from other one then he/she will disapoint.

at first i would talk to my partner's friend to forget about it, i would tell him that i have no intention of messing up with my partner's friend. if he become insistent then i guess i have to tell my partner.

Anyone's answer would of course depend on all the specifics of the situation. If it was a new friend, I would tell my parter right away, without talking to the friend about it. However, if it was a long time friend, I would go to the friend first and make sure they know what they are trying to do is inappropriate. I would give the friend the opportunity to reflect upon the situation and ask them what their choice is. Then I would let my partner know about the conversation and how it went. That way, if the friend did apologize and admit it was a lapse in judgement, you can share that with your partner and possibly save the friendship. They will obviously have some things to talk about, but everyone makes mistakes, right? Did the friend hit on you while sober or drunk? That makes a difference too. If they had been drinking, they could just have been feeling jealous of you and your partner's relationship. Hope it all works out for you.

I'd confront the person who was making the advances first of all and explain that it's not appropriate because you are are already in a relationship with their best friend. If they didn't back down then I would tell my partner.

This happened to me before & when I told my ex, he accused me of being paranoid. He said that he was african and people are very friendly there. Which is a nice excuse, but I know being friendly doesn't mean that at all. But he (the ex)didn't even listen to what happened. I was washing dishes, my ex was in the shower, and reggae was playing on the radio...his friend just comes over and starts dancing behind me as if he imagined i was moving too. I told him excuse me & went to the shower to ask my ex, what the hell is wrong with his friend. But like I said, he shot me down so quick defending his friend. I felt like a jerk for opening my mouth at all.

I will tell the same to my spouse and will let him handle him or the situation.

I went threw this when i was working.and they were both close friends..and I told him..that he was bad,and that to never do that again..or I would tell her what he did..and yes i told him it was totally unacceptable..and he never did it again..but i found out later that he had been cheating on her for awhile and she finally caught him..I felt aweful i didnt tell her what he did to be..but i was also afraid she would somehow get mad at me like it was my fault..yeaa...I have been down THAT ROAD AS WELL!!!rgghh..ya just cant win!!

I'd tell them though I am flattered by their attention, my friendship with their other half means too much to me to jeopordize it. If it continued I'd get some proof and tell my friend. He/she doesn't need that sort of treatment.

I have never been into such situation.

hmmmnn... not a bad idea! i just have to taste him. lolz. well, if i like the man why not? it's just a one-night stand. what's wrong with that? men always do that against women. so why can't we?

This is pretty tough.I think i would tell my hubby as soon as possible.I would not even wait to negotiate the situation with my hubby's friend, he might get the impression that am somwhat interested.I would make sure that he gets my NO to really mean NO.Keeping such a situation from my partner would give his friend to keep making more advances,its unacceptable. I think communication is very important so this would be in his ears in no time.

id tel my partner cause it could backfire and he might tell your other you made the pass. then what