Are you honest in your dealings in the virtual world?
By achyuta
@achyuta (2851)
United States
January 11, 2007 1:24am CST
It's hard for me to lie uselessly. sometimes i think may be it's ok to lie coz it helps to hide your true identity and personal information (just like privacy). But then I wonder, what if those people I talk to through net will found out that i am such a liar? then there will come a day that they wont believe me anymore? well, it's hard for me to decide whether i will lie or not. what do you think? what about you? do you also lie to the people on the net?
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18 responses
@im_theboss (384)
• India
1 Feb 07
i always try to be as honest as possible. but if situation is outta control, im sorry. i use my brain more than my heart. i dont say im a mean guy, but i always search for the best action n then work.
@sibsundar (77)
• India
1 Feb 07
This is a very good topic to discuss,,,,,, yaar... i hardly tell lies...My soul doesnt allow me to tell lies... But, i feel that we can lie on occasions where we feel that it is not going to hurt anybody anyway,,instead it will hold fruitful in some situations...
But , i think it is always better to refrain from telling lies.....
I hate ppl who tell lies.....coz i feel that the ppl i talk to (specially friends) belives me and have faith on me....
I dont care for ppl who are not dear to me....hence it is not applicale to those ppl....
@magikrose (5429)
• United States
12 Jan 07
I dont have any reason to lie to any one. If someone asks me something and I dont want to reveal that kind of info I will comeright out and say that, that info is private or I dont want to reveal it right now. For the most part I am a very honest up-front person and always have been.
@anja31 (708)
• Canada
12 Jan 07
i would be honest also. somethimes I lie also. Me husband and me we have a big secret, nobody nows it. Somethimes we have to lie. It depends what kind of lie it is. If it is really a big lie that is not a good thing.
@phon4u (2215)
• Laos
12 Jan 07
I like to keep to say honest things; I can't lie; if I lied, I would not success in meditating as soon as possible. I will feel a shame if my friends find out that I am a bit liar. Even though, when I am online, I like to show up my reality info. But I don't like the people who was the liar, or use my info for his own goal. I am not afraid to give my info; even the bank account.
@faustinodioso (155)
• Philippines
12 Jan 07
If we talk about honesty is the best policy,a word of privacy and alliby sometimes is usefull,to block a scam who try to get your time and attention.But if in terms of serious message and personal information I deal honestly.
@usman400 (1587)
• Pakistan
12 Jan 07
You are right, majority of the ppl connected with this virtual world like to lie almost every where in it. e.g. males setting female profiles to get traffic to them, females acting as if they are males and so on ... however the best thing not to be decieved is to speak truth and beleive whatever the other person says, I do that and I have been never cheated in my online carrier, reason is simple, I beleive ppl, and put a thing for every one in back of my mind that it may be not true what he/she says, so this helps me not to ge cheated
@20021985 (109)
• India
12 Jan 07
I think you should not lie but be bold enough to tell on face that see this something i dont wanna tell you right now...may be i can tell you over some time if at all you want to...later or just say sorry but i wannt to maintain privacy. It can be put up in soft words
@aryaman (245)
• India
12 Jan 07
I agree with u that on net people have more tendency to lie. It may be due to many reasons. One of the most tempting reason to lie on net is that no body will come to know the truth. I also tend to lie sometimes on net. Its not because i want to lie its just the people who will be accessing the information will be out of my control. On net anyone can access my personal information and so sometimes its better to give wrong information rather than disclosing the correct information.
@nobodyspecial (1011)
• United States
12 Jan 07
One of the attractions of online communications, with old friends, new friends and friends yet to be is the security of anonymity the venue offers.
It is assumed the ID chosen reflects in some small part you as you wish to be known, rather the person everyone knows you as...you can be lighter of heart in such situations, more serious, even portray yourself as more knowledgeable about subjects if you take the time to do a bit of research to support a position or response opinion.
I don't consider any of the above lieing...more a presentation of that part of yourself you don't often allow to show...
As for inquiries as to location, one could respond with a country or area...Northeast, Midwest etc...inquiries about marital status, number of children, etc, if one is not comfortable revealing any of these things, simply decline to answer.
I often respond with information I have learned or gained through either my own experience, or the experience of someone I know...I would never state another's name or location, and I always skirt the reasons the experiences occur for the sake of the trust others have placed in me...yet allowing of the lessons to be shared with those who may benefit from them.
Making up stories isn't a good plan in any community...unless one states that the tale is imaginary or hypothetical upfront and clearly.
Online or off...telling tales means one has to remember so much more than they would if they simply told the truth...I for one don't have that good a memory.
@acosjo (1903)
• Canada
11 Jan 07
In myLot I don't think I would lie or make stuff up. I think it would be too much to try and make up false stories or responses to yourself. My friend once said people are very honest when it comes to chat rooms. I'm sure there are the handful that do lie and make up stories but I believe most people are honest. Really, what is going to happen. I'm pretty sure I'll never ever meet anyone in person from here or someone here will move to my city. It's possible, but highly doubtful.
@arlerambabu (1079)
• India
11 Jan 07
No need to lie come what may.It needs courage to tell naked truth even it jeopardises your existence. Don't conclude that I'm delivering sermons.It is not out of context to quote an incident that happened a few hours ago. One of my colleague was fired. Being a senior copy writer my Boss takes me into confidence and discusses official and non official matters with me.My boss said about the firing incident that took place before my arrival. I was shocked,for the man who was fired is blemish less and honest The reason for firing of my colleague according to my Boss was that he behaved very rudely with one of our clients.I asked my Boss "did you give a chance to hear the fired employee".The boss answered in negative. Then I said,"you 've committed a blunder firing him without giving him a chance.Do you punish your children just on the complaint of a neighbour? You know more about your children than anyone else. You assure your neighbour that you will look into the matter and try to know the actual cause of his misbehavior. You took a hasty decision".I got up from my seat and turned towards my work table.
Had I wanted I would have lied with my Boss lending all the support to his mean action. Achyuta,My conscience didn't permit me to toe my Boss's action. After this incident,Ielt light and happy. How may Dollars you need to get such feeling?Because I've offended my Boss's decision would have made me sleepless. Never for a moment the thought entered into my mind. Be brave.Don't be a hypocrite. Have a sigh of relief and a nice sleep,