Do you feel lonely, even though you are with other people?
By naughtysexy
@naughtysexy (110)
India
January 11, 2007 3:52am CST
I feel lonely even though i am with others, like friends, parents, family, etc. Even though i am surrounded by many people, i dont feel close to them, and therefore feel very lonely! Have you ever felt lonely even though you are with relatives, friends, etc? It often happens that i am physically present but mentally absent! I am in my own world, and feel lonely. Do you experience the same as i do, and do you think that this is normal? Why does this happen?
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@ESKARENA1 (18261)
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11 Jan 07
i am lucky now i have my wife and children and that inner lonlyness i felt for so many years is now just a memory. For years i was always lonely and got to its worst in a crowd of people. I think it happens when we do not have a soul mate, the lonlyness is almost spiritual in that unless you have someone in your life that you connect with you will always feel something is missing.
I think it is normal and probably shows that you are a deep thinking person not satisfied with the facsile cosmetics of life. When you find it, the lonliness fades away even when you are alone
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@missaerts (6)
• Canada
12 Jan 07
i totally get what you mean. I'm constantly swarmed by people and i don't really have anybody around me who hates me, but i always feel lonely. I think, for me, this is because i'm cool with everyone, but i don't have any best friends or really close people that i trust and can share my personal thoughts with. Everyone i've ever tried to be really close with has ended up stabbing me in the back, or not being thhere when i need them the most :( which sux
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@dradelelassy (1208)
• United States
11 Jan 07
it happens to me a lot
it happens may be your interests are different from your company
might be due to your mind is thinking of something different from current company
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@UcoksBaBa (800)
• Indonesia
11 Jan 07
I had not felt that, and for me that was normal, only you were too excessevie according to me, tried you more the focus in something and paid correctly attention to your surrounding situation and entered with them should not you went personally, because something that the arrival from yourself.
@cheenlly (3476)
• Philippines
12 Jan 07
I think that is called emptiness. You need to fill that up. You still feel there's a missing part that you really dont know and that makes you lonely. I could also that emptiness and what is lacking is the LOVE. If you found someone that you feel the love and care, i think that inner loneliness will be gone and it will replace it by happiness.
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@Tanushree4444 (1275)
• India
11 Jan 07
yes sometimes i do feel lonely even if there are people around me. i don't feel interested to talk to them nor to listen to them. i feel bored and left alone. i remain lost in my own world of imagination. i feel sad for nothing.
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@mrsjumppuppy03 (3301)
• United States
11 Jan 07
Yes, I have had this occur in my life. It is an occassional depression that I go through. Then you sit and wonder why, since you are surrounded by 50 people and still feel isolated and all alone. When this occurs, I take some St. John's Wort to fend off the depression that I am feeling. I don't feel that my depression is severe enough to be medicated by a doctor. When you feel this way, give the St. Johns a try, let me know if it helps.
@patgalca (18394)
• Orangeville, Ontario
11 Jan 07
I feel lonely when I am with others because I have always felt like I don't fit in. As a child and teenager I became a third wheel. I would be friends with a girl, then another girl would become friends with us and the next thing I know, those two are best friends and I'm feeling like an outsider. I felt the same way in my family. My siblings and I are all spread out in age so I pretty much grew up alone. I never had anything in common with them and always felt like a wall flower at family gatherings.
To this day I find it hard in group situations. One-on-one is not so bad, but even with my husband with me at a party I feel left out because I don't drink and socialize like he does.
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@jackslaiter (371)
• India
11 Jan 07
I feel that if you are feeling loneliness and want to relieve yourself then you may need to take some actions to create a change. I think the first step of liking yourself is alraedy taken by you. 1)Work on liking yourself...if you don't like yourself, its hard to feel that others will like you. This often makes it difficult to reach out to others. So your quote on your profile seems to be doing the job. "im sexy and hot...." good work...i hope you really feel that way.
2)Plan Ahead. ...If you feel lonely much of the time, it may be because you don't enjoy spending time alone. Fill the time with pleasant and interesting activities.
Now the most important one
3)Strengthen your connections with family members......however due to family issues and lack of time and attention, these relationships may be distant oe non existent.Renewing and strenghthening these connections if it feels right to you to do so, can enhance and enrich your life
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@morsefaria (122)
• India
14 Jan 07
Its quite possible specially at ur age. You are in your teens and that is the time when we find it difficult to balance life between family and friends. Then again,its the time when a person is going transition not only physically but also socially and mentally wherein one is trying to create and identity and identifying its abitions and passion. Many a times it so happens that one is influenced by views which are quite different from your present society which cause one to alienate from the immediate society.Thats the time one feels the same emotions as you are feeling.I guess with time you will realise what you will want from life and thats the time,even if you ae physically lonely will fill the presence of others in your life.
@tessie (50)
• Nigeria
12 Jan 07
Yes i do feel lonely sometimes even when am with people. And sometimes i can't explain the reason for my loneliness.
@Piratesware (2888)
• Indonesia
12 Jan 07
yes...well it's call mature I think, hwn time i has problemm .. I always want alone, even friend,family,my bf in side .. maybe i has find my maniac hoby get surf to net
@mgr1987 (689)
• India
12 Jan 07
i too had the same problem that you were mentioning about.but i'm slowly recovering from it as i attended a seminar on meditation.what they asked me to do was simple and it was miraclous.they said"try to keep your mind in the present.failing it to do is the reason for all mental diorder".you too try it if you're interested in it.all the best.
@sampathlucky (20)
• India
12 Jan 07
ya i do feel sometimes
n hope this happens because you dont want to b with people around u n want to be with someone else
or wen ur mood is completely off
@Deane_2005 (1644)
• Philippines
12 Jan 07
It's a case to case basis for me , sometimes when I need sometime alone I don't hang out with friends coz probably I will just feel like an alien in a very familiar people who are my friends. It usually happens when I am having some problems or if am at stress. I don't have any clue on whats going on in my surroundings and my mind are on something else.