If you found your friend is a gay or lesbian, what would you do?

you just need to remember that he is the same person that he was before you found out he was gay. Nothing about him has changed except for his ability to open up to you about his life. I think this is a good thing. It shows that he feels secure in his friendship with you and feels close enough to you to let you in on his life.

I have yet to have a friend that is gay or lesbian. Honestly this is always difficult to talk about. As for what I'm feeling to say to this, .... I think if the two of you are friends already... why was it difficult to mention this to your friends? Is your gay or lesbian friend truly a friend? What I mean is, is he/she truly comfortable with your sexuality... in other words how much of a friend would they have to be to tell you the truth, as to who they are. I do understand what bigotry is. I do know what its like to be judged for who I am. Would I still be a friend? As long as they understand and respect my sexuality. Being honest will always be difficult to express when we are hiding from who we truly are as human beings. When the almighty created us, "he/she" made us to be perfect through their own perception ("he/she"=GOD). GOD's perception of us is that we are perfect human beings with flaws. What makes us perfect is our ability to be honest!

I will do the same of you. That's his choice for his life, and it up to him as long he didnot disturb me. I don't like invole to other people bussiness, so I let him.

I will too keep it a secret

i would accept him for it. what to do with his life is totally up to him, if others cannot accept it, that their problem, if my friend is happy with his decision i will support him.

when i found one of my friends was a lesbian, I was shocked right there, because she doesnt look one at all, compared to me she dressed more feminine clothes than i am, but then again, i have to explain to her that nothing will change from our friendship, what is important to me is the real person, her honesty and her caring ways. After all, its not her fault, ti could environmental, or genetic, or other ways, she is a likeable person.

That is a matter of choice of a person and all my friends are very independent and head strong, it does not make difference in me if anyone of them is gay.

I have a few gay friends who I get on with very well. They are no different to any of my other friends. They respect me as being straight as I do them being gay. I sometimes find them very helpful as They do tend to look at any problems which I need to chat about from a different view point. I dont know why in this day and age some people still have a problem with others being gay?

Well if I found this out I will tell them " Hey, I thought we were friends..Why didn't you tell me?..I would have understand..." then I will give him or her a big hug..:)

To me you say wise words, gays are human beings as all the other human beings, if they behave well, everything is ok, if they behave badly they behave in a blameable way. What would I do if your situation came to me? Nothing. Absolutely. Nothing changes in my relationship with her/him. The most important thing is the respect. When there is respect everybody can be what he/she wants.

Actually I could understand the level of stigmatism that there is. You have to remember that when making new friends or having any sort of relationship, when you choose to not tell anyone what's going on in your head, you are left to hold back from telling the truth. I'm not saying that you have too be absolutely honest. Look at it this way, when going through whatever is on your mind, and knowing nobody can read your mind. It would be nice for him/her to show that they could be honest. Each everyday that I could remember I have personally something that I was afraid would isolate me from the rest of society, and unfortunately it has but luckily I've been able to except that people who know whom they are.. are targets too! I had gone through nasty rumours that nearly took over my life, they followed me for a long time. All because I happen to have a good heart and refused to be friends with a cold, and greedy person. Who's saw me and my artistic talent that they were simply jealous of who I am. They preceeded in manipulating people in three different cities (500,000 people) telling them that I was something of a liar and could be trusted which I am not, simply because this person wanted to manage my career, and I said no to that! Now I didn't mean to go off topic but, as far as not being excepted for who I am and not what I aspire to do. Shouldn't give anyone an excuse to be a friend with me. Sure there are lots of people who think and react through fear, people are afraid of what they do not know. When a friend of mine eventually "comes out" after befriending me. I will tell them that they should have considered giving me a choice whether to continue being friends with them or not. Each and everyone of us has gone through some form of diversity.

One of my best friends is like yours, he does not hide his nature, but he is the most loving and careing person i have ever met, we are all normal no matter how we are or the way we are, you have a good friendship with this person, so it should stay as it is

Having a friend like them doesnt really matter to me as long as the friendship is true,with respect and trust i dont see any problem with it.I believe they are the type of friends that is much better than our ordinary friends coz you can have both girl and boy friend at the same time.We should treat them as we are too coz they are still humans and they have the right to have friends too.Let us not judge them with whom they are but instead lets make them feel that they can also be loved by people around them.

It doesn't matter to me...but I have a friend before he is gay...we were close to each other. I tell him some of my secrets, but his family decided to move to another place which is very far from ours...After 5 years our paths crossed and to my shock he's no longer gay. He has this admirable body and a good looking face...I was a bit ashamed remebering the days before and the secrets that I have told him...but he whispers it's still a secret.